Question for the guys....

[OrangeHope]

I have read that women should never bring up to their bf's the thought of marriage or engagment, that they should let the guy bring up conversations like that. though you can't believe every thing that you hear so i'm wondering guys, is this really true or some times do you prefure your gf's asking you what you think about getting married\engaged so you know where they stand and maybe make it easier for you to bring up those topic's?

 

[MN John]

I think that whatever is on your mind is there because it is time to talk about it. Your communication should be at a level where you do not have to wonder whether to bring sopmething up. You should bring everything up. If you want to consider marriage, then you need to start right now with being fully open, honest, disclosive, and vulnerable in your communication.

 

[eyeliv4God]

Yeah, I've always wondered the same thing... like, could you scare a guy away with that kind of talk? Obviously, you shouldn't bring it up on the first date, LOL, but after you've been courting the guy for a while and the two of you love each other... is it okay to talk about it?

 

[Arriving]

I have read that women should never bring up to their bf's the thought of marriage or engagment, that they should let the guy bring up conversations like that. though you can't believe every thing that you hear so i'm wondering guys, is this really true or some times do you prefure your gf's asking you what you think about getting married\engaged so you know where they stand and maybe make it easier for you to bring up those topic's?

Why would it matter which one brings it up? If it's okay for one to bring up a topic, it should be okay for the other to bring it up.

Yeah, I've always wondered the same thing... like, could you scare a guy away with that kind of talk? Obviously, you shouldn't bring it up on the first date, LOL, but after you've been courting the guy for a while and the two of you love each other... is it okay to talk about it?

If a guy freaks out just because you mention marriage, then he's probablly not very serious about marriage anyway, especially if you just talk about marriage in general. I personally think it's a healthy subject to talk about, and besides--it's always the girl who freaks
out about things like that, guys usually don't care much

 

[inrsoul]

yeah drop a hint or two along the way, i'm sure even the slowest guy would pick it up. eventually.

 

[Leanna]

Why would it matter which one brings it up? If it's okay for one to bring up a topic, it should be okay for the other to bring it up.

If a guy freaks out just because you mention marriage, then he's probablly not very serious about marriage anyway, especially if you just talk about marriage in general.

I agree!! A very smart young man indeed.

 

[Inperfected]

When i was going out with my fiance, it actually came up as a general topic often aroudn 6 months before we began dating...

If you think it is likely, a good way to bring it up is a joke like"well when we get married...."...

works interestingly, i may add

 

[72_Chev_Truck]

i dont exactly remember who brought it up but i know we are both excited about getting engaged... just in a holding period now until i graduate

 

[JVD]

If a guy freaks out just because you mention marriage, then he's probablly not very serious about marriage anyway, especially if you just talk about marriage in general

Very true...and this would be good to know. So yes, after you have been courting/dating for awhile, you should bring it up if he hasn't.

 

[OrangeHope]

thanks guys! we have been dating for 5.5 months and i think in a way some one sould bring it up, i think he's been hinting to me here and there (he asked me what i think our kids would look like if we ever had some and stuff like that) i was the one who was pretty quiet about it...maybe i should be the one to bring up the idea of getting married.