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So about a month ago, i dated a guy for about a week from a christian dating website. It was a long distance relationship. I really felt like we had chemistry and such, like it was easy to talk to him, and he was understanding and we had similar interests but then he rushed, for the first few days I felt like he went to level 200 in our relationship (I am like level 1 because even though I am almost 30 years old, I havent dated much like hardly..), Anyways I didnt know what to do, I wanted to speak up but I was shocked and had anxieties... then I had mix feelings, I wasn't sure if he had a relationship with God/Christian/equally yoked. He did talk about God but I didn't asked him too much about his relationship with God and there were other things I didnt ask that I wanted too. I kinda regretted not asking about other info from him. With my mixed feelings, I decided to end my relationship with the guy. It was only a week but sometimes I think about it like what if I told him that he was rushing or how I am at level 1 with dating and I need to take steps one at a time kinda thing... I guess what I am asking I think I should of tried working out the relationship instead of leaving it? I mean I guess also another reason was safety, I wasnt sure if he was safe, because he was rushing the relationship, there were red flags here and there but then again, what if I was wrong? Ahh I do not know what to do, because there is a part of me, that I want to get back in touch with him(he has not spoken to me since... I think I might of hurt his feelings... maybe?? ) but there another part me that doesnt because I am not sure what God wants for me, I have been praying for direction about this situation, like I think God wants me to do something but I dont know what it is! What would you do in this situation? Please pray about this situation!! Thank you <3
 

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Relationships are hard and take a lot of work, respect, prayers and communication to make them work.

I think you were wise in taking it slow. When I met my wife at first, we were just friends going to church together and I had no thoughts about a relationship at that time, I had my focus on God.

Praying for healing, guidance, wisdom and that special one and peace until you find him in the name of Jesus Christ. Thank You Lord!
 
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You speak of red flags. I always remember a police officer talking to a group of women about being safe with men. He said "If you feel like something is wrong, listen to that feeling. It is almost always right."
Praying for you.
 
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Thank you so much! I totally agree, I prefer to take things slow.... It got me thinking maybe he was insecure?
 
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You speak of red flags. I always remember a police officer talking to a group of women about being safe with men. He said "If you feel like something is wrong, listen to that feeling. It is almost always right."
Praying for you.
I really felt like it could be red flags, but then again I might of mistake them as his insecurities... if that makes sense? My problem is my heart feels so heavy lately once in a while whenever I think about him... so I dont know whats going on and I keep on praying.
 
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I would be very cautious with online relationships. There are many who do not know the difference between pray... And prey!

Father I pray blessings on this request and help on this relationship in Jesus name I pray. Also taking these needs before God in prayer on the 1:15PM bbnradio.org Family Altar program.

 
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