Proposal Poll

[Living4Him03]

If you were proposed to in the following way, what would you think/feel ?

He gets you 18 roses at Target because they are having a special on them. He's been "planning" this since Thanksgiving. He then makes up something on the way home in the car about 9 of the roses representing the 9 months you have dated and the other 9 the 9 months until your wedding date. He then brings the roses to you and puts them in a plastic cup that is too small for them and won't hold them. He says there should be 18. You count and there are only 17, so you think Target has jipped him, then you look over your shoulder and he is on one knee with the 18th rose which has a ring tied to it and asks you to marry him. That's it. No dinner reservations, no surprises, no exciting New Year's Eve activity, just a rose with a ring on it that took him 5 minutes to plan.

 

[Living4Him03]

Oh forgot to add that you knock the roses over as you turn around because, as mentioned before, the cup holding them is too small and he didn't buy a vase or anything to put them in.

 

[Princess Pea]

If it were the right guy, I'd be so overjoyed that the details wouldn't matter.

Did you say yes? If you weren't happy with the proposal, I think you should have said no. Not because he "messed it up," but because your dissatisfaction might be a sign of a bigger problem in your relationship. I mean, I've never heard a woman complain about the quality of her roses when she has a one-day-old diamond ring on her finger. Most women I've known have immediately begun running around and screaming "I'M GETTING MARRIED! He's WONDERFUL, and he wants to spend the rest of his life with ME!!!!" I hope you've been doing some of that too today, because if you're not, you really need to consider whether you're the right woman for him. He's probably not going to change - can you cheerfully live with it if he doesn't? Sorry if that sounds blunt, but it's really important to consider these things before you make any more plans.

 

[bumblebee62331]

Wow. Have you ever thought that maybe he did put in more effort and planning than you think? This poor guy would have been nervous to begin with! I thought it was quite romantic. I mean, he had a ring, right? So he has been planning it for a while. So many people propose without a ring because it's a spur of the moment thing. To go out and buy roses and do it that way is imaginative. None of this typical go out to dinner etc. When my boyfriend proposes, I want it to be just him and me - I told him not to propose in a public place because I don't want that. We both agreed that it will be in private because it's a personal time and I don't want anyone looking on and feeling that I was pressured into saying yes!

So did you say yes? I think you are being too harsh on him.

By the way, the "you" is rhetorical - aimed at the girl who was proposed to.

EDIT: It sounds like this girl needs to write down exactly what she wants her boyfriend to do at the proposal. Which is sort of sad.

 

[LiberatedChick]

I'd be over the moon. The details don't matter one bit. Though I must say that if you think that's bad...well, I can top it

My hubby planned to propose at Christmas but just couldn't wait so he proposed the day after he ordered the ring, in early November. We were still students at the time and so my proposal was in a science lab (complete with a dissected rat in a jar in the corner!). There was no planning at all, no roses, no ring, no getting down on one knee...heck he couldn't even *ask* the question, he was so nervous he had to write it down! But you know what, I don't care...I actually look back on that and smile and we both have a giggle about it. It was certainly different

Details don't matter. Yeah, so it wasn't some fairytale proposal that you see in the movies...all that matters is he loves you enough to ask that question.

 

[FaithfulServant]

I think its cute, how he fooled you but then you turned around and he is on one knee!!! Come on, lots of guys these days don't even get on one knee anymore. If you said yes then thats all that matters. How do you know he made the 9 months thing up in the car on the way home?

 

[ChildOfGod20]

i think it's cute too. if my boyfriend asked me like that i would be so overjoyed just because he asked me! i could care less how it's done. i realize you think this is a big event and he should have put a lot more planning into it but some guys just aren't good planners. i hope u still acted happy. i would hate to hurt my boyfriend's feelings when he proposes to me. it's such a special moment and it should be spent being happy.

 

[Maeyken]

If I was proposed to in that way, I would think it was cute, and would definitely appreciate the effort. I would love it. But that's me. You obviously feel differently.

 

[Linnis]

I think that was very sweet and a nice idea about the flowers meaning what they did. Why do you care if the flowers are from target or were on sale?

 

[Maeyken]

I think that was very sweet and a nice idea about the flowers meaning what they did. Why do you care if the flowers are from target or were on sale?

I'd be glad he got a good deal on them! lol

 

[Linnis]

I'd be glad he got a good deal on them! lol

Me too, flowers just die anyway!

 

[Beth1231]

Wow, this is crazy. Are you just assuming that he planned all that in five minutes? I think it's a very sweet proposal and far better than what some have gotten. My proposal was in a library because it was pouring rain and we couldn't go to the park that he picked out! But he had a gift and got down on one ring and of course, the ring was there and we were both crying, we were so happy. So what if it was in the library and it was pouring? So what if the roses were on sale? My "rose" was fake and taped to my gift box but so what? I still have it and it's still precious to me. If the man is precious, isn't that what really matters anyway?

 

[Leanna]

If you were proposed to in the following way, what would you think/feel ?

He gets you 18 roses at Target because they are having a special on them. He's been "planning" this since Thanksgiving. He then makes up something on the way home in the car about 9 of the roses representing the 9 months you have dated and the other 9 the 9 months until your wedding date. He then brings the roses to you and puts them in a plastic cup that is too small for them and won't hold them. He says there should be 18. You count and there are only 17, so you think Target has jipped him, then you look over your shoulder and he is on one knee with the 18th rose which has a ring tied to it and asks you to marry him. That's it. No dinner reservations, no surprises, no exciting New Year's Eve activity, just a rose with a ring on it that took him 5 minutes to plan.

I think that's rather nice actually, if you just don't tell the story with the part about Target and their sales.

For the record, I've been married 6 years and I haven't received 18 roses in my entire life (at one time).

I would have been happy with that proposal. Its sweet, and the part about the plastic cup too small, that's so much like a guy.

He was probably nervous out of his mind and couldn't think.

 

[Leanna]

I think its cute, how he fooled you but then you turned around and he is on one knee!!! Come on, lots of guys these days don't even get on one knee anymore. If you said yes then thats all that matters. How do you know he made the 9 months thing up in the car on the way home?

I was wondering this too. Did he tell you all about Target and their sales and hwo he planned it on the way there. I'm laughing because that reminds me of my husband when he is nervous.... he gives out all the info just so he can calm himself down. He has a hard time keeping Christmas presents secret.

 

[Babymine]

I think that's such a sweet thing to do, the fact that he had the numbers of roses set out, and which number represented what, is very nice in my opinion. Why would you care where he got them from?
If this is the propasal you are complaining about, I dont think you should marry this guy. Marry someone who will give you great big things that you can brag to other people about. Marry someone who does not see the sentimental value in things, and feels that they can reward you with material goods, since that seems to be what you want.

 

[Carri20]

I think it sounds very sweet too. What were you expecting, exactly?

 

[Princess Pea]

(Please forgive a small sidetrack... )

I think it's interesting that no men have weighed in on this yet. Poor guys - they're already expected to do the proposing - to be the ones presenting their hearts to be either accepted or torn to shreds by the women they adore. As if that weren't enough, they're expected to do it in a sufficiently "romantic" way - which is essentially a foreign language for many of them!

What in all creation could POSSIBLY be more romantic than the simple question "Will you marry me?" Those four little words are the Mount Everest of romance! Think about what a man is asking, and how emotionally vulnerable he makes himself simply by doing so. But somehow that's still not quite good enough - he also has to measure up to some kind of standard, with an adequate glitz factor and accompanying price tag? The most vulnerable moment of his life is fair game to be scrutinized and analyzed and critiqued and compared to 1,001 other proposal stories, both fact and fiction, by his beloved and all her friends? What incredible pressure!

(Hmmm ... is THIS why I'm not married? )

BTW, I'm not in any way condemning any of you who have shared your proposal stories here or in the other threads - there are obviously some sweet wonderful men in your lives, and there is such joy and affection in your accounts that I smiled reading them. And that's the way it should be - honestly, I think men should be treated as heroes simply for having the courage to ask!

(Thank you for your patience ... now back to the main topic ... )

 

[Leanna]

Mostly girls go into the Engagement section that's why

Are you really surprised?

I bet if this got posted in a more public area, such as Marriage Ministry, there would have a lot more guys with responses. Hmmmm in fact this might make an interesting subject if you take out the persons involved.....

 

[andiesmama]

Pretty shallow on this girl's part....IMO. Like others have said, if "she" is unhappy with the proposal, something as insignificant as where he got the roses for goodness sakes, what's going to happen when some REAL differences rear their ugly heads in this couple's future?

Personally I think it took alot of thought...18 roses, 9 for how long they've been together, and 9 for the months until the wedding...sounded sweet to me...

 

[RooMama]

If you were proposed to in the following way, what would you think/feel ?

He gets you 18 roses at Target because they are having a special on them. He's been "planning" this since Thanksgiving. He then makes up something on the way home in the car about 9 of the roses representing the 9 months you have dated and the other 9 the 9 months until your wedding date. He then brings the roses to you and puts them in a plastic cup that is too small for them and won't hold them. He says there should be 18. You count and there are only 17, so you think Target has jipped him, then you look over your shoulder and he is on one knee with the 18th rose which has a ring tied to it and asks you to marry him. That's it. No dinner reservations, no surprises, no exciting New Year's Eve activity, just a rose with a ring on it that took him 5 minutes to plan.

I would think "Yaaa-Hooooooooo! I'm getting married!!! Yippee!!! and he actually knows how long we've been dating. What a catch!"