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Lehr
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Dude i am not mistaken this section is ment for religious questions and not personal issues.. But then again i could be wrong, so i quess i'll tell you that maybe she does like you but is shy..... or she could like you as a friend and put you in the friends zone lol, but to be honest i don't know because i don't know this girl. Ask her out....maybe
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*laughs* I find it ironic that I see 18 and 19 year olds as kids, when if I think back to that age when I was 18/19 and someone called me a kid, boy, they would have gotten a verbal beatdown. 
Anyhow, to your question, I would say that you first need to break the ice. Common ways to do this are by saying, "Hi" when you sit next to her, and asking to borrow an eraser or some such during class. You know, stupid little things just in order to get you guys talking. Assuming things don't go horribly wrong, like you accidentally stab her in the eye when returning the pencil you borrowed, pursue things if she seems like a nice person. After class you can ask her if she wants to grab a drink somewhere, maybe a campus coffee bar or something would do and just talk general study things.
I don't want to read anything in to the sitting next to you. Maybe like the first girl who moved away, she is also moving away from someone. So don't stress about that. In all seriousness though,
go with casual conversation first, and if you feel that's receieved well, you can continue. If you get to the end of class before you have made any headway, you may be faced with making a big step, like just asking her out for drink.
All the best,
Digit
Anyhow, to your question, I would say that you first need to break the ice. Common ways to do this are by saying, "Hi" when you sit next to her, and asking to borrow an eraser or some such during class.
You know, stupid little things just in order to get you guys talking. Assuming things don't go horribly wrong, like you accidentally stab her in the eye when returning the pencil you borrowed, pursue things if she seems like a nice person. After class you can ask her if she wants to grab a drink somewhere, maybe a campus coffee bar or something would do and just talk general study things.I don't want to read anything in to the sitting next to you. Maybe like the first girl who moved away, she is also moving away from someone.
So don't stress about that. In all seriousness though, go with casual conversation first, and if you feel that's receieved well, you can continue. If you get to the end of class before you have made any headway, you may be faced with making a big step, like just asking her out for drink.
All the best,
Digit
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Well what to do depends a lot on the type of person you are and the kind you like.
Some people seem to love mystery so they just guess and operate on that basis. So take a guess and go from there.
Others don't care what the other thinks they just fish all the time and never quit. So anything female within reach is basically approached whether or not they could care less.
Or, you might be a up front guy. Basically then you ask. Icebreaker could be "Married?" "Boyfriend?" "Children?" If by the time you get to children she answers 8 with a smile, you're in!
And one thing to understand too. Liking you isn't necessarily the same as marry you, have your children, and live a lifetime with you. It's even possible to like you and not want or be available to date.
Now you might be trying to read the signs women send out. That's pretty much a waste of time. A study was just done and found women pretty consistently send mixed signals.
So it's probably best to ask her, and if she spits and sits on the other side of the room you really aren't out much and you gained all that time you were spending wondering. And don't take it personal, after all she doesn't know you, maybe she only dates jocks who beat women on the first date. Or maybe she will only date a guy with a part on the other side of his head. You don't know, and that's the point. Find out. And if it's no, then you can spend your time on someone else. If it's yes, hey, cool. At least until you find she is a libertarian vegan from Jupiter sent her to take over the world, but that's half the fun.
Don't take it so serious, it's only a few years on earth, nothing really compared to eternity.
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Some people seem to love mystery so they just guess and operate on that basis. So take a guess and go from there.
Others don't care what the other thinks they just fish all the time and never quit. So anything female within reach is basically approached whether or not they could care less.
Or, you might be a up front guy. Basically then you ask. Icebreaker could be "Married?" "Boyfriend?" "Children?" If by the time you get to children she answers 8 with a smile, you're in!
And one thing to understand too. Liking you isn't necessarily the same as marry you, have your children, and live a lifetime with you. It's even possible to like you and not want or be available to date.
Now you might be trying to read the signs women send out. That's pretty much a waste of time. A study was just done and found women pretty consistently send mixed signals.
So it's probably best to ask her, and if she spits and sits on the other side of the room you really aren't out much and you gained all that time you were spending wondering. And don't take it personal, after all she doesn't know you, maybe she only dates jocks who beat women on the first date. Or maybe she will only date a guy with a part on the other side of his head. You don't know, and that's the point. Find out. And if it's no, then you can spend your time on someone else. If it's yes, hey, cool. At least until you find she is a libertarian vegan from Jupiter sent her to take over the world, but that's half the fun.
Don't take it so serious, it's only a few years on earth, nothing really compared to eternity.
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How it looks from what you describe -- the only interaction you've had with her is getting information from her. I would guess that she is wary of being used, and moved because she wants to be able to listen to the instructor and work independently.
If you approach her, don't talk about class, don't ask her class questions, and show that you don't want anything from her. Approach her with generosity... maybe thank her for the help she offered before.
If you approach her, don't talk about class, don't ask her class questions, and show that you don't want anything from her. Approach her with generosity... maybe thank her for the help she offered before.
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