Prayer for wisdom and courage

GaveMeJoy · Feb 5, 2020

Hello Jesus lovers,

I am divorced (wife walked away from Christ completely, met a guy and divorced me against my will) semi recently.

I am still processing the grief though I wouldn’t consider myself lonely. I have precious joy from the savior every step and every day!

However it’s been a decade since I have ever even spoke to women really outside of the context of married friend couples and family members. I intentionally kept wearing my ring on purpose but my Christian therapist and family and elders etc all encouraged me to take it off. So I did and now I’m not so sure was the right call.

A very nice and attractive woman from my work community has been giving me attention pretty overtly hinting at wanting to become friends and who knows and now I’m thinking about her which is problematic.

My perspective is I need full healing before really making female friendships, I don’t even know how to navigate them, and I’m borderline confused about whether or not remarriage is even biblical (even though I was the victim of infidelity/I tried to stay married, and it’s a “biblical divorce”). Haven’t processed this stuff, now I feel like this whole thing might be a satanic thing. Idk I’m probably over thinking it but would appreciate prayer!
-J

tturt · Feb 6, 2020

I would asks God to remove whatever I need and to heal me.

Praying for wisdom and courage.

Rescued One · Feb 6, 2020

When my husband died a man at Walmart kept hitting on me, even though I tried to brush him off. I went out and bought a five dollar ring that looked like a wedding ring because mine was stolen. Then I would shop at another store. I guess he doesn't work there anymore. I think if I were you, I'd wear the ring for several months still.

Praying for you.

maintenance man · Feb 6, 2020

I'm praying now that God speaks to you more clearly so that you will know for sure which path to take.

Aussie Pete · Feb 6, 2020

GaveMeJoy said:
Hello Jesus lovers,

I am divorced (wife walked away from Christ completely, met a guy and divorced me against my will) semi recently.

I am still processing the grief though I wouldn’t consider myself lonely. I have precious joy from the savior every step and every day!

However it’s been a decade since I have ever even spoke to women really outside of the context of married friend couples and family members. I intentionally kept wearing my ring on purpose but my Christian therapist and family and elders etc all encouraged me to take it off. So I did and now I’m not so sure was the right call.

A very nice and attractive woman from my work community has been giving me attention pretty overtly hinting at wanting to become friends and who knows and now I’m thinking about her which is problematic.

My perspective is I need full healing before really making female friendships, I don’t even know how to navigate them, and I’m borderline confused about whether or not remarriage is even biblical (even though I was the victim of infidelity/I tried to stay married, and it’s a “biblical divorce”). Haven’t processed this stuff, now I feel like this whole thing might be a satanic thing. Idk I’m probably over thinking it but would appreciate prayer!
-J

Sensible. I'm still thinking about remarrying after 25 years. However............. You are right about the healing bit. Mostly, the hurt is unforgiveness and that includes how we beat ourselves up. This will help:
Can you forgive from your heart? - Christian Life Frankston

GaveMeJoy · Feb 6, 2020

Phoebe Ann said:
When my husband died a man at Walmart kept hitting on me, even though I tried to brush him off. I went out and bought a five dollar ring that looked like a wedding ring because mine was stolen. Then I would shop at another store. I guess he doesn't work there anymore. I think if I were you, I'd wear the ring for several months still.

Praying for you.

Thanks for your prayers! I can definitely handle this particular individual who is very nice and being professional about it but my concerns lie more with why I’m thinking about it instead of Jesus

tturt · Feb 6, 2020

Wondering what you think it might be satanic?

tturt · Feb 6, 2020

That is a good article. Thanks.

jannikitty · Feb 6, 2020

GaveMeJoy said:
Hello Jesus lovers,

I am divorced (wife walked away from Christ completely, met a guy and divorced me against my will) semi recently.

I am still processing the grief though I wouldn’t consider myself lonely. I have precious joy from the savior every step and every day!

(Adjustments to life as a single person after years of married can be challenging as well as frustrating. My prayers today for you to be graced and enabled by the Spirit to navigate the waters with peace and confidence. God is with..but prayers help. ]

However it’s been a decade since I have ever even spoke to women really outside of the context of married friend couples and family members. I intentionally kept wearing my ring on purpose but my Christian therapist and family and elders etc all encouraged me to take it off. So I did and now I’m not so sure was the right call.

A very nice and attractive woman from my work community has been giving me attention pretty overtly hinting at wanting to become friends and who knows and now I’m thinking about her which is problematic.

My perspective is I need full healing before really making female friendships, I don’t even know how to navigate them, and I’m borderline confused about whether or not remarriage is even biblical (even though I was the victim of infidelity/I tried to stay married, and it’s a “biblical divorce”). Haven’t processed this stuff, now I feel like this whole thing might be a satanic thing. Idk I’m probably over thinking it but would appreciate prayer!
-J

Navigating the "single" waters can be challenging. Praying that you find a peaceful path as God is with you.

Brian Mcnamee · Feb 6, 2020

Hi sorry for what you have gone through. You have sort of answered your own question by noting that you need to heal and the nice lady is certainly a comforting option like a warm fire to draw near when you are cold but you know that this is too soon and are now a little confused because that daily you see this opportunity. So what to do? Earnestly put seeking the LORD 1st and serving in some volunteer capacity that will take up your free time. Focus your time and energy on others and do something now that you might not be able to down the road. Take off your ring and own the space you are in which is a divorced male still hurting from the experience. As far as the lady at work goes continue to be kind and if the conversation comes up be honest with her. Some guys will befriend a lady and tell them all about ex all the time that is toxic. When you are healed you will have the discernment and if you are walking closer with the LORD you will attract a woman who sees that and you will find a woman who is also serving and making her life count.
When I was younger I learned the hard way a valuable lesson about women. There is a big difference between what I wanted and what I needed. Now I have both because my wife is a Godly woman and she brings joy and serves the Lord all the time as a teacher at a private Christian school. When she wakes up she is full of joy and purpose and I share the experience with her. In my walk my joy and peace are not based on our relationship but the closeness to God. This peace spills over and we are equally yolked in the greater eternal path. So when you start to make sure your life is on this path on your own eventually one will come along that belongs by your side. Enjoy the season of healing and the comfort of pouring out your grief to Jesus and carry on. You will be like a guy who joins a gym and sticks with the program over time the results show up.

GaveMeJoy · Feb 6, 2020

Brian Mcnamee said:
Hi sorry for what you have gone through. You have sort of answered your own question by noting that you need to heal and the nice lady is certainly a comforting option like a warm fire to draw near when you are cold but you know that this is too soon and are now a little confused because that daily you see this opportunity. So what to do? Earnestly put seeking the LORD 1st and serving in some volunteer capacity that will take up your free time. Focus your time and energy on others and do something now that you might not be able to down the road. Take off your ring and own the space you are in which is a divorced male still hurting from the experience. As far as the lady at work goes continue to be kind and if the conversation comes up be honest with her. Some guys will befriend a lady and tell them all about ex all the time that is toxic. When you are healed you will have the discernment and if you are walking closer with the LORD you will attract a woman who sees that and you will find a woman who is also serving and making her life count.
When I was younger I learned the hard way a valuable lesson about women. There is a big difference between what I wanted and what I needed. Now I have both because my wife is a Godly woman and she brings joy and serves the Lord all the time as a teacher at a private Christian school. When she wakes up she is full of joy and purpose and I share the experience with her. In my walk my joy and peace are not based on our relationship but the closeness to God. This peace spills over and we are equally yolked in the greater eternal path. So when you start to make sure your life is on this path on your own eventually one will come along that belongs by your side. Enjoy the season of healing and the comfort of pouring out your grief to Jesus and carry on. You will be like a guy who joins a gym and sticks with the program over time the results show up.

Your words are guided by the Holy Spirit into my heart just what I know and need thank you

GaveMeJoy · Feb 6, 2020

tturt said:
Wondering what you think it might be satanic?

just that I need to focus on Jesus and healing, and for some reason I’m thinking about this other person. Wondering if someone is trying to distract me and pull me into a friendship that isn’t of God

Brian Mcnamee · Feb 6, 2020

GaveMeJoy said:
Your words are guided by the Holy Spirit into my heart just what I know and need thank you

cool Ive been there you will be in my prayers.

musicalpilgrim · Feb 6, 2020

I pray that the Lord will direct you in the way you should go, and give you peace as you seek more of him in your life.

Prayer for wisdom and courage

Well-Known Member

Senior Veteran

...yet not I, but the grace of God that is with me

Well-Known Member

Well-Known Member

Well-Known Member

Senior Veteran

Senior Veteran

wise ole owl

Well-Known Member

Well-Known Member

Well-Known Member

Well-Known Member

pilgrim on the sacred music pathway

Similar threads

Privacy & Transparency

Privacy & Transparency