My boyfriend and I has been dating for 5 years now. The problem is that I am a believer of Jesus Christ and he is not. Our relationship as of right now is still really strong, and I feel like he is the one that God sent me to. I am a Christian all my life and just recently a reborn Christian, and has been serving Gods will for 3 years now. Everytime when I ask him if he would be a follower of Jesus and believe in him, he would always say that he is not sure, and will see what the future brings us and that he still has a lot of time to think about it. I just have to say that I believe in Jesus Christ and his words, but this man that I am with seems to be the right one. I really need your prayers and advices. I am not sure what to do with life at this point. I know that they always say if you believe in him, leave all your sins behind and whatever is sinful behind and God will give everything you need and want when you enter into his kingdom. I dont want to regret anything afterwards. I am so lost, confused, stressed and scared right now. Should I just let go of everything and be a follower of Jesus Christ??? Should I just run from everything and start a new life with Jesus Christ?? OR Should I just stick with what I have now and wait for what the future will bring?? Please help. Thank You and God Bless!!
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Hello Cnb =).
Do you believe that he will one day be open to God? Are you sure that your relationship with him is right from God's view? I'm not sure how old you are, but I know from experiance that when you're young and with a person that you feel you're in love with, it's very easy to look over real problems. Sometimes you can be blinded by other people, especially if you're not both guided by God. Are you dating with the true prospect of marriage, and more importantly is he dating with the prospect of getting married? Do you believe that he would make a good husband, or do you think you'll need to fix him before he can be? That kind of relationship hardly ever works. You've just got to ask yourself many questions, and be honest with yourself also. When it comes to relationships and marriage, I wish I could have been born at another time. They are so complicated today, especially with society pounding the complete wrong ideas into our heads.
Do you believe that he will one day be open to God? Are you sure that your relationship with him is right from God's view? I'm not sure how old you are, but I know from experiance that when you're young and with a person that you feel you're in love with, it's very easy to look over real problems. Sometimes you can be blinded by other people, especially if you're not both guided by God. Are you dating with the true prospect of marriage, and more importantly is he dating with the prospect of getting married? Do you believe that he would make a good husband, or do you think you'll need to fix him before he can be? That kind of relationship hardly ever works. You've just got to ask yourself many questions, and be honest with yourself also. When it comes to relationships and marriage, I wish I could have been born at another time. They are so complicated today, especially with society pounding the complete wrong ideas into our heads.
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This man knows what's up. If your intent is to "fix him" then you need to re-evaluate your motives and possibly relationship. If your motive is to be a supportive and loving girlfriend/wife that can perhaps guide him to Christ in the years to come, and you know that he will support you in what you do (within reason, of course
)even if he doesn't completely agree, then you have a much more solid foundation than if you were to force him to convert for you and he doesn't truly agree with those beliefs.The Bible says don't be unequally yoked and so forth, but people seem to forget about those mixed marriage verses. The reason that the verses about being unequally yoked are there to begin with is because it is often a bad idea for mixed-faith relationships to become marriages. If faith is very important to both parties and they have widely conflicting beliefs, then it could very well spell a quick end for that marriage.
True relationships are built on the love and support of one another, not ulterior motives of conversion or fixing. If you find that you can support each other in what you do, then it will likely work out. I have a friend whose parents are of mixed faiths. One is Methodist and one is Catholic. Not a huge difference, but big enough that it could cause strife. They went to Mass and the Methodist service each Sunday. That is dedication and is an example of what I'm talking about.
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People do forget about those mixed marriage verses.
But others forget that those verses were addressed to people already in such a relationship and not to those thinking about getting into one.
If you are not similar in the most core element of your being, how then can you truly be made one flesh?
If one is damned to hell and the other destined to heaven, what does light have to do with darkness?
Just be careful CNB and don't be easily swayed by the counsel of a few on the internet against the clear teaching of Paul in 2 Corinthians 6:14.
I do recommend that you seek counsel from your pastor and elders, though, and not just from those here.
But others forget that those verses were addressed to people already in such a relationship and not to those thinking about getting into one.
If you are not similar in the most core element of your being, how then can you truly be made one flesh?
If one is damned to hell and the other destined to heaven, what does light have to do with darkness?
Just be careful CNB and don't be easily swayed by the counsel of a few on the internet against the clear teaching of Paul in 2 Corinthians 6:14.
I do recommend that you seek counsel from your pastor and elders, though, and not just from those here.
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Yes, an internet forum is generally not the best place for help with real life problems. This forum is a bit more serious than others, but the general rule of "lol, internet" still stands.
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Dark Lite is right on the spot with that one, a internet forum is something which people engage in conversations on many topics to discuss and talk about things, but probably not the best place to rely on, if only to gain some ideas (though maybe you knew this already!). But dont turn a blind eye to the chapters and verses being mentioned, the bible is our manual to being a good human being dedicated to god
If it is any help (i hope im not repeating to much of what is above) i think you should not have to dilute yourself to acccomadate him. In relationships we all make sacrifices, it is natural, compromises are made because reality is no relationship is 100% like a tick list, flexibility is important. But you are now a child of god, a born again, in that you dedicated your life to your lord.
I think your BF more than understands or knows what and who you are, and is/has been for a while now been contemplating what to do next. Not to sound like a broken record but you have shown him the door, but you most certainly cant push him through it that is his choice. If he really loves you deep down inside, being a very emotionally attached person myself, i would certainly say that he would at least give you a chance and try being a christian for a little while, and see if it is the right thing for him or not.
One big mistake i would say though is to choose him over the lord, this most certainly would be the wrong choice. But if he was not converted but not part of any religion at all i wouldnt know what to say (i dont know enough about the bible myself to make any suggestions), and that is the best time to seek a elder and ask what might be written in the bible on these matters or if anything is written at all. And most importantly of all i would pray everynight to god asking for his advice and pray that your bf makes it his will to be the will of the lords. Just dont do what i did and take it personally or out on god if things dont work out, if there is anything ive learnt in my short life so far its that things always happen for a reason and that in the end there REALLY is a grand plan for each and everyone of us.
Love is a tricky affair and might just be one of the most powerful emotions ever, not to mention LOVE CAN MAKE US BLIND, so do not play the judge in life and say maybe that this person maybe the only one ever, only god knows for sure and i guess until we are married we may never truly know!
Hope i was some help cheers!
If it is any help (i hope im not repeating to much of what is above) i think you should not have to dilute yourself to acccomadate him. In relationships we all make sacrifices, it is natural, compromises are made because reality is no relationship is 100% like a tick list, flexibility is important. But you are now a child of god, a born again, in that you dedicated your life to your lord.
I think your BF more than understands or knows what and who you are, and is/has been for a while now been contemplating what to do next. Not to sound like a broken record but you have shown him the door, but you most certainly cant push him through it that is his choice. If he really loves you deep down inside, being a very emotionally attached person myself, i would certainly say that he would at least give you a chance and try being a christian for a little while, and see if it is the right thing for him or not.
One big mistake i would say though is to choose him over the lord, this most certainly would be the wrong choice. But if he was not converted but not part of any religion at all i wouldnt know what to say (i dont know enough about the bible myself to make any suggestions), and that is the best time to seek a elder and ask what might be written in the bible on these matters or if anything is written at all. And most importantly of all i would pray everynight to god asking for his advice and pray that your bf makes it his will to be the will of the lords. Just dont do what i did and take it personally or out on god if things dont work out, if there is anything ive learnt in my short life so far its that things always happen for a reason and that in the end there REALLY is a grand plan for each and everyone of us.
Love is a tricky affair and might just be one of the most powerful emotions ever, not to mention LOVE CAN MAKE US BLIND, so do not play the judge in life and say maybe that this person maybe the only one ever, only god knows for sure and i guess until we are married we may never truly know!
Hope i was some help cheers!
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543, the course of action outlined in the bible is to dump the non-beleiver. (2 cor 6:15). To choose any course of action other than the one God tells you to do in the bible, will certainly end in hurt for you both and in sin against God.
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