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Tinkerbell33 · Apr 27, 2007

Hi,
this is for those who have fallen iin love,

When did you first fall in love?

and how did you know it was love?

fritz300 · Apr 27, 2007

Well personally in my experience it just happened.

I didn't want ANYTHING to do with it. I prayed against it, I asked the Lord not to let me have a crush and not let anything happen at all but it seemed no matter what happened and no matter how much we tried to fight it we felt like the Lord was giving us feelings for each other that we couldn't explain.

I remember even now when I'd pray about the subject I'd just feel like the Lord was telling me to be quiet and just let it happen :o

I'm sure everyone has different experiences but that's just my 2 cents...

by the way I'm new to these forums my name is Zak

Regards,
fritz

Tinkerbell33 · Apr 27, 2007

hey thanks for the reply Zak and welcome to CF i think you will like it here.

so are you with the person that you fell in love with?

plum · Apr 27, 2007

Over the years my understanding and depth of love has matured. And during that time I was in love as much as I could be at that level of maturity. I was with my "first love" through ages 16-18. I can't explain how I defined love at that time... but yes, whatever it was for me then... I was in it.

pepperfish · Apr 27, 2007

I first fell in love last spring when my SO and I FINALLY got together after years of him liking me.

It's impossible to explain how I knew it was love. It was as though everything just clicked with us, and I knew he was the one I am meant to spend my life with. It was an amazing feeling looking at him and just knowing that he's the one, and that he's all mine. Hehe

dbot · Apr 27, 2007

I suppose the first time I really felt I was in love was with a girl who didn't reciprocate the feelings. She wasnt the first girl I ever had a thing for, but she was the girl who my heart picked to attach to the most. Unfortunately it's left me with a lot of baggage. You live and you learn, I suspect, though.

fritz300 · Apr 29, 2007

Becksy said:
hey thanks for the reply Zak and welcome to CF i think you will like it here.

so are you with the person that you fell in love with?

We were together for about 6 months right now though we're kinda taking a break to grow some on our own but as far as our feelings go nothing as really changed even if we tried to make them.

Stratiotes · Apr 29, 2007

I've had many crushes of course, but I first fell truly in love for the first time last August. I met a girl in my college network on facebook and we talked all night long online for many nights. She instantly became the best friend I'd ever had and I didn't want to ruin that by suggesting that we move on to a romantic relationship. I finally did though and I loved her with all my heart. But I can't understand it enough to say how I knew it was love. Like others have said, we just had that chemistry you might say. Unfortunately, due to some of our differences in beliefs, it didn't work out between us but I still don't doubt that what we had was love.

Love is mysterious and while sometimes I think it'd be nice to understand it, maybe its mysterious nature is part of what makes it so wonderful.

Dorf · Apr 29, 2007

It was the summer between 10th and 11th grade. I took her out as a bet, she wouldn't go if I asked her type of thing. Well she did and once we started talking we started to like each other alot and we dated till after I graduated.

LivinIt · Apr 29, 2007

I apologize in advance for how long this is, but I'm kind of passionate about it and have a hard time shortening my story

Becksy said:
Hi,
this is for those who have fallen iin love,

When did you first fall in love?

and how did you know it was love?

I first fell in love when I was 16, in 11th grade. I have had some bad experiences with guys in the past, and that year my best (girl) friend convinced me to start hanging out with this group of guys. I got along really well with one of these guys, and we became good friends, however, I was still kind of standoffish and did not flirt at all. On Valentine's day, he asked another girl out, and it [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]ed me off, and made me realize that it didn't matter what other guys had done to me, this guy was different, and I was going to do whatever I had to to make this guy mine. Thankfully, the other girl said no and after 8 days our relationship began.

I don't think that I would say that I knew that it was really love until we'd been going out for a year. I mean, we got a long really well and everything, but it was hard to tell if I really loved him, or if he was just my best friend. Well, right before the one-year mark came up, we separated for a month, just because I didn't want to be emotionally involved with someone like that for a year if I didn't think that I would end up marrying him. Well, at one point while we weren't dating, just friends, we had a snow day and he came over (as in drove 23 miles) to help my younger sister and I shovel out our driveway. When we finished that job, my sister wanted to go build a snowman, and Jon (the guy) agreed, and I reluctantly followed. It ended up being a ton of fun, and watching Jon with my sister and seeing how much she loved him and how much he cared for her, and even realizing with new eyes how much he like to look out for me and make sure that I was ok. I ended up calling him that night, I cried like a baby and asked him if he would be willing to continue our relationship and what not. He said yes, of course, he loved me and he wanted nothing more than to have me in his life. At that moment, I knew that I really could not imagine going through life without him at my side, and that was when I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that I really did love him.

And now, we have been engaged for a little over a month and are planning on getting married in August of 2009

white dove · Apr 29, 2007

Becksy said:
Hi,
this is for those who have fallen iin love,

When did you first fall in love?

and how did you know it was love?

I was in my 20's. Wait....I'm still in my 20's.

Anyway, my past experiences tell me that it is true what you hear from the old ones -love is not so complicated; when you find it, you will just know.

You don't question it too much. You feel comfortable with him/her and you can tell them anything without fear of judgement. You can be yourself and not feel ashamed or embarressed. You still want to impress them, sometimes but you know that you really don't have to. You want to give, you don't want them to feel any pain..and you would rather feel the pain yourself than for them to. You know their annoying little idiosyncracies, but don't really get too annoyed by them. (Well, sometimes ya do)

All of that is true for me, but also...I know that I find someone special when I am "softer" around him. If a man has the ability to encourage my softer side, slowly but surely tearing down my defenses, I know he's for keeps. Not just any man can do that.

Hammster · Apr 30, 2007

I remember a lot of times when I was younger and fell in like, or fell in lust for some girl/woman. But it wasn't until I met my current wife (I was married at 21, divorced at 22) that I really understood what love is (although I am still learning a lot).

Since this is a Christian forum, I am going to lay out very specifically what love is for both men and women.

For men: is this a woman whom you will sacrificially serve for all of your life? Will you love her as Christ loved the church?

For women: Is this a man that you can biblically submit to? Can you be his helpmate? Will you respect him?

Those are really tough questions that both my wife and I struggle with. I don't always want to sacrifice and put her first, and she doesn't alway want to respect me and be submissive.

But since it is what Christ has called us to do, then we will press on towards the goal.

Kol · Apr 30, 2007

I fell in love the first time I heard NIB.

tsubasa · Apr 30, 2007

I was 15. She and I had always been distant friends, and we both ended up cast in a show. Since we were the only main cast members who knew each other, we hung out a lot, talked about God and faith and all sorts of stuff. It got to the stage where she was the only thing I could think about and the thought of going off to 6th Form College frightened me to death because I may have never seen her again. I remember the exact moment I realised. It was December and I'd walked her home after rehearsal because she was scared of the dark. I got home and went into the kitchen to prepare the rabbit's food. As I was approaching the back door, I froze on the spot and thought "I'm in love with her". Suddenly, everything that had been going on in my head for about 3 months made perfect sense.

JulySheMustFly · Apr 30, 2007

I was 15. I can't really tell you how I knew it was love. I can tell you I've never fallen out of it since I married that guy when I was 19 and we are looking at our 7th anniversary soon.

Luther073082 · Apr 30, 2007

In 7th grade I met a girl. I guess after our intial meeting you could consider my feelings for her to be a crush. . .

However after that for years and years I could not get her out of my head no matter how much I tried. I tried having feelings and going out with other girls but that didn't matter. Most of the time they where not too interested in me (no one was at the time).

Anyways I still had feelings for her my senior year of high school. My feelings where a lot more mature at this point. I told her how I felt about her and she sort of already knew through some mutual friends that blabbed. We wheren't ever going to be more then friends and I knew that but that didn't change my feelings. The last two years of high school I just did as much as I could to make her happy. My best friend wanted to date her and she kind of liked him so I told him that he should go out with him. (Bless his heart he wasn't going to without me ok'ing it) I hoped that if I couldn't make her happy then maybe he could. It didn't work out like that though.

I still had some feelings for her in college but I mostly buried them and kept them hidden. Not being around her everyday helped quite a bit.

I don't have a happy story here, nothing ever really happened. I know she is married now, although I'm not sure where she is living. We have sort of lost contact. I don't think about her 24/7 like I used to but whereever she is I sincerly hope that her life is a happy one. I've never had feelings for another girl like I have for her. I've had girls that I was interested in, and that I found attractive but I've never had another girl that I reached a point where I'd give up so much just to make sure she is happy. Maybe one of these days I will have those feelings for another person.

In a strange way I hope she never re-enters my life again. I hope this because I know no matter what it will be bad for me and it will only hurt. But if she needs me for anything, I will always be there no matter what it is and no matter what pain it brings me.

Paddington · Apr 30, 2007

I was 15, I have no idea how I knew, I just did That's never very helpful for anyone wanting to know "when you know you're in love" but... you just know somehow.

miss_klara · Apr 30, 2007

Last year. In a whirlwind of events, I ended up dating my best guy friend, who I'd liked for a year, but who'd had no real feelings for me up till like a week or so before we started dating.
The first couple of days were the most awkward in my life, and I went from being hopelessly infatuated to being uncertain if I even really saw the relationship going anywhere!!
However, by day 4 he kissed me (crazy fast, I know... he apologised later) and on about day 6, he came to my work, looked me in the eye and said "Y'know, I'm in love with you."
Suddenly, for the first time since I'd started liking him, it was OK to love him!! I fell so hard from that point. We were both pretty giddy over it all.
For me, he was my first boyfriend, so I didn't have any other experience with guys, but he'd dated 3 girls before me. All of them had been friendships that had become more, one of them was even 4 months long and he hadn't felt anything like what he felt for me. That blew my mind. He explained that for him, love was something that he'd believed took time to develop, and was to be taken incredibly seriously, so he couldn't understand why he was committing himself so heavily so soon, but something must've confirmed it for him.
For me, it was the realisation that he completed me. It was understanding that I was no longer infatuated with him from afar, but that I genuinely cared for him, and enjoyed everything about him. It was imagining 'doing life' with him and finding that I wouldn't dream of it any other way.
We've been together nearly 11 months now, and have been talking about marriage for the last 10, LOL.

I think that discovering love is looking past what you've got with a person, and imagining what you could have with them down the track. It's easy to get caught up quickly in a relationship, but realizing that you've found a solid foundation with them, and knowing that you're going to care about them above all else for a long time... that, to me, is love

dawnsday · May 1, 2007

I knew I loved him when I left him.

Luther073082 · May 1, 2007

dawnsday said:
I knew I loved him when I left him.

Sounds like neither of us have the happiest stories of love. I'll pray for you.

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