You might want to try going to counseling and get everything out in the open it might explain why he seems to be lazy or mean (there is no excuse for the constant lieing). Is this how he has always been or is it just after you started having a bad pregnancy? I dont know all the details but I know not getting laid for months on end would make me very upset, unless you were hospitalized for the duration of your pregnancy or something. I hope you can work things out. Also if there is tension after the baby is born the baby will feel it as well and it will be an all around bad situation.
I have heard way to many pregnancy and baby horror storys so if my wife were not steril I would have sterilized myself.
Totally didn't mean to hijack your thread..
he won't go to counseling. He's lazy because he said he doesn't like to do anything that doesn't immediately benefit himself, plus his momma and dadda do everything for him, and tell him he doesn't have to listen to me, etc.... (all that's a long story, MIL is somewhat better, FIL is just a child period)His mom is a HUGE liar, so I'm guessing that's where he gets it, he's admitted his lying is wrong and all the other thins he does, but he doesn't do anything to "change". We did have a VERY healthy sex life pre-marriage (yes, I know it's wrong... ), and even somewhat after marriage, but the problems got worse while I was pregnant with our first because his mom was telling him to lie, and leave me and take the baby etc etc and I found out about it, we almost divorced, he came clean, so I stayed... And, I've tried having intimacy with him during this pregnancy and with our first daughter, but, it's really uncomfy for me, but we worked around it... and yes, I have been hospitalized with this pregnancy, I was VERY sick on feeding ports everything, it's been a roller coaster.. and when I start to let my guard back down, when things seem to go well, he reverts back... so, it's an odd situation to say the least... my dad suggested trying to be more intimate with him, that perhaps it would make him feel "loved" and he would reciprocate to being a better man, I tried and no it didn't really help, if it did, well.. yeah, enough said lol
about your comment about kids and marriage, it's not always a bad situation honestly... it can cause some sexual tension for both, mom always taking care of a kiddie, but there's always midnights, or early am's, grandparents, etc... there's a way to fit intimacy in.. it's just takeing the time to set aside being a mom and dad, and just having a date night alone with your partner.. I think kids bring fulfillment (for some) in a marriage, there's lots of joys in seeing a child created from it's mom and dad and watch the child growing up...