problems with sexual sin

[Iwannaflyaway]

I'm going to try to make this short. I am working on recovering from sexual abuse. I have had a tuff time with sexual sin. Im going to be flat out honest here. My biggest sin that I have struggled with since age 7 is touching yourself. Some of you may not think this is a sin but i do. i belive its a sin becasue I cannot not stop no matter what, also i do it so much that it interfears with my daily life. I have tried so hard to fight the temptation but i get to a point where i turn on auto pilot and then nothing can stop me. I have gotten to a point where i go to sex shops and buy toys. THIS IS NOT ME. I don't know why i do this. The second biggest sin struggle with is Pornography. I also struggle from this b/c of my past. I cannot not look at porn. If i don't look at it, it plays in my head, it plays in my dreams. I have a strong feeling that what i am struggling with is demonic because everynight i have a dream that makes me feel shameful when i wake up.

Lastly,
about a month ago i gave a man my phone number online.He would call me and basically walk me through how to make myself feel good. We would have “phone sex.” this man was old. i feel gross just saying this. Anyways i still have theses thoughts wanting to call him. I know it's VERY dangerous. I scare myself becasue i am putting myself in danger and i dont even care. I dont know what to do. I dont know how to stop sinning. i want so so so badly to please God yet i also desire these things that bring me sexual pleasure. I know i cannot serve to masters. what i am doing is bringing me further from God because of shame. I just feel like i am spiraling down. Please pray about this and let me know what you think and what you think God thinks. Thank you for your time.

-Chelsea

 

[Bellicus]

Rom 7,14 For we know that the law is spiritual: but I am carnal, sold under sin.
15 For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that do I.


The bible never mention masturbation at all, and in fact it is something very normal that almost all people do, even if people don't talk so much about it. And I know that girls don't talk about it as much as guys do, but also for girls both masturbation and pornography is something normal. I touch, you touch, and probably all the people both you and me know do touch, and if they got a internet connection then it is highly unlikely that any of them do no watch porn sometimes, unless they are really old or have some kind of illness. So unless you didn't know: Then it is not much to worry about, you are not more sinful then anyone else.

My thoughts about your phone conversations with this old man, is that you should try to stop this, it is better with masturbation and porn, because this don't only involve you, but also another man. And he should do something else then to play around with young girls if he is a old man. And these phone conversations don't help him to find something better.

But like the verses from the Romans tell, this is something you do because you are sold under sin with your carnal nature. And like I already mentioned: All this is normal for you, me and anyone else. This is what we are.

THIS IS NOT ME

If you want to conquer this, then the first thing you have to admit is that all this is you. All this is sin you do, and it is not anyone else doing the sin. And if you admit this, then you also have to admit that you have no control over this. That this is something you want to stop doing, but you can't. And you have to bring it to God. No one on this forum will be able to say anything that help you. You are lost. You can't stop doing it, and no matter how much you try, you will fail. So the clue is when you notice that you are filled with lust (You will probably notice this long before you actually do any sin), then you have to take the step and bring it all to God and say: "I don't know what to do with all this, I can't help doing it, I can't do your will on my own. You have to help me with this". And this is really what will make the difference. Because you know that to be able to sin you will have to escape from God, but if you don't escape, but instead turn to him, then he will give you the power you need. What is impossible for humans, is possible for God. And you will notice that the situation is not so hopeless when you bring it to God. He will give you all the power you need with his Spirit. And you can only say your thanks to him and give him the glory that you don't have. And he deserve it.

There will probably be failures, but He got mercy, he got all you need even when you fail. But if you do this: To turn to him instead of facing the impossible, then you will find the victory you seek. Trust it and you will see that it is true.

I also want to mention that if you experience that this works, but still are filled with lusts, then you should consider getting married, like Paul advice us. "It is better to get married then to burn with lusts".

Remember that we can do nothing in ourselves, but we depend on his mercy. It is not about self-control, not about willpower, not about determination, not about morality, not about the laws of God, not about doing the right, not about being righteous, not about being pure and clean, but ALL about his mercy that works trough us.

God bless you.

 

[jbm611973]

I'm going to try to make this short. I am working on recovering from sexual abuse. I have had a tuff time with sexual sin. Im going to be flat out honest here. My biggest sin that I have struggled with since age 7 is touching yourself. Some of you may not think this is a sin but i do. i belive its a sin becasue I cannot not stop no matter what, also i do it so much that it interfears with my daily life. I have tried so hard to fight the temptation but i get to a point where i turn on auto pilot and then nothing can stop me. I have gotten to a point where i go to sex shops and buy toys. THIS IS NOT ME. I don't know why i do this. The second biggest sin struggle with is Pornography. I also struggle from this b/c of my past. I cannot not look at porn. If i don't look at it, it plays in my head, it plays in my dreams. I have a strong feeling that what i am struggling with is demonic because everynight i have a dream that makes me feel shameful when i wake up.

Lastly,
about a month ago i gave a man my phone number online.He would call me and basically walk me through how to make myself feel good. We would have “phone sex.” this man was old. i feel gross just saying this. Anyways i still have theses thoughts wanting to call him. I know it's VERY dangerous. I scare myself becasue i am putting myself in danger and i dont even care. I dont know what to do. I dont know how to stop sinning. i want so so so badly to please God yet i also desire these things that bring me sexual pleasure. I know i cannot serve to masters. what i am doing is bringing me further from God because of shame. I just feel like i am spiraling down. Please pray about this and let me know what you think and what you think God thinks. Thank you for your time.

-Chelsea

The Lord hears our prayers and knows our heart.Anything that makes you feel shameful is not normal,it is sinful....The obsession of it leads me to believe that satan is working on your weakness to such a degree you can't think of anything else...becausehis primary focus is to keep us away from God. But know he can't do that. God's word is our sword and Jesus is our shield from his attack...Eph 6:10 Finally,be strong in the Lord's and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. read all the way to vs. 19 God Bless!!!

 

[CrossLover]

Hey, I wannaflyaway!

I as well struggle with masturbation. (Go figure. I'm a guy and I'm 15. Of course I'm struggling with it) But I just wanted to let you know that I'll be keeping you in my prayers!
Remain Strong!

PS: I live in Missouri too! =)

And remember...
"God made you special, and he loves you very much!"
-Bob the Tomato & Larry the Cucumber

God Bless!

 

[SpitfireOverThames]

Hi Chelsea,
You are facing some real battles, and your battle is a battle of your mind. I just believe that you can overcome in this battle, that He is fighting with you to help you overcome. You have to believe what God thinks about you, that He loves you, Chelsea...just as you are. You don't have to stop sinning to get His love. It is there for you...streaming toward you with the heat of light. But sometimes our self-opinions, opinions of others', and the things we do will cause a Nuclear Winter, where the love of God is unable to penetrate and warm and lighten your life. Lil' sis, you are in a battle, and it is a battle of the mind.

Firstly, you need a church home. And a church that you can be brutally honest with.

Secondly, you need a woman of God in your life, someone who will listen without judgement, without condemnation, but who will become a spiritual mom to you.

Thirdly, you need to forgive the person who abused you. You can't do it in your own strength or ability, but you CAN do it by the power of the Holy Spirit. The root of bitternness will kill you slowly over time... Its a poison... Be released of that poison by finding a way to forgive your abuser.

Fourth, realize that your conscience is a good guage of what is wrong or needs to be avoided in your life. Your conscience in many cases confirms that something is amiss in your life... Learn to obey your conscience, rather than doing things that cause so much pain inside you.

Fifth, if you are in Christ, you need to rebuke and keep rebuking...to bind the power of the enemy in your life. Clear the "sandbox" of your mind of any influencer that is not of God... But you'll really need an older sister or brother in the Lord to help you with this...

Sixth, if you are in Christ, you need the power of the Holy SPirit... You need to be immersed/baptized in the Holy Spirit. This wont take away temptation or be a magical wand to wave when you are tempted, but it will give you the guidance, power, and presence of God to be able to avoid "trouble spots" in your life that are causing temptations.

I hope this helps you... This is just a quick list of things you can do to begin a change... Can you talk to your own Mom and Dad? Can you be honest with them? Do you have a strong Christian friend in your life who would understand your situation ad be able to help?

Let me know how you are, please. Thanks!
~Sean

 

[deepdownisunkown]

I grew up a christian and was forced to go to church (didn't like church much)
found out about masturbating at 13 and i've been struggling since then.
I sometimes wanna say i hate myself i wish i never started.
right after i do it i feel guilty and am like "okay NOW i'm going to stop" so i stop for 5-1 day(s) and start again and i feel like i'm repeating over...and over...I think i can get through it though...can you guys give me some encouragement? I will book mark this and whenever i feel the urge i will come on to this .
Thanks.

 

[Criada]

Praying for you, little brother.
You can get through it, because God is with you, and He has the victory.
And He loves you, unconditionally

 

[Criada]

Praying for you, little brother.
You can get through it, because God is with you, and He has the victory.
And He loves you, unconditionally