Rap Son

Hi and welcome to the forum.
As I don't have children, I really don't have any advice. But, my parents have been in foster care for the past 11+ years and have dealt with the music issue. They take special caution of the ones that have issues with anger, bipolar, etc. For me personally, I can't listen to rap for it sets off a manic episode and makes things worse. My parents monitor the music and lyrics closely. If it's not fit, they get rid of it. They only allow music that don't speak of violence, suicide, or any other negativity that can heighten the issues the kids already have.
But, if you can't get him away from the rap music, perhaps Christian-rap would give him a more positive attitude.
I know it's got to be a really tough situation to be in. I, as a poet, express my feelings through poetry. Therefore I write in all aspects and my dark poetry is VERY dark, my spiritual poetry is VERY spiritual, etc. For me, it is a coping skill. One of my best one's to be exact. It seems to me that he may be writing his feelings through song. Which is a way of getting the feelings out and "off one's chest" so to speak.
I do recommend showing it to his therapist. My therapists have always told me to share my poetry and journals with them so they can get a better understanding of things.
My prayers are with you and your family,

s and es!!

Many of the things you have shared are very similar to my family. My son now 22, and my dtr soon to be twenty(in one week) My dtr is studying to be Missionary pilot in Alaska. My son made a profession of faith as a young child, but I can still remember the year his delightful smile died and something changed in him. He showed signs of his bipolar quite young, but in those teen years it took him quickly into rages and places a mother fears. He began drinking, smoking, cussing, sleeping around and basically quit doing school work around age 16 (we homeschooled with electives at the local high school) He also got into dressing like a Goth and music that would make a mother cry. There were many difficult times during those years. They reach an age it is so hard to fight for them and not with them. . .and there is so little you can really do to control them, and the more you try, the more they step over the boundaries. He was in and out of the home a couple of times in those last years and he was out of the home right before going to college (He sat for his GED's, passed them with honors). At that time we knew everytime he let home he quit taking his meds and that he would do that at school and we would be stuck having cosigned his loan, so we told him we could not cosign his loan. God intervened and gave him a four year scholarship that would have allowed him to graduate (would have been this next spring) from the top computer animation school in the world and go straight to work at places like Pixar and Disney, etc owing less than $5000. He stopped his meds and flunked out the first year. He returned home that summer, we chose to put him in an apt as he was off meds for 30 days and give him time to find a job. He never did. He returned to room with his school buddies, but not to school and did find a job which he worked for the school year. A week before his buddies moved home for the summer, his co-worker was an idiot and my son slapped him and was arrested fro assault. He couched surfed with a girl for a month and then asked us to come and get him. We did and this summer has been a wonderful summer and a difficult one as well. My son has learned many lessons the hard way. His music tastes have settled down, he still walks far from the Lord. He drinks to get drunk, and would sleep with a girlfriend if he had one. But my son and I have had some wonderful conversations this summer. He knows our faith, he knows the truth whether he wants to admit it or not. But he also knows like God WE LOVE HIM irregardless of his choices and he also knows we have behavior limits. I would say through this all we have continued to forge a good and strong relationship. One that is based on love and respect and allowing him to be himself. I can no longer control his choices, much as God does not control our choices, but gives us free will. But I can still proclaim truth with love; still love and support and not enable; and I can besiege my God to reach into my son's live and make Himself apparent and bind the enemy's influence.


May God grant you wisdom and help to find an accurate diagnosis and treatment for your son! May God the Holy Spirit comfort you as you parent this very special child of His!

Feel free to pm me anytime. Hugs and Prayers!

Father, please speak to her heart on my behalf, as you know the word that elude me... I ask that you lift this family close to your heart, adn guide them lovingly in your care. Please Father, be their comfort, and allow them wisdom to reaize what you need for them to see and hear! In your son's precious name I ask you my Father, Amen!

bipolarbear said:

Father, please speak to her heart on my behalf, as you know the word that elude me... I ask that you lift this family close to your heart, adn guide them lovingly in your care. Please Father, be their comfort, and allow them wisdom to reaize what you need for them to see and hear! In your son's precious name I ask you my Father, Amen!

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I join in that prayer asking God to provide you wisdom and provide for all your needs!!!

I don't know the boy really. There is good rap out there, such a sPublic Enemy, Arrested Development, and Disposable Heroes of Hiphoprisy. They show that rap music can be meaningful and intelligent and in opposition to the misogynism that seems to be infused in hip hop.

I do think he needs counselling though.

Your girl...from what I have seen girls don't just suddeny want to dance in "gentlemen's" clubs. Girls end up at those places because their lives of pain and abuse have landed them there.

Sorry I don't ahve more to offer.

Pray.