Purity and Virginity

[ascribe2thelord]

I'm a Christian guy trying to walk clean with the Lord. Though I've had a few minor slips here and there (none since a year or so ago) I've kept the promise to myself to preserve my sexuality for marriage.

I know a lot of "Christians" and even some real believers who haven't kept that promise. One of my girl friends would always get down on me and say stuff like, "There aren't really many virgins left," and "Do you really expect the person you marry to have never made any mistakes in their past?"

Is there anyone who still hasn't given it up? I know a few people but they all live far far away!

 

[+RubiesFire+]

*Raises Hand* I never even gone down the route, of course I have never dated either. I've been tempted back in my past when I was a teenager, then again I thought about my future. I only want to be with one man, and that's my husband when God delivers him to me. But I'm happy being single for now.

 

[Annoula]

i have given up..

but i have one of my best friends' who haven't.

she is 31 now, and i can tell it starts to get mad....(the whole thing i mean, not her)

 

[Saucy]

I'm still a virgin and i realize the difficulty, but I made a promise to God. I'm going to wait until He delivers the one and we get married. No compromise.

 

[Johnnz]

Your situtation sadly reflects the contradiction within the Christian community about human sexuality. On one hand there is so much talk about sexual purity, avoiding lustful thoughts (whatever that may mean), being modest, and opposing masturbation as examples. Then there is the reality of sexually active Christian teenagers, widespread interest in nudity and porn, widespread masturbation, sexual abuse, and a huge communication gap on sexual issues between children and parents and church leaders.

Once you could suggest toa young girl struggling with sex to joing a church group to be safer. That is no longer true.

The issue you are facing is much bigger than your own. But, bless you for being someone who still believes that your sexuality is a gift for that special someone in your life.

John
NZ

 

[Johnnz]

You are not alone. But today many Christians have abandoned the traditional sexual vales held by the church.

There is a lot of confusion about sexual issues amongst Christians.

John
NZ

 

[swordsman]

I'm a virgin too! And I know people older than me, who are virgins too, and who are remaining sexually pure.

 

[PetraFan007]

AMEN! Almost 22 here and I refuse to give up!

 

[ascribe2thelord]

Um, I see a lot of guys here, but where are all the girls? This doesn't look too good ...

 

[Dragons87]

I promised my wife that I won't give up until I meet her. =P

 

[DeaconDean]

hi friend,
I originally post this in response to a guy in college who was a virgin and was being ridiculed by others because of it. They even offered to get him a prostitute to help him lose his virginity. Here's what I told him, just remember I was adressing someone else, but the message is still the same:

The apostle Paul wanted the people of Corinth to abstain from fleshly lusts. But Paul was also a practical man, he said that if you could not abstain then you should marry rather than to burn in lust and gradually let it take over your life. I also recognize that prostitution is the worlds oldest profession too and no matter what laws we come up with in this land we will never be able to stop it. The practical side of this is the risk of STD's. And the potential of some day later on in life passing it unwillingly to your wife/husband. Sex is probably one of the strongest tools Satan uses against God's children. And it is a hard temptation to withstand. But think of the special gift you can give to your wife/husband on your honeymoon! And so much the better if he/she is a virginn too. I say wife/husband because this does apply to both sexes, and some female may be reading this too. Besides this, Paul says that if you can abstain until marriage you will be better devoted to the things of God rather than the things of the flesh. I urge you to abstain until you marry, sure some may make fun of you, sure you will almost certainly take some ribbing because of your stand, but wouldn't it be so much more better to explore the joy that God gave man and woman in the realm of sex when it's with your wife/husband? Especially if they are a virgin the same as yourself. Sex is the ultimate expression of love between a husband and wife, but when you do it for other reasons than what God intended it to for, then it becomes lust, and lust my friend, leads to death. It will eventually comsume your life. Look in the church for a boy/girl who is a Christian with the same values as yourself and I garantee you'll never regret it. And by the way, the urge will always be with you, keep your body in check and God will do His part.

 

[apologia25]

Hey bro,
I will turn 26 in 21 days and I am still a virgin. Run to win the prize bro and
dont worry about what the world says

 

[Marie D]

I'm a virgin. I've never done 'm' either, though I've been *very* tempted the last 2 days and I don't know if I'm going to be able to hold off to my marriage next summer.

 

[igit]

Yay it's good to know there still are some virgins left in this world.
I'm almost 21 and I'm not giving up =)

Since when has it become too much to ask for to expect your husband/wife to be a virgin.........

 

[ascribe2thelord]

Yay it's good to know there still are some virgins left in this world.
I'm almost 21 and I'm not giving up =)

Since when has it become too much to ask for to expect your husband/wife to be a virgin.........

Exactly! People act like it's too much to ask! It's about the same as trying to find a girl who's never drank alcohol, or something like that.

 

[KET20]

Wow, not many girls posting in here... I'm no longer holding out for my "future husband"... I gave up at 16. I think I have one girl friend my age who is still a virgin, and quite a few guy friends who are.

 

[ascribe2thelord]

Let me warn you guys that if you get into a relationship with a girl/guy older than you who drinks alcohol (or younger than you and drinks alcohol) you may end up in a situation where you would feel the pressure to compromise your values. This must be avoided at all costs! Do not be seduced into drinking alcohol with a person of the opposite sex - this is probably what causes 90% of people who do lose their virginity to give it up. Even if (may this never happen to you either) you are in a dangerous situation where you are sober and the other person is drunk (or high) - remember that yours is the only mind that is thinking right. It's YOUR decision in this case. And if you're the unlucky sober guy in this equation, if you end up having sex with the girl, you may end up behind bars - on trial for rape. I've never gone to prison in my life, and I don't want any of you to either. I know there are a lot of people on these forums who are curious about sex, usually teenagers ... first of all:

1. If your "struggle with sexuality" involves only masturbation or pornography, get out of this forum: It may lead you to tempting ideas, especially if you are young and your sexuality is still developing. There are other forums where you can discuss these things.

2. If you think your parents wouldn't want you to be here, don't visit this forum ... ever again. God tells us to flee temptation.

3. Be aware that there are many people in this forum who are affirming of the homosexual/transgendered lifestyle. This is neither Biblical nor appropriate to Christian Forums, according to the rules discussed in the FAQ.

If there are any mods available here, I'd like to ask you to move this thread to another forum that is more appropriate.

 

[GQ Chris]

I'm a born-again virgin, does that count? Anyway I am a single dad so probably no.

 

[ascribe2thelord]

Wow, not many girls posting in here... I'm no longer holding out for my "future husband"... I gave up at 16. I think I have one girl friend my age who is still a virgin, and quite a few guy friends who are.

Maybe I posted in the wrong forum. Probably it would be best if I had gone to one that isn't "struggles with sexuality" - then I would have probably got more people who were trying to keep their virginity.

 

[ladylike]

Um, I see a lot of guys here, but where are all the girls? This doesn't look too good ...

Of course there are still girls vowing to stay pure, lots of them aren't on this board though

It is quite sad that there are Christian girls who aren't staying pure, by this, I mean purposely going out and putting themselves in a position to be tempted...but I imagine it will hit them hard when they decide to get married and see what problems they face, so sad.