Question "classroom school" parents

[Robinsegg]

Hi!
I was wondering about an issue that I had when I was a child. How do you handle things when your child has a negative "socialization" experience while in school? How do you help your kids through it?

This can be anything from name-calling to out-right bullying or sexual harassment. It was *not* handled all that well by my parents and not handled at all by the school system I went to . . . so I was wondering how you handle such?

Thanks!
Rachel

 

[MyaShane]

We had a bad experience with my daughter's preschool. I called the director and told her the situation and let her know what my expectations were on what I wanted done and that I wanted to see action taken pretty much immediately. When they were unwilling to comply, we pulled our daugter from their program instantly. Our approach would be no different with her grade school, high school, etc.

My parents were not overly involved in the goings-on with us at school and I can still see some of the negative impact of those experiences in the lives of some of my siblings today. I would never risk that with my child.

 

[lucypevensie]

The few times it has happened we did talk to the teachers about it, and they were very receptive and glad that we'd brought it to their attention. One other time the other mom and I talked about the issue together. The situations weren't anything that would require drastic measures like pulling them out of school or anything. Our teachers are pretty on top of that stuff usually. Of course some things do escape teacher (and parent) radar.

Our kids know that not everyone in the world is going to be nice to them. Nor do they have to feel obligated to be friends with everyone either. They know who they can talk to if they feel unsafe or hurt (teacher, Mom, Dad, etc...). Sometimes all they need is a hug and some encouragement. Other times you need to deal with it on a deeper level.