BigHearted said:
I was wondering......
If there were someone with a desire to express a serious interest in you, just how would you have him do it? Is something like that weird coming from someone you have just a 'Sunday-only' relationship with? What would be the best approach for someone like that to try and spend more time with you outside of church? WHat's the best way to avoid being a weirdo?
Inquiring minds want to know......
I'm not a girl, but I'd have to agree with most of them, yet for different reasons. Every time I start dating a girl one on one, part of me gets attached to her and wants more. I think this is the bane of us men...the looks turn us on, and we want more once we get a taste of that exclusivity. If we turn out to be incompatible, the relationship ends, but the feelings are often still there and very hard to get rid of.
If you go up to her with the "smooth" group date offer, however, you'll avoid that bondage if she doesn't turn out right for you. Explicitly let her know that you are interested in knowing her more. I'm sure she won't mind. If she's taken or thinks you're a gimp than at least you made her feel better about herself. And that's always a good thing.
Excuse my cynicism for a moment, but with the way you may act around her, she probably already knows you like her. Women are blessed with that seventh sense. But it's a good idea to know that she's heard what you feel (ie she has to either say yes or LJBF you). On top of that, not knowing what she feels is usually worse than rejection.
In any way, though, treat her like a gentleman and a loving brother, and I'm sure she'd love it either way.
**HOW TO ASK HER**
If you don't like the group date idea, you could do it the way I might do it if I was singling a girl out.
My suggestion is to charge into an area where her girlfriends usually meet at on top of a white horse and full body armor (along with cool helmet). While everyone is stunned, dismount the horse, and grab a bouquet of purple tulips from the back.
Stand for a few seconds while the women figure out what's going on, and then wait for all their attention to be on you, hoping that they are the chosen one. Then get your woman. Stand over her, and give her the tulips. Say very simply "Ride with me, right now." You think she'll say no?
Then (VERY IMPORTANT)...once you both get on the horse, you must say "Good day ladies" to the rest of them.
You MUST make sure you do this when all her friends are there. This solidifies your woman's special status in her own mind. Because then she'll have a story to tell to them, and as she delivers her oratory, all of them will romantically gasp, further making her feel special.
