Question

[Livvy95]

Hi,

I was just wondering in what way some people with BPD have issues with boredom? Is it a problem because they get bored easily? Or because they can't handle boredom very well? ...Or something else? And why DO they often have issues with boredom?

 

[madison1101]

One of the classic symptoms of BPD is a lack of a sense of self. To be bored, causes us to look within ourselves. Most of us can't handle that.

I have made significant progress in my recovery, but I have to have the television on, and or be on my laptop. It's too painful to look inside, and that is what I am forced to do when I am not distracted by my phone, T.V. or computer.

 

[lynnbeau]

I have made significant progress in my recovery, but I have to have the television on, and or be on my laptop. It's too painful to look inside, and that is what I am forced to do when I am not distracted by my phone, T.V. or computer.

Madison - I need to tell you how much I appreciate your total and complete honesty! Your transparency. Your willingness to show your struggles with BPD. You give hope to those of us who struggle with loved ones with BPD. May God bless you abundantly for your humility and humbleness. This is part of your beauty. The beauty that Christ has placed in you. It takes so much courage to not only share the things you've shared, but also to look inside oneself - at the pain. I'm not sure if there is anyone on this earth that can honestly say it is not painful to look inside themselves.

I appreciate you!

 

[madison1101]

Madison - I need to tell you how much I appreciate your total and complete honesty! Your transparency. Your willingness to show your struggles with BPD. You give hope to those of us who struggle with loved ones with BPD. May God bless you abundantly for your humility and humbleness. This is part of your beauty. The beauty that Christ has placed in you. It takes so much courage to not only share the things you've shared, but also to look inside oneself - at the pain. I'm not sure if there is anyone on this earth that can honestly say it is not painful to look inside themselves.

I appreciate you!

lynnbeau: I'm not sure what to say. All I know is that God has shown me a way out of the trap I was in, with the negative patterns it took a lifetime to learn. It took time and hard work. Many, many times, I wanted to give up. Thankfully, my sweet mentor and my therapist would not give up on me, so I kept persevering.

I believe God is still in the business of healing, just in a different way today. With BPD, there is a ton of emotional pain behind all of the negative behavior. That pain needs to be brought out into the light in the safety of a therapy session, to process it. The key for me was that the therapist be qualified to do his job. Then, having a Sister in the Lord who was mentoring me help me process my sessions further, so I could put God's Word into the thinking, really blessed me and healed me. Again, that took time.

God blessed me with hope, and I feel compelled to offer that here. Having hope in recovery is the first step in my recovery.

 

[alascott]

Just found this group today. Already encouraged. God bless you all for being honest - it is encouraging to know that this stuff (BPD) is real, and that there is hope. So grateful. I so identify with all of this. Just starting my journey of healing and hope towards health (with laptop and tv or music on almost all the time).

ugh. moving forward, pressing on.

 

[Luna1991]

Personally I feel that my boredom is associated with those persistent feelings of emptiness and hopelessness. I might interpret that I act or feel bored because I am projecting that view onto my life and the world. It's that pervasive idea that there's no point in anything and I'm nothing. While of course I *know* this thinking to be wrong, in a reasonable sense, it's hard to convince my emotional self otherwise.