Prayer for God to help fix close friendship

[Robert Richborough]

First post I apologize if this is not quite right I try to read all the rules.

I have a friend who is a good Christian but sometimes prideful and intentionally hurtful, I called them out on it and I could have done it in a better way, why I still think what I said was valid I let my own pride take over somewhat. It really upset this friend and I am concerned that she will never speak to me again.

I pray that first God will help me see the mistakes and sins I put to her and take these from me, and I pray that God helps this friend with her sins and restore our broken friendship so that we can both treat each other as he wishes if it his will. I would appreciate if others helped pray for this as this person is very important to me, as it was them who lead me to God.

 

[servant of Merciful Love]

God bless you both

 

[Robert Richborough]

Thank you Servant of merciful god !

 

[brinny]

Praying for your friend, and you too (((hug)))

 

[Kerensa]

Yes, God bless you both. I had a similar situation a few years ago with a dear friend from my church whom I hurt and upset, unintentionally but repeatedly — in this case it was largely through my own selfish behaviour and self-righteousness, much though of course I'd convinced myself at the time that I was all right and my friend was being unfair. It got to the point where it looked like that friendship was irreparably destroyed and I was devastated; there was nothing for it but to pray as deeply and remorsefully as I ever have. I realised I had to learn to ask myself constantly, before opening my big mouth in front of anyone, "Is this really in accord with the Golden Rule?" (i.e. do unto others as you would have them do unto you) — and also had to think a lot about what Jesus had to say about the mote and the beam... (Matthew 7:3-5)

On top of that, it came to me through prayer that I had to work on simply loving my friend, absolutely unconditionally and purely, as God loves her (and letting Him, not my own selfish thoughts, show me how that love could best be expressed at any given time). It was one of the most humbling experiences I've ever been through — and it wasn't at all easy — but over several months, our friendship did regrow and flourish again and is as strong now as ever. (And, on my part, treasured more than ever and no longer taken for granted.)

Of course, the approach you're led to take may be different — I'm just sharing my own experience here to show that these painful situations definitely can be healed, through God's love and forgiveness. It sounds like you're already on the right track, Robert, so keep going and keep loving! My prayers are with you too.

 

[Robert Richborough]

Yes, God bless you both. I had a similar situation a few years ago with a dear friend from my church whom I hurt and upset, unintentionally but repeatedly — in this case it was largely through my own selfish behaviour and self-righteousness, much though of course I'd convinced myself at the time that I was all right and my friend was being unfair. It got to the point where it looked like that friendship was irreparably destroyed and I was devastated; there was nothing for it but to pray as deeply and remorsefully as I ever have. I realised I had to learn to ask myself constantly, before opening my big mouth in front of anyone, "Is this really in accord with the Golden Rule?" (i.e. do unto others as you would have them do unto you) — and also had to think a lot about what Jesus had to say about the mote and the beam... (Matthew 7:3-5)

On top of that, it came to me through prayer that I had to work on simply loving my friend, absolutely unconditionally and purely, as God loves her (and letting Him, not my own selfish thoughts, show me how that love could best be expressed at any given time). It was one of the most humbling experiences I've ever been through — and it wasn't at all easy — but over several months, our friendship did regrow and flourish again and is as strong now as ever. (And, on my part, treasured more than ever and no longer taken for granted.)

Of course, the approach you're led to take may be different — I'm just sharing my own experience here to show that these painful situations definitely can be healed, through God's love and forgiveness. It sounds like you're already on the right track, Robert, so keep going and keep loving! My prayers are with you too.

Thank you Kerensa, in truth, I did not share because i was afraid / was shy to, I have conflicted emotions about this woman, I definitely want to be her friend, but I would be lying If there was not a part of me that desire to be more, she was interested at first but distance between us was an issue, It is part of the reason I rebuked her because her actions hurt a lot, I wanted her to be honest with herself about her opinions whether she thought she genuinely wanted to be more because her behaviour was strange (warm/cold), she admitted she had problems with expressing emotions and was afraid she'd never be able to express emotions, that maybe God never wanted her to marry or to feel love, she claims she had an issue with sociopathy , I said whether were meant to be or not, I wanted her to take this to God because he can heal it and deal with your pride, and your sociopathy take that before God as well, but otherwise don't mess me around, friends or more I wanted her to decide quickly because I felt like my life was moving fast, this was bad of me because of my pride as well.

I would like God to suppress/heal this in me if it's from a centre of selfishness and yes as you said to simply love her from a non-selfish perspective and be patient. but I wouldn't want to lose her as a friend because she gave me the courage to follow and pursue God despite my parent's disapproval and to get baptised and not be ashamed to follow Jesus. From that my relationship with God grew immensely.

Thank you for your story though.

 

[rockytopva]

Father I pray blessings on this request and upon this friendship in Jesus name I pray. Also taking these needs before God in prayer on the bbnradio.org Family Altar program... BBN Program Schedule

 

[Robert Richborough]

Father I pray blessings on this request and upon this friendship in Jesus name I pray. Also taking these needs before God in prayer on the bbnradio.org Family Altar program... BBN Program Schedule

oh wow thank you !

 

[Robert Richborough]

Sorry for double post, but it appears she has blocked me out of her life completely and severed every single means of communications

I really don't know how I could have hurt someone this much.

 

[CtC]

My friend, trust in what God has for you. You may not see it right now, but focus on Him, have faith in His provision. He knows your heart. He knows your need. He wants to know that you can handle this situation before taking you to the next level.

-- Father, God, Almighty, bring Your peace, bring Your comfort, bring Your guidance in this situation!

 

[Robert Richborough]

My friend, trust in what God has for you. You may not see it right now, but focus on Him, have faith in His provision. He knows your heart. He knows your need. He wants to know that you can handle this situation before taking you to the next level.

-- Father, God, Almighty, bring Your peace, bring Your comfort, bring Your guidance in this situation!

Thank you kindly sir!

 

[Robert Richborough]

Update: It seems so far, though I am not certain that God will not be fixing this friendship, I've prayed and prayed but this person appears very adamant that I stay out of their life now, they mentioned they have hatred and spite towards me. I don't know If I heard God correctly now and whether I should bother continue trying to fix this.

 

[CtC]

Update: It seems so far, though I am not certain that God will not be fixing this friendship, I've prayed and prayed but this person appears very adamant that I stay out of their life now, they mentioned they have hatred and spite towards me. I don't know If I heard God correctly now and whether I should bother continue trying to fix this.

I'm not very good with words, but I hope I can articulate this thought:

Focus on being you and being with the Lord throughout your day. Let Him bring His provision to you. This relationship is part of your story, but it isn't your whole story. God is the author of great lives. Seek Him and the right relationship, this one or another, will flourish.

-- Lord Jesus, I praise you for You are glorious! Guide us along the path of righteousness as we rely on Your provision.

 

[Robert Richborough]

I'm not very good with words, but I hope I can articulate this thought:

Focus on being you and being with the Lord throughout your day. Let Him bring His provision to you. This relationship is part of your story, but it isn't your whole story. God is the author of great lives. Seek Him and the right relationship, this one or another, will flourish.

-- Lord Jesus, I praise you for You are glorious! Guide us along the path of righteousness as we rely on Your provision.

I am most certainly trying, In the time this friend has not spoken to me, I've mostly just been with God or focusing on my studies, but I pray to him daily on this matter, I am beginning to want strength to let go, but for some reason he wont let me.