I'm not talking about any specific person. If I were, and naming names, it might be gossip. If that's gossip though, how could we be giving this advice to Helpme without gossipping, since we are addressing her husband's situation. He isn't even here.
I'm not talking about my wife. My wife has gone through major PMS or post-partum stuff where she doesn't have the same feelings for me as normal. So, yes, I can say a husband has to keep in mind that feelings can go up in down in mind if his wife says she is unhappy, especially if it is a one-off thing. Men's emotions go up and down, too, like the waves of the sea, but women's emotions are like waves during a hurricane. Of course, it depends on the person. Some men may experience more emotional extremes than their wives.
If we men get used to our wives feeling great one day, and lousy the next, telling us how good we are one week, and being displeased with us the next, then, yes, we learn to take these comments with a grain of salt. You have to to get an overall picture of what's going on.
Sometimes you can do what's right and people in your own family may not be too happy about it. There are higher goals than temporary happiness to consider. I've got to make myself do things that don't make me that happy sometimes, too.
The Bible says to be content with such things as ye have. A lot of people are looking for 'greener grass' somewhere else. Our emotional issues aren't always our spouse's fault. We need to learn to find peace and contentment in the Lord.
I can relate to the idea of a man being blindsided by a wife wanting a divorce even though she said she wasn't happy at some point in the past, though. There are an awful lot of people who decide to get divorced based on their feelings without any good Biblical reasons, both men and women.