Random turn-ons

[Soccerbeth]

Hi...I'm 25 and I struggle a lot with same-sex attraction. I have noticed lately a few times where I have become extremely turned on after I have accidentally flashed someone or been somehow exposed. A couple examples:

• I was sitting on the floor in a bookstore one day and a girl who worked there let me know that my panties were peeking out of my pants.
• Being in the locker room at the gym
• I was undressed in a dressing room at Kohl's and someone accidentally walked in on me.

In each of these cases, and others similar to them, I did get a bit embarrassed but I also got extremely turned on, to the point of self-stimulation. And it is usually all b/c of knowing another woman has seen me exposed.

I don't know what to do about this. It's not like I go around exposing myself purposely....although with how much I have enjoyed it, the thought has crossed my mind. I soooooo don't want to go down that path. I just don't know what to do about it. Does/has anyone else struggle with this?

 

[Guy Incognito]

I don't struggle with this same exact thing, but before I met my wife I was hardcore struggling with porn.

All I can do is encourage you to seek the Lord in this, try to be mindful on what will cause you to stumble and battle it (for me it was installing filters and not being in relationships/friendships with people who wouldn't help me be pure(not putting responsibility on them, just saying)/where it could go down that road). For you it might mean not changing in the locker room, or as much as it sucks being more picky about what you wear to lessen the chance of exposure.

I hope this is helpful, and I'll be praying for you

 

[saris]

Seems like you have voyeuristic tendencies. Nothing really wrong with that as long as you're not exposing yourself to unsuspecting people on purpose etc.

Also, fantasy is not the same thing as reality. A lot of people have fantasies that they enjoy in their private moments but would never act out on them in real life. So, doesn't mean you're a Lesbian either.

 

[Johnnz]

It is possible you are a highly sexual person and respond very easily to sexual stimuli?

John
NZ

 

[Soccerbeth]

Seems like you have voyeuristic tendencies. Nothing really wrong with that as long as you're not exposing yourself to unsuspecting people on purpose etc.

Also, fantasy is not the same thing as reality. A lot of people have fantasies that they enjoy in their private moments but would never act out on them in real life. So, doesn't mean you're a Lesbian either.

I suppose there is a lot of truth in this response. I have realized that I not only enjoy being seen, but I also enjoy seeing. Unfortunatley, this is an example of fantasy also becoming reality, though not a reality I necessarily wanted. Not one I try hard to avoid, but not one I try to see either.

It is possible you are a highly sexual person and respond very easily to sexual stimuli?

John
NZ

I think this would be likely true of most of humanity. We are all sexual people and respond to sexual stimuli, just some much more easily than others.

 

[Guy Incognito]

Hope things are improving

 

[Soccerbeth]

Thanks for the replies. Things improved for a little while after I posted. but last week, I went for a bra fitting. Things had improved to the point that I thought I'd be able to handle it fine. Unfortunately, I was wearing a dress that day (the fitting was a bit unplanned, but I was near the shop and figured I would save the time and go). Anyway, at this particular shop, she likes to measure a lady without a shirt or bra on....and since I was wearing a dress, that meant that I essentially got measured in nothing but my panties. Unfortunatley, this was not a good thing as it triggered me, severely, and I have been dealing with temptations, fantasies, and failings for the past week now.

 

[Johnnz]

That is not just going to suddenly stop if you are very easily activated sexually. <staff edit> Guilt comes far too easily and for someone not wanting do be immoral, needlessly.

John
NZ

 

[OK Jeff]

While I don't deal with this specific temptation, I have certain triggers. And I certainly understand how these triggers then begin to consume the mind for a while. I struggle with that as well. I've learned to recognize most triggers and avoid them (as much as I can). But the enemy is pretty good at knowing our weaknesses and striking where it's most effective.

 

[Guy Incognito]

Sorry to hear that, will be praying.

 

[writewords]

Get a Bible app on your phone and when stimulation, temptation comes, bring up verses..