Question for the girls...

[A2597]

OK, been in this debate with my GF. But here goes.

Whats your opinion of Short gym shorts?

I hate it when my girlfriend wares them. Even to work out. Not much better then just underware in my opinion.

But she doesn't see anything wrong with them. She's stopped wearing them in public just because she knows I don't like it. But she was raised there was nothing wrong with them...soo...

Whats your opinion?

 

[eyeliv4God]

I would never wear them in public, but I might wear them to bed. I just find them tasteless... but that's my opinion.

 

[OrangeHope]

i too would never wear them in public, my bf likes it when i wear long skirts, and i told him i don't like to wear short skirts cause it would make me feel pretty cheap, and he agrees, cause then he told me other guys would start looking at my legs and stuff...if i'm working out in my own home then yeah for all i care i could be working out in underwear...

 

[Amy47]

At least she respects you enough to not wear them in public. I understand that people are all raised differently and whatever you're raised with seems natural, but she needs to understand that short shorts might cause another guy to stumble in his christian life.

 

[Hope_0004]

Does she wear them because she's an athlete?

If that's the case, I mean, you have to wear what you have to wear. My sister was a serious athlete in many sports, including volleyball, basketball, track, and was also a cheerleader. She constantly had on one uniform or the other. Most of them had pretty short shorts, because that's what you play your best in. I mean, in that situation, if a guy's going to have a "problem" with it, that's his problem. Not the athlete's.

If she's just wearing them around for no reason, though, I don't really get it. I wouldn't do it. I mean, I wouldn't go to my drawer on a normal day and think, "Gee, I think I'll pull out these shorts with a 2-inch inseam for running errands!"

It depends on why she's wearing them. If she's just been to the gym, get over it. Everyone should be able to wear something that optimizes their potential when working out or playing sports. If she's just wearing them to be wearing them, though, I would think she could make a more appropriate choice.

 

[lacedinlavender]

Well, you have to realize that when someone is working out, they don't particularly want to have all that extra fabric in the way. It's extremely uncomfortable to be sweaty and have fabric clinging to your body. If she's just wearing short shorts to work out in, then I don't see a problem.

Amy47, I personally don't buy the "short shorts might cause another guy to stumble in his Christian life" argument. I've heard similar things all the time, and I don't like the implication that I should be responsible for another person's Christian walk. I understand that we should all be helping and encouraging each other, but I'm not going to put restrictions on things such as what I wear to work out in (often simply a sports bra and short shorts) to keep a guy from potentially lusting after me. I could be fully dressed, covered head to toe, and a guy could still fall into lust.

Jen

 

[awesome liver]

someone has insecurity issues and it's not the girlfriend.

 

[freedom4all]

I would say that you are a lucky guy to have a girl that will go along with such a silly request. I would tell you to shove off.

 

[A2597]

I'm talking everyday, around campus, etc.

Maybe it's not my buisness, but hey, I want to protect her modesty. And no, I don't complain at all when she wares them to work out. (Although, really...girls run the risk of flashing everyone at the gym in those shorts. I'm a guy, forgive me for noticing these things.)

 

[awesome liver]

why do you feel you need to control her behavior down to what she wears? get over it.

 

[bumblebee62331]

You can't protect her modesty.

That's up to your girlfriend.

If she feels comfortable in those shorts, then that's all that matters. I personally like wearing short shorts when jogging because it gets really hot and I'd rather not have too much material on. Your girlfriend went out of her way to not wear them in public for you - that's more than a lot of girls would do.

 

[A2597]

So it's safe to say that the majority of women here don't think twice that those shorts draw the eyes of every guy in visual range right to their crotch and bottom?

And no, I'm not exaggerating. Like I said, I don't have a problem if theres a reason to wear them, like working out, or, I suppose, even jogging.

But to class? To run errends? Just seems like your trying to convey that your easy or something to me. It's actually quite a turn off for me to see a girl in public like that.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

I would never wear short shorts. Too immodest to me. At my gym there are girls who wear these things with little tops; disgusts me. They are not helping men who are trying to avoid temptation.

 

[A2597]

I would never wear short shorts. Too immodest to me. At my gym there are girls who wear these things with little tops; disgusts me. They are not helping men who are trying to avoid temptation.

I think, more then just the men trying to avoid temptation, they are sending the wrong signels to the men that are not trying to avoid temptation, which could in some ways, be worse.

Then again, I've never been prown to exhibitionism, so maybe I'm missing something.

 

[Oblivious]

someone has insecurity issues and it's not the girlfriend.

Yep.

Anyway, as far as the shorts, if they serve a function than I don't see a problem with it. Alot of times extra fabric can be a hindrance when working out. It just depends.

 

[bumblebee62331]

Yep.

Anyway, as far as the shorts, if they serve a function than I don't see a problem with it. Alot of times extra fabric can be a hindrance when working out. It just depends.

Oh yeah. Chafing is not fun.

 

[eyeliv4God]

If it ain't on the menu, girls should keep it covered up!

 

[radhead]

If my girlfriend had an impulse to dress that way in public, I would not mind. It would be better to dress that way around people she knows, in a safe environment.

What if she tried to hide from you and went out dressed that way just when you were not around?

 

[heavensprings]

I'm talking everyday, around campus, etc.

Maybe it's not my buisness, but hey, I want to protect her modesty. And no, I don't complain at all when she wares them to work out. (Although, really...girls run the risk of flashing everyone at the gym in those shorts. I'm a guy, forgive me for noticing these things.)

I think it's great that you respect your girlfriend this much!

 

[Inperfected]

Maybe it's better to discuss these type of things with the girlfriend... not us... If my fiance was to put anything like this on the net about me, I'm would be sure to blow my fuse!

But seriously, as much as you find it hard... It's her choice... and trying to convince her otherwise, will only strengthen her willpower to wear them. I know as a few years ago, i was wear 'interesting' clothing, and comments only made me wear them more often