Question I never wanted to ask

[The Gregorian]

I've been through plenty of difficult situations, and my faith's always helped me through it easier than most. I'm confident that eventually, I'll see loved ones who have died again in whatever form that is (personally, I believe in an earthly resurrection after armageddon rather than an "instant trip to heaven" interpretation).

However my current situation's hitting me pretty hard. My wife was pregnant, and the child made it almost to the 2nd trimester, but come ultrasound time (last week), there was no heartbeat and he was under-sized indicating it hadn't had one for a while.

So, whether loved ones are to be reunited on earth or in heaven I don't know if there is a hope considering he may have never developed a heartbeat to begin with. ... so I just don't know what I can hope for.

 

[FaithPrevails]

I am so sorry for your loss.

If you were not able to hear/see the baby's heartbeat prior to the ultrasound appointment, then I would encourage you to operate under the belief that the baby did have a heartbeat since their hearts begin forming/beating between 5-6 weeks.

 

[whitebeaches]

your baby is safely in the hands of jesus and will be reunited with you one day in heaven.

i am deeply sorry for your loss. hugs.

 

[The Gregorian]

true. It looks like it stopped growing about 9 weeks when it "definitely should have had a heartbeat." I suppose I should be able to look forward to seeing how he or she will turn out yet.

 

[ex-pat]

I'm so sorry for your loss. We also had a first trimester loss, and my husband and I are confident that we will meet our child some day. May Christ comfort you and your family in your sorrow.

 

[angelsamongus]

I've been through plenty of difficult situations, and my faith's always helped me through it easier than most. I'm confident that eventually, I'll see loved ones who have died again in whatever form that is (personally, I believe in an earthly resurrection after armageddon rather than an "instant trip to heaven" interpretation).

However my current situation's hitting me pretty hard. My wife was pregnant, and the child made it almost to the 2nd trimester, but come ultrasound time (last week), there was no heartbeat and he was under-sized indicating it hadn't had one for a while.

So, whether loved ones are to be reunited on earth or in heaven I don't know if there is a hope considering he may have never developed a heartbeat to begin with. ... so I just don't know what I can hope for.

Sorry for your loss

Below is a link to a story about a boy who went to heaven. In this story he met his sister who was miscarried. It's an amazing story I pray it brings you hope!

‘Heaven Is for Real’: One boy’s astonishing account - books - booksmiscellaneous - TODAY.com

 

[Godsgirl79]

I've been through plenty of difficult situations, and my faith's always helped me through it easier than most. I'm confident that eventually, I'll see loved ones who have died again in whatever form that is (personally, I believe in an earthly resurrection after armageddon rather than an "instant trip to heaven" interpretation).

However my current situation's hitting me pretty hard. My wife was pregnant, and the child made it almost to the 2nd trimester, but come ultrasound time (last week), there was no heartbeat and he was under-sized indicating it hadn't had one for a while.

So, whether loved ones are to be reunited on earth or in heaven I don't know if there is a hope considering he may have never developed a heartbeat to begin with. ... so I just don't know what I can hope for.

I was actually wondering about this same thing yesterday. I had the same thing happen to me, i delivered my dead baby 10/10/10. I found out when they do those random blood tests that it showed my baby had high risk for neural tube defect and when went in for ultrasound discovered the baby was dead, she had shriveled some and had no skull.
My doctor had me carry it until I went into labor with it because he said it would be easier that way then trying to induce and if i didn't go into labor in 2 weeks he'd induce me. That was 10/7/11 and fortunately after carpet cleaning all morning on 10/10/11 the moment I sat down I started having contractions and delivered her. It was sad but meant to be. I had a difficult situation I was going through at the time so it was not devestating for me. But I do wonder the same thing... will I see that child in heaven? I miscarried once that i know of as well when I was 16 years old and only 6 weeks along. I wonder too if I will see that child in heaven.

 

[The Gregorian]

it takes a lot of strength, but we can only wait and trust in God. Whatever happens, Rev 21:3-4 shows us that eventually death will be no more, neither will mourning, nor outcry, nor pain be anymore. That reunion would certainly be welcome.

 

[Maharg]

We lost our last baby - it had died at about 6 weeks gestation, the doctors thought. God blessed me so much through that time, and I have a strong sense that we will meet our child in heaven.

 

[homeofmew]

As soon as the Cells start multiplying and the living DNA is different from the host aka the mother it is then a different being as it had different DNA. Weather it ever had a heartbeat or not doesn't matter the cellular structure after the 3-4 cell multiplication is human. Meaning it was a separate entity or person.

As per "will we see miscarried children in heaven"
or "our 2 year old died threads".

They are obviously too young to understand sin and have committed no treason in the eyes of God.
The idea of "inherited sin" is true we do have a sinful nature but if you had no time or brain processes to do anything knowledgeable I don't think God would hold those accountable. It is also believed by many many young children will be raptured despite the fact they aren't born again.

 

[Finn88]

I just suffered my second miscarriage so this is something which my husband and I have been looking into.
What we have found is that the bible often talks about unborn children Psalm 139v15 "You watched me as I was formed in utter seclusion as i was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book" - God knows us, and watches over us even before we are fully formed. The ability to reason is not a requirment for faith and therefore, salvation. Jesus said in Luke18v16 "Let the little children come to me. Don't stop them! For the kingdom of God belongs to such as these" (apparently, in the original language "little children certainly reffered even to tiny babies) Even still in the womb, John the baptist reacted to the news that Jesus was coming Luke1v 41 "At the sound of Mary's greeting Eizabeth's child leapt within her, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit" So it is my belife that Jesus came to save, even the unborn. Paul talks in his letters, about how through our own faith, our children are made holy, even if only one parent is a believer, the children are made clean through the believing parent.

Those are just a couple of examples really, I think we can all take comfort knowing that although we may never understand why our children were taken from us, they are safe in heaven with the Father

Finn x

 

[Godsgirl79]

A book that I've heard about on here, and that might encourage you is called "heaven is for real". It's about a four year old boy who came close to death and told about his trip to heaven. He told details that he could've never known. One thing that he told about is meeting his sister in heaven who died in utero. The parents never told him about his mom being pregnant with her, but he met her sure enough, and fell in love with her. It comforted me, I hope it'll comfort you. God bless.