Problem with sexuality since I was a child

[Woman_of_The_Word]

When I was young, I remember going into the adult section. I looked through the videos to see people having sex. I was real young in elementary school. As I got older the sexual temptations became stronger. I started drawing pictures of naked people. I got so bad into it into my teen years. I started taking off my pants and started pretending that I was having sex. I would look at ads and lust over the people in underwears. This is a serious post, I am not doing it for attention but for help . One day, I was raped by a close family member. He touched me with his hands down there and it kept happening for years. I never screamed and he would give me money. I didn't like it. I remember squeezing my legs so he couldn't touch me but he was to strong. I told my mom but my dad didn't believe me. He still doesn't believe me. I never had sexual intercourse but do you think this can be genetic? Please help me, I still struggle with lust to this day.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Aww.
*hug*
Counseling. Get counseling. It can help you through the issues of your abuse.

As far as lust/desire issues, you are not alone. There are many many women who struggle in these areas as well.

Desire is a healthy part of us, given by God. So as you're figuring yourself out, don't confuse lust with desire. Lust is greedy selfishness, wanting to use someone else as an inhuman object of pleasure, with no concern for the fact that it is another person.

If this applies:
Often masturbation is an issue. Truthfully, I don't think it's a big deal. The discouragement and destruction of self-esteem is worse than masturbation could ever be. I believe there is a host of other personal priorities one should focus on.
Focusing on other things makes the issue become smaller.
Once again, this is a thing many many women do as well.
So you're not alone. You've a lot of sisters here to support you.

 

[Linnis]

Counseling will give you ways to cope. From what I've seen women react to rape in two ways generally, the first they never want sex or anything sexual again and the other, they become overly sexual. Both lead to guilt and it's not a nice thing to try and handle and most can never handle it alone.

Breaking the silence is what you did by telling, not only your parents but here too.


There are many groups and organizations which offer free Counseling or that can get you in touch with places that do. Some also offer faith based Counseling which may be an option you'd like.

 

[Penny_Lane]

Lust is a very natural thing, everyone has it and it´s not bad at all. I´ts just a biological function of your body. Sexual desire starts manifestating around childhood, in fifth or sixth grade and its very normal.

 

[madison1101]

It sounds like you were sexually abused, and need therapy. Find a therapist you can trust and open up with.

Your sexual desires are normal. Part of what you are experiencing is the result of your abuse. A good therapist will help you work through it.

In the meantime, get into the Bible and pray and ask God to help heal you. He can. He does.

I speak from experience of having been molested as a teenager.

 

[Saucy]

Ask any guy how bad sexual temptation and desires are. It's said that guys think about sex every 2 seconds while women do it every 2 minutes. When you get caught up in it at an early age, it's bound to control your life. There's nothing wrong to have desires and such, but try not to let it control you. I was raped when I was seven by a male cousin and it wasn't fun. I didn't say anything because nobody would believe me, but remember though that person may not get in trouble for it in this life...God will take control of the situation. Pray to God. Ask him how you can end your temptations and desires. And don't give into them unless your married.

 

[oat02351]

When I was young, I remember going into the adult section. I looked through the videos to see people having sex. I was real young in elementary school. As I got older the sexual temptations became stronger. I started drawing pictures of naked people. I got so bad into it into my teen years. I started taking off my pants and started pretending that I was having sex. I would look at ads and lust over the people in underwears. This is a serious post, I am not doing it for attention but for help . One day, I was raped by a close family member. He touched me with his hands down there and it kept happening for years. I never screamed and he would give me money. I didn't like it. I remember squeezing my legs so he couldn't touch me but he was to strong. I told my mom but my dad didn't believe me. He still doesn't believe me. I never had sexual intercourse but do you think this can be genetic? Please help me, I still struggle with lust to this day.

You should see a phsycologist or a councelor to help you work through these issues. I believe what happened to you back then might explain your struggle. That is very serious and traumatic especially if you were young when it was going on and it's something you need help dealing with.
God be with you

 

[Johnnz]

Most people are more sexual that they admit to.

Your early sexual interest can be just a natural, active sexual awareness. In that you resisted your relative suggests that your sexual interests were pretty natural, as you wanted to maintain a moral position.

Or it may reflect spiritual issues from within your family. For example, rape or sexual abuse can leave an abiding spiritual inheritance in a family that can follow through several generations.

The abuse is an issue that does need some wise counsel and support.

John
NZ

 

[njcl]

your lusts and actions are simply nothing to worry about,i have never been abused but did 100 times worse and more odd things concerning my sexuality,as for your abuse,i tire of having to read about these subhumans molesting woman,i dont know if it has scarred you,im thinking its not a prominant thing in your mind but you were not believed,part of healing is to have it aknowledged,i would reccomend maybe seeing a catholic priest even if your not catholic,talk,they cannot divulge what you tell them,then recieve the blessings and healing prayers from him

 

[Johnnz]

Has any information posted so far been helpful or is something more needed?

John
NZ

 

[Johnnz]

Are you struggling with this as a single or a married woman?

John
NZ