potty training advice needed.

[Gods4me]

My wee boy is 2 and half and we need to get these nappyes off him before he goes back to nursery in august.

the problem we are having is he loves his nappyes he hates the potty and toilet.

today i have not put a nappy on him not trousers or pants the potty is in the room and i keep encouging him to go the the potty he just refuses to sit on it.

he has done some pees in the potty and i prasie him for it but he just dont like it. he always crys for his nappy.

any advice. please. i really dono what to do.

 

[JulySheMustFly]

If he is crying he isn't ready. You can't force it if the child is not ready. It just makes the entire process longer and more frustrating.

My son was like that at two and a half but then he turned 3 and suddenly he was ready. He's been in just undies for about a month, even at night. Not all children are ready during the 2s.

I'm not sure I understand what nursery is? Is it day care? During church only?

 

[Hadassah]

What July said.
My brother was nearing 4 when he finally got the whole potty training thing. He got peeing in the pot down, but was afraid to do "the other" in the toilet for some reason... and then one day it all fell into place.

Some folks I know of have cloth diapered and put rubber pants on over, or put their kids in 'big kid' underwear and just watch them like a hawk day in and out...

But personally, if he is crying and fussing and begging for the diapers, he is not ready yet.

Usually a child will show interest in the toilet and beginning to be "grown", and when they do the process is a lot easier.

 

[-~Truth_N_Trust~-]

If you really want to give it a go, prepare yourself! Try to think of ways to encourage potty time to be fun, like give him a special book/toy to hold while sitting there, reward with stickers or lollies or something (as well as big hugs) for any 'action' Once He feels more comfortable sitting on the potty, try to get him to sit on there for a minute every 30mins or so - to try and 'catch' something, until he gets a bit more comfortable with how it all feels...
I think letting him run around without any bottoms on is a great idea to begin with, it really helps them to understand what is happening.
Try to stay calm, confident and consistant and see how you go!

 

[Neenie1]

Why is it you are in a hurry? Are you getting pressure to train him.

Personally if this was me (and it has been me in the past) I would let him go. It sounds like he is not ready and any pressure put on him will make the whole process take longer.

If it helps, ds was trained around his 3rd birthday. He was ready and it took a week or so. (he was dry at night within a month of his 3rd birthday)

DD is 35 months and isn't really ready yet at all. I am not worried as it is Winter here, and if need be we will wait until Christmas holidays to let her run around in underpants and a t-shirt around the house. (she will be 3 1/2 but does it really matter)

 

[lucypevensie]

I "had" to train my son before he was "ready" too. The reason I say I had to was because I was dealing with a chronic pain condition affecting my hands and arms and changing diapers was physically very difficult and painful for me. The reason I say he wasn't ready was because he just plain did not want to not use diapers. Quite the conundrum we found ourselves in! What to do, what to do... I made the decision for the both of us that it was time.

He did not like it. He wanted to wear diapers. I only let him wear a loose pull-up at naps and bedtime. We had run out of diapers. It was just the way the world was for us at that time. There were no diapers available and the only thing we could wear was underpants. For a while he even held it in and I felt so worried he might get a bladder infection. But he did go eventually - in his pants unfortunately. I always had my kids clean up he majority of their own potty accidents (I went back later and finished the clean-up). He did not appreciate the mess and the discomfort and soon decided that maybe Mom was onto something. Just maybe using the toilet wasn't such a bad thing after all. Plus, there was a candy treat as a reward, and who doesn't like candy treats!?

I'm just sharing my experience to prove that a child who's "not ready" can learn to use the potty chair. It takes a lot more patience though on the part of the trainer. You need to be understanding and CALM. Calm words, calm face, calm consequenses. Our body language and facial expressions speak volumes. If we show anxiety our kids will be anxious.

 

[Gods4me]

about 6 months ago james done it in the potty some times if he had no nappy i said to him to go sit on his potty and he did. but he did pees like every 20 mins so i knew his bladder wasnt ready for it.

becasue he started doing all this months ago the plan was to wait untill one of the holidays from nursery the best time would have been during the 2 weeks we got at easter but me and hubby got married then so i was running about like a headless chicken for 2 weeks and hubby had exams so it was just easier when i had james come with me to pick up wedding stuff. i didnt have to worry about getting to a toilet.

see the thing is he is ready blader wise he can hold it in (hes not going ever 20mins any more) and he knows when he is doing it he has just got lazy.


thanks lucypencive for actual adive.

ive asked for advice on hear before and got the whole hes not ready thing yet. im not asking you if you think hes ready im asking for advice. and not getting much of it by the looks of things.

 

[Neenie1]

ive asked for advice on hear before and got the whole hes not ready thing yet. im not asking you if you think hes ready im asking for advice. and not getting much of it by the looks of things.

You asked for advice. That's what you got. Just because someone doesn't give you the advice you wanted, doesn't mean it didn't come from good intentions.

It is my personal opinion that a child who isn't ready to potty train should not be pushed.

But I don't know you, or your child, so you just have to do what you think is best.

 

[Stan53]

he has done some pees in the potty and i prasie him for it but he just dont like it. he always crys for his nappy.

any advice. please. i really dono what to do.

I have written on this subject in here before. If you go look at my profile, then go look at my previous posts you might just find what you need in there.
Don't give up. And, for your little one, I wouldn't give him the nappy. In other words, I wouldn't give in.
Also, have you ever heard of "Toilet Timing"? In actual fact, that is what we did with Michele. We didn't know it was called that. We just did what we needed to do.
My SIL was told when her boy was around the same age, that if he was to start 3 year old pre-school, then he needed to be toilet trained.
Above all, like I said before, don't give up. He will learn and he will also can do it. If we can train our children to do other things then we most certainly can train them to go to the toilet. If they can obey us when we tell them to do other things then they can certainly obey us when we put them on the potty.
Place him on the potty at regular intervals. You will need to study how often and when he goes, to get the timing correct. Take a note of how long between each toilet session and the time of day that he does it. Then arrange his potty sittings accordingly. It may be that he goes, for example, at 2 hour intervals, then you will need to get him on the potty every 2 hours and so on. Did that make sense? When you take him to the potty. expect him to do what you tell him and then act accordingly if he doesn't. Never mind the squawking. At first it will be your will against his will. But with suitable encouragement, he will soon be willing.

 

[JulySheMustFly]

Ditch the dipes until bedtime. Set a timer. Make it fun. (Books, stickers, special toy, charts, songs etc) Be patient! Lucy's last paragraph is imperative when it comes to working with a child who is not initiating it on their own.

 

[Hadassah]

If you are gonna do it, you have to be consistant and make sure the nursery school is on the same page as you as far as the potty training. Often boys take longer to "get" the whole going to the potty thing as it is a different sensation than what we girls have.
I know several boys that were firstborn children that didn't 'get' the whole idea until their younger brother (12 or 18 months younger than them) started potty training on their own while their mom was trying hard with the eldest... then it just 'clicked'.

My brother took forever, and as a contrast from what I am hearing from my mother in law, my DH trained and totally got the concept at a very early age because he wanted to go to kindergarten (which starts at 3 here). She said he hated being wet and gave up the diapers on his own, and threw a fit when they took a long trip to switzerland and she had to put him back in diapers because they couldn't stop along the way for potty breaks (not many rest stops 24 years ago). He cried for a couple of hours until they could stop by the side of the road and hide him behind a tree.

I do remember vaguely when my mom was trying to train my sister, and the biggest thing at night was making sure she went before she slept and had nothing to drink an hour prior to going to bed, and walking her a couple of hours into sleep to the potty to go again before my parents went to bed. During the day she had her in regular panties and just kept her in the room with her and asked all the time if she had to go, and took her at regular intervals to the restroom.

If you really watch them, you can read their body language before they have figured out they need to go to the potty. They start giving subtle hints.

Some friends of mine kept a potty chair in the room they were in, just in case they couldn't run to the restroom fast enough while training their child... seems like a smart idea to me, considering they have wood flooring!!

Each child is different, and some kids take as long as almost 4 or almost 5 to totally get the whole idea of potty training. Some get it as early as 18 months.

 

[Gods4me]

Thnaks people! i need to get him out of nappyes by 28th august which yes is still a while away but if i dont get him in to nappyes he cant go to nursery.

im not a stay at home mum i have do do it when we are on holiday this gives us 8 weeks. if i was a stay at home mum it be fine i would just put it off until l he was really really ready but we dont have that luxury. we are just gonna have to give it a bash.

stan i cant acually seach through your posts. for some reason you just aint allowed to do it any more.


i really do justwanna give up on it. ive lost count of how namy times ive had to clean the floor (glad we have leather suite and wodden floors). Hubby is being un helpful and just puts the nappy back on him. he has even less pateince than me.

 

[ClickerChik]

My son is going to be 2 in September and people are always asking me if I have started potty training him yet. Many say oh now that it is summer it's a great time to start so that by winter he will be potty trained. He understands the concept and knows what the potty is for, but until he is ready I don't think it should ever be pushed upon. It seems that now people try to train their little ones asap and everyone is talking about it. I dunno...

 

[bugaboo]

I made a point of training my children. I did it when I thought they were ready - they could tell me when they had to go. I took a few days with them, where we were able to stay home and put them on the potty at regular intervals. I gave them lots to drink, things I wouldn't normally ever give them, like lots of juice and watered down pop so that they had more opportunity to go. I also kept them in undies or bare bottomed to make it easier. And I made a huge deal of it whenever they got it right (treats, praise, dancing, etc.). I tried to make it a lot of fun. I did however, put them in a diaper at night. My oldest was trained perfectly in 2-3 days, and my youngest in about a week. They were both trained very close to their second birthday. The most important thing for me was being able to put them on every 20-30 minutes, consistently, for a few days without interruption.