Preparation for Marriage

[Flute28]

I have been asking for prayer for a couple of years now about reconciliation with and marriage to someone named Paul. He broke up with me many years ago, and I kept asking him to marry me, but he continued to say no. I knew in my heart, and my mind, and my soul that this was the right person for me, but he called the police in late 2014 and told them I was stalking him. Since then, I have contacted the police many times asking them to ask him to marry me for me. They did so once, and he told them he "got over me a long time ago," and then they threatened me with a warrant for my arrest if I ever contacted him again. Later this year, two years will have gone by since he first called the police. I have been in intense prayer. This past week, I finally got in touch with an officer who gave me a number and name to call, and he told me he might be able to help me, but I am nervous to call. Love does not "get over" anyone. Love is permanent. "Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." 1 Corinthians 13:6-7. Romantic love, marriage love, again is something we ought not to break apart. "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate." Matthew 19:5-6. But our Lord Jesus Christ said, "For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven." Matthew 22:30. Therefore, what is the point of loving another through marriage on earth? "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and the sexually immoral." Hebrews 13:4. Through marriage we learn how to love our neighbor. Through marriage we learn how to love. Please pray for me that I might have a lasting, Godly marriage with Paul. Amen.

 

[jacksknight]

I'm guessing no one will reply to your post because they don't want to say what needs to be said.

First off you need to stop worrying about what you want and figure out what God's will is for your life. Second you need to seek counseling. You clearly need some help figuring out how things work. When you are calling the police to get them to propose to a man who says you are a stalker then something is wrong. If Paul has moved on with his life then maybe it's time you moved on with yours.

Just because you feel something is right doesn't mean it is or that it will work out. Suicide bombers believe with all their heart, mind and soul that blowing themselves up and killing people is the right thing to do. What you are describing as love is trying to force someone into a relationship with you who seems to have clearly moved on.

You need to pray to God and find out what his will is and what he wants. I'm sure what I'm saying isn't what you want to hear but you should really consider it. Will be praying for you that you find God's will for your life.

 

[Ash8676]

Praying for you.

You must give this man you love, some space and let God be the one to reunite both of you together. If it is God's will for you both to be together, then he will make a way. If you do not want any trouble for yourself, then you must stop and think about how you are going about things with the man you like.

 

[Jesus' Follower]

Clasping my hands together and praying.

 

[Flute28]

Thank you all for praying. I will keep this person in my heart and continue to pray that we get married. I pray that it is God's will. And I will not let any person speak for God. God knows me, he knows me by name, and he knows every hair that is on my head. God loves me, God knows that I love this person, and he has already answered it affirmatively. Marrying Paul is his will. I'm sorry that you feel that I ought to give up on him, but I thought this was a thread for prayer only. I don't mean to make you defensive, but that was a police matter. The police will also decide if they should let me speak with him again. I have said enough. May the peace of God be with you all.

 

[Flute28]

It is a very complicated issue I am working on right now. Per federal stalking laws, because we live in two different states, I did no such thing as stalk him. It is federal stalking on the condition that I intimidated, harassed, or threatened him in a way that caused him emotional distress. My stay in an emergency room last year for suicidal ideation and a plan is evidence that I am in severe emotional distress because of the stalking accusation. I never intimidated, harassed, or threatened him in any way. I simply asked him to marry me a number of times through paper letters, email, and the telephone. My communication with him was not every day, not every month, and not every year. He never even told me not to call him anymore until after he had called the police. He specifically said over the phone that I could still write to him, but that he would not write back. And because I am asking the police permission to talk to him, therefore I am not breaking any police orders. It is a possibility right now that I get back together with him. Please understand that this is a complicated, emotional matter. It is also complicated the reasons why he may have wanted to accuse me of a crime in the first place, and whether it is a crime that he accused me of a crime, even though I am not guilty. I am a Roman Catholic. Therefore I believe that through the intercession of Mary, my every prayer will be answered. I have faith in Jesus, in God, and in the Holy Spirit. I believe that our Mother Church is attacked, but truth will reign. Similarly, I have been attacked, but through prayer I am victorious. By faith, we have life through our ever-loving God. Jesus is our savior, and by the blood of Jesus, on this Easter, we are forgiven of our sins, and by his resurrection, we are reborn and live forever.

 

[Stephanie7]

You have every right to claim a husband The bible says "whoso findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour of the LORD" Prov 18:22
But you should let God bring you the man he wants for you. God has given us a free will, but you cannot override someone else's will. They have to have a say in it.

Heavenly Father, I pray that You will bless this one with a husband that You have in mind for her. If it's meant to be Paul, then may all come together and may he come to her because he wants to and is meant for her. Bless this woman Father God with the love she is needing, In Jesus Name, Amen

 

[rockytopva]

Father I pray blessings on this request and for this relationship in Jesus name I pray. Also taking these needs before God in prayer on the 4:00AM bbnradio.org Family Altar program.