babyangel said:
If adultery breaks the marriage bond and the innocent can divorce and remarry, what happens to the guilty party. Since the marriage bond is broken and if they truly repented and turned to Christ could they not move on with their life and remarry also. This has nothing to do with my situation, it is just a question I have thought about during my studies. I guess my point is that if adultery breaks the marriage bond, then how could just the innocent be free and not the guilty one, if the innocent is remarried then who is the guilty party bonded to? I have been told in the past that the guilty party could never remarry just thought I would ask and see what your thoughts are.
When the covenant, the bond of being one flesh, is broken and divorce has been filed and the marriage dissolved, then both parties no longer are married and are free to remarry....given that the reasons for divorce are permitted by Gods word.
This whole perpetual sin thing with remarriage is a joke doctrine that refuses to take all scripture into account in the context its written and also rejects the context of the scripture it does seem to allow for.
Example- theyll toss this passage at you....a wife is bound to her husband under the law unless hes dead.
For the woman who is under a man has been bound by law to the living husband. But if the husband should die, she is released from the law of the husband. So then, while the husband is living, she will be called an adulteress if she becomes married to a different husband; but if her husband should die, she is free from the law, so that she is not an adulteress, having become married to a different husband.
(Romans 7:2-3 EMTV)
ok, fine...but that doesnt take Deut 24:1-4 (the law) into account where a husband has divorced her and sent her away.
When a man has taken a wife and married her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes, because he has found some uncleanness in her, then let him write her a bill of divorce and put it in her hand, and send her out of his house.
(Deuteronomy 24:1 MKJV)
So there are details that these people arent giving you when they teach that silly little perpetual sin doctrine.
In Romans 7 there Paul isnt teaching the intricacies of marriage, but using marriage as an example to explain the law and our relationship to Christ.
If he were detailing out the law on marriage and all of the fine print, then hed have to include Deut 24:1 (the Law) and its concession on divorce.
Jesus said Moses permitted them to divorce over their hardness of heart.
Taking what they were doing it over, we can see that it was over many, many things and very trivial matters at that......THAT is hardness of heart.
Jesus says from the beginning it wasnt this way, God made them ONE man to be with ONE woman and for life.
Jesus says ONLY by harlotry (thereby defiling the marraige bed) can one put away a spouse....for any other reason would cause any remarriage to be adultery.
When the covenant is severed, it is severed for both parties.
But God doesnt allow loopholes as mans law does.
He knows full well the intents of the heart (enter the crime of adultery merely by lusting after someone) so if say a man was to cheat on his wife believing that he can end his covenant with her just so he can marry his fling, God may not be inclined to say that the marriage is over in HIS eyes.
But if say he made a mistake and cheated, his wife divorced him, then later he was truely repentant for his sins, then yes he would be free to remarry.
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Something else of interest.
Some really use that Romans passage about the law stating that a wife is bound to her husband all his days.
They seeemingly ignore that Paul couldnt have been discussing the whole law concerning marriage as he didnt bring Deut 24:1 into the discussion.
What I find interesting is that in Deut 24 it states that once a man divorced his wife and she say went out and married aother man that she can NEVER return to her previous husband.
If those teaching the she MUST return to her first husband even if she has been married again are wrong, then the sin they are causing some folks to commit an abomination before God.
Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.
(Deuteronomy 24:4 KJV)
If she has not been put away and has remained single and she returns to her husband, then all is well.
But if Jesus DOES permit divorce/remarraige for adultery and this woman has been divorced over it and then she goes and marries another man, then for her to ever return to her first husband as his wife is abominable if that be the case.
Which means if those of us who believe that divorce/remarraige are permissable for the case of harlotry (thereby defiling of the marriage bed) are correct, the those that are preaching that she must leave this second husband and return to her first are actaully teaching her to commit this thing that is abominable.