Praying for your abuser

[SiyoNqoba]

I was sexually assaulted by my ex-boyfriend when I was 14, and now that I've stopped being so angry, my heart breaks for him. He's walked so far away from God, and he's trapped in this mindset that girls are only there for sexual purposes and that they're available to him regardless of consent (I wasn't the only one, but I was the worst). So I constantly pray for him, and I've heard that my prayer is working.

But...I dont know. Is this normal? Is it okay? It's not the only abuse I've suffered, but he's definitely the only one I feel this way about.

 

[Patrina]

I think that praying for your abuser is a healthy way to help assist in your healing process. You are a very strong woman!

 

[SiyoNqoba]

Thanks

I guess I just listen too much to people telling me it's unhealthy. They think that I should hate him, but I can't because he's God's child too.

 

[ChildishFears]

I was sexually assaulted by my ex-boyfriend when I was 14, and now that I've stopped being so angry, my heart breaks for him. He's walked so far away from God, and he's trapped in this mindset that girls are only there for sexual purposes and that they're available to him regardless of consent (I wasn't the only one, but I was the worst). So I constantly pray for him, and I've heard that my prayer is working.

But...I dont know. Is this normal? Is it okay? It's not the only abuse I've suffered, but he's definitely the only one I feel this way about.

You should call the police then pray your ex goes to prison.

 

[ForAMomentIWillFly]

I don't know how you do it Siyo.

I cannot even carry on a positive thought about them. How you can actually care to pray is beyond me.

 

[restore]

i probably need to do that too, maybe will help me grow and heal, so hard,,

 

[327]

I was sexually assaulted by my ex-boyfriend when I was 14, and now that I've stopped being so angry, my heart breaks for him. He's walked so far away from God, and he's trapped in this mindset that girls are only there for sexual purposes and that they're available to him regardless of consent (I wasn't the only one, but I was the worst). So I constantly pray for him, and I've heard that my prayer is working.

But...I dont know. Is this normal? Is it okay? It's not the only abuse I've suffered, but he's definitely the only one I feel this way about.

That’s a really big step. If you love those who hurt you, you can see it as a great opportunity to intercede for them. People who hurt others, they are just hurting too. God will bless you for the love you have for others.

Trust me, I prayed for men that I HATED with all my might. Even though I hated them, I prayed for them like they were my own brother. I asked the Lord to change my heart towards them and God is awesome. I wouldn’t be able to love them without His love.