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[Bacey92]

Hello everyone,

How can I truly give my life to the Lord?

I gave my life to Christ in 2016... After meeting my husband. But I don't think I truly gave my life to God. A big part of me believes I only did it because my husband is a believer and had an amazing relationship with God and I wanted that but I have never had a real relationship with God myself. I have never made him my all, I struggle immensely with faith and trust of any kind. I used to read the Bible but never applied anything truly.

I am a pessimist. I am generally a negative person. I am hardly ever happy, I am depressed. I cuss, I watch and listen to worldly things, a part of me doesn't want to give that up. I struggle with anxiety, I have OCD, I don't have faith. I don't trust my husband(he hasn't done anything)

I have struggled all my life with socializing, to go for job interviews and to grow. There are many things I haven't learnt how to do because I feel something always stops me. I stop myself. I am extremely insecure I struggle with motivation and drive, I don't know where I am heading in life. I am 28 years old with only a few years of working experience.

I am tired of having my husbands faith. I want my own faith, I want my own relationship with God. I don't know how to do it, I don't know how to dig deep. I don't want to be stagnant for the rest of my life. I want joy and hope and real faith. I don't want to be worldly, I want the courage to go up to people and share the gospel. I am truly fed up with who I am but tomorrow everything will just go back to normal. I have been having nightmares for the past week.

Most of all I want to truly want God, I don't want to care about anything but God. I don't want to just use him to get me out of this put, I want a connection and a real relationship with him. How do I do it? I want to be boiling hot not ice cold, I do not want to be a carnal Christian.

Thank you for reading.

 

[Maria Billingsley]

Hello everyone,

How can I truly give my life to the Lord?

I gave my life to Christ in 2016... After meeting my husband. But I don't think I truly gave my life to God. A big part of me believes I only did it because my husband is a believer and had an amazing relationship with God and I wanted that but I have never had a real relationship with God myself. I have never made him my all, I struggle immensely with faith and trust of any kind. I used to read the Bible but never applied anything truly.

I am a pessimist. I am generally a negative person. I am hardly ever happy, I am depressed. I cuss, I watch and listen to worldly things, a part of me doesn't want to give that up. I struggle with anxiety, I have OCD, I don't have faith. I don't trust my husband(he hasn't done anything)

I have struggled all my life with socializing, to go for job interviews and to grow. There are many things I haven't learnt how to do because I feel something always stops me. I stop myself. I am extremely insecure I struggle with motivation and drive, I don't know where I am heading in life. I am 28 years old with only a few years of working experience.

I am tired of having my husbands faith. I want my own faith, I want my own relationship with God. I don't know how to do it, I don't know how to dig deep. I don't want to be stagnant for the rest of my life. I want joy and hope and real faith. I don't want to be worldly, I want the courage to go up to people and share the gospel. I am truly fed up with who I am but tomorrow everything will just go back to normal. I have been having nightmares for the past week.

Most of all I want to truly want God, I don't want to care about anything but God. I don't want to just use him to get me out of this put, I want a connection and a real relationship with him. How do I do it? I want to be boiling hot not ice cold, I do not want to be a carnal Christian.

Thank you for reading.

I am sorry you struggle with your relationship with Jesus Christ of Nazareth. He is your only access to the Father. There is much to know about Him by reading the pages of scripture that tell us who He is and why He came to know who we are and eventually lay down His life for us. Sometimes it is better to start from the beginning . Seek and ye shall find. If you really desire to know Him, He will open your heart to the Good News. Be blessed.

 

[Goodhuman]

Start with fasting, everybody started first with fasting. Let the fast be strict so you will be purified and pray everyday. Use Lord's prayer in every your prayer. This way if you have demons they will leave you. Also if you are not baptized, be. Read everyday bible, be good christian to not sin. Keep the ten commandments. You chose the way of the light, so do everything you read in bible and imitate Jesus.

 

[FutureAndAHope]

Hello everyone,

How can I truly give my life to the Lord?

I gave my life to Christ in 2016... After meeting my husband. But I don't think I truly gave my life to God. A big part of me believes I only did it because my husband is a believer and had an amazing relationship with God and I wanted that but I have never had a real relationship with God myself. I have never made him my all, I struggle immensely with faith and trust of any kind. I used to read the Bible but never applied anything truly.

I am a pessimist. I am generally a negative person. I am hardly ever happy, I am depressed. I cuss, I watch and listen to worldly things, a part of me doesn't want to give that up. I struggle with anxiety, I have OCD, I don't have faith. I don't trust my husband(he hasn't done anything)

I have struggled all my life with socializing, to go for job interviews and to grow. There are many things I haven't learnt how to do because I feel something always stops me. I stop myself. I am extremely insecure I struggle with motivation and drive, I don't know where I am heading in life. I am 28 years old with only a few years of working experience.

I am tired of having my husbands faith. I want my own faith, I want my own relationship with God. I don't know how to do it, I don't know how to dig deep. I don't want to be stagnant for the rest of my life. I want joy and hope and real faith. I don't want to be worldly, I want the courage to go up to people and share the gospel. I am truly fed up with who I am but tomorrow everything will just go back to normal. I have been having nightmares for the past week.

Most of all I want to truly want God, I don't want to care about anything but God. I don't want to just use him to get me out of this put, I want a connection and a real relationship with him. How do I do it? I want to be boiling hot not ice cold, I do not want to be a carnal Christian.

Thank you for reading.

Having faith in Jesus, is just that, it is trust in him to be your saviour. It is not so much witnessing, giving up on life, or any other self denial.

We are not saved by doing good. We do good because we are saved. There is a difference.

Jesus died, so that we can be forgiven, period. We are a Christian when we rely upon that fact. Any work that you, do, i.e. witnessing, should flow from the gratitude that we are not saved by our effort.

To be a shining light of faith, you just need to spend more time with God. It will lead to witnessing etc. Jesus said in John 15:5 "I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing."

God is not angry, He is just waiting for you to get more personal with Him. As we spend time with God, it actually changes our desires, Jesus said it this way:

Mat 26:41 Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.

As we pray we take on God's desires. Prayer makes us more like a Christian, more like Christ.

But you have to understand, it is not wrong to be human, to love good things in life. To be a Christian you don't need to give up on life, you just need to invite Christ into it.

You can then decide how much or how little of your effort is expended in honouring the one who paid it all for you. But Christ has paid for you.

 

[GospelS]

What you said is a wonderful prayer right there. Keep saying that prayer all the time in your heart. God is already at work and preparing you for His visitation. He will deliver you and give you the living waters that which you are thirsting for. Read Matthew 7:7-8, Luke 11:5-13, Deuteronomy 4:29; Proverbs 8:17; Jeremiah 29:13, Psalms 53:2.

Dear Lord,

I am tired of having my husbands faith. I want my own faith, I want my own relationship with God. I don't know how to do it, I don't know how to dig deep. I don't want to be stagnant for the rest of my life. I want joy and hope and real faith. I don't want to be worldly, I want the courage to go up to people and share the gospel. I am truly fed up with who I am but tomorrow everything will just go back to normal. I have been having nightmares for the past week.

Most of all I want to truly want God, I don't want to care about anything but God. I don't want to just use him to get me out of this put, I want a connection and a real relationship with him. How do I do it? I want to be boiling hot not ice cold, I do not want to be a carnal Christian.

 

[solid_core]

Hello everyone,

How can I truly give my life to the Lord?

I gave my life to Christ in 2016... After meeting my husband. But I don't think I truly gave my life to God. A big part of me believes I only did it because my husband is a believer and had an amazing relationship with God and I wanted that but I have never had a real relationship with God myself. I have never made him my all, I struggle immensely with faith and trust of any kind. I used to read the Bible but never applied anything truly.

I am a pessimist. I am generally a negative person. I am hardly ever happy, I am depressed. I cuss, I watch and listen to worldly things, a part of me doesn't want to give that up. I struggle with anxiety, I have OCD, I don't have faith. I don't trust my husband(he hasn't done anything)

I have struggled all my life with socializing, to go for job interviews and to grow. There are many things I haven't learnt how to do because I feel something always stops me. I stop myself. I am extremely insecure I struggle with motivation and drive, I don't know where I am heading in life. I am 28 years old with only a few years of working experience.

I am tired of having my husbands faith. I want my own faith, I want my own relationship with God. I don't know how to do it, I don't know how to dig deep. I don't want to be stagnant for the rest of my life. I want joy and hope and real faith. I don't want to be worldly, I want the courage to go up to people and share the gospel. I am truly fed up with who I am but tomorrow everything will just go back to normal. I have been having nightmares for the past week.

Most of all I want to truly want God, I don't want to care about anything but God. I don't want to just use him to get me out of this put, I want a connection and a real relationship with him. How do I do it? I want to be boiling hot not ice cold, I do not want to be a carnal Christian.

Thank you for reading.

I think you are talking about two different things as if they are one.

Being saved is very easy - believe in Jesus Christ and in His death and resurrection.

To make your life "more given" to God or to God's kingdom is a process, you can take smaller steps in time as it suits you. Also, being a Christian does not mean you cannot watch movies or have some "worldly" hobbies like sport. It simply means you know what is a priority.

Your husband is your head so that you should listen to what he teaches you, but you are not him, you have your own identity, your own faith. Listen to him but do not be him. Soldier in an army obeys his general, but is not the general, he can have different tastes, hobbies or thoughts.

 

[Melody Suttles]

Hello everyone,

How can I truly give my life to the Lord?

I gave my life to Christ in 2016... After meeting my husband. But I don't think I truly gave my life to God. A big part of me believes I only did it because my husband is a believer and had an amazing relationship with God and I wanted that but I have never had a real relationship with God myself. I have never made him my all, I struggle immensely with faith and trust of any kind. I used to read the Bible but never applied anything truly.

I am a pessimist. I am generally a negative person. I am hardly ever happy, I am depressed. I cuss, I watch and listen to worldly things, a part of me doesn't want to give that up. I struggle with anxiety, I have OCD, I don't have faith. I don't trust my husband(he hasn't done anything)

I have struggled all my life with socializing, to go for job interviews and to grow. There are many things I haven't learnt how to do because I feel something always stops me. I stop myself. I am extremely insecure I struggle with motivation and drive, I don't know where I am heading in life. I am 28 years old with only a few years of working experience.

I am tired of having my husbands faith. I want my own faith, I want my own relationship with God. I don't know how to do it, I don't know how to dig deep. I don't want to be stagnant for the rest of my life. I want joy and hope and real faith. I don't want to be worldly, I want the courage to go up to people and share the gospel. I am truly fed up with who I am but tomorrow everything will just go back to normal. I have been having nightmares for the past week.

Most of all I want to truly want God, I don't want to care about anything but God. I don't want to just use him to get me out of this put, I want a connection and a real relationship with him. How do I do it? I want to be boiling hot not ice cold, I do not want to be a carnal Christian.

Thank you for reading.

Bacey,
What an incredibly honest post. You must have made at least a dozen admissions and confessions - not easy for anyone. You have so much courage and strength, and it is so apparent to me! These qualities that made you able to post this here today can only have come from the Lord. What a beautiful child you are to him - and I want to say I am honored to have been on CF today!

Doubt is not the absence of faith; merely the questioning of one's faith during times of great difficulties or during times of backsliding. However, unbelief is a refusal to believe on Christ and involves spiritual blindness and a determined resistance to God. Of persecuting believers, Paul said, “I acted in ignorance and unbelief.”

The Son of God loved you and gave himself for you. He is risen from the dead and ascended into heaven, and though you (as we all) be far from perfect - though you have maybe slipped backward down the path, you are (even at your worst) more loved than you ever imagined.

Bacey, my sweet sister, God calls on you to repent from what I myself have been guilty of in the past - a self-centered life. In exchange He offers you mercy, pardon, deep emotional and spiritual healing, and forgiveness through his Son, Jesus. He offers his power and presence by the Holy Spirit, so that you’re able to pursue life on his plan.

Ask the Lord to reveal himself to you in a way that can leave no doubt - but will propel you toward surrender into the loving and strong arms of a loving Father. He will keep you through every battle!

Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves.
2 Cor 13:5

In my alarm I said,
“I am cut off from your sight!”
Yet you heard my cry for mercy
when I called to you for help.
Psalm 31:22

I will bless the Lord at all times; his praise shall continually be in my mouth. My soul makes its boast in the Lord; let the humble hear and be glad. Oh, magnify the Lord with me, and let us exalt his name together! I sought the Lord, and he answered me and delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to him are radiant, and their faces shall never be ashamed. ...
Psalm 34

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
James 1:5

And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”
Mark 11:24

 

[Paul4JC]

No two persons faith is exactly the same. It was never meant to be. Your to experience Christ in you own unique way. Big or small, emotional or not, bold or timid, Superstar or behind the scenes...(I could go on and on) faith is faith.

[Jhn 21:21-22 NIV] 21 When Peter saw him, he asked, "Lord, what about him?" 22 Jesus answered, "If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me."

 

[Pavel Mosko]

Most of all I want to truly want God, I don't want to care about anything but God. I don't want to just use him to get me out of this put, I want a connection and a real relationship with him. How do I do it? I want to be boiling hot not ice cold, I do not want to be a carnal Christian.

I hate to say it, but you are already doing it. That is kind of what this is current trial is all about. All you really need to do is do your best and try to trust God in spite of your feelings.

Carry on to the best of your ability. Try to fulfill your obligations and duties, keep on praying, reading the Bible etc.

I don't think this is as much of having "to do" something as it is in surrender and saying and meaning, "I cannot do this, but God can or he can guide me how etc.", and doing your best to trust in Him etc.

 

[turkle]

Hello everyone,
I am a pessimist. I am generally a negative person. I am hardly ever happy, I am depressed. I cuss, I watch and listen to worldly things, a part of me doesn't want to give that up. I struggle with anxiety, I have OCD, I don't have faith. I don't trust my husband(he hasn't done anything)

I have struggled all my life with socializing, to go for job interviews and to grow. There are many things I haven't learnt how to do because I feel something always stops me. I stop myself. I am extremely insecure I struggle with motivation and drive, I don't know where I am heading in life. I am 28 years old with only a few years of working experience.

These are the most telling things in your post. Being pessimistic, negative, lacking joy, depressed, anxious with lack of faith points to the fact that you don't trust yourself, your husband, or God. Though your husband has done nothing wrong, you don't trust him. You want to achieve something in work, but you don't trust yourself to actually do it ("I feel something always stops me. I stop myself")

Trust comes from a choice. You have to choose to trust. If you want to have a successful marriage and a successful relationship with God, you need to determine, choose, decide to trust. It doesn't start as a feeling, so if you are waiting to feel trusting, you never will.

The lack of trust comes from fear. It sounds like you are fearful of many things, but I would venture that you are mostly fearful of disappointment and being wrong. When you operate out of fear you won't take any chances on anything and you will stay stuck. It sounds like that is where you are.

When you choose courage, everything gets better. I would start by deciding that you will trust your husband. He has given you no reason to distrust him, and without trust, there is no marriage. Being courageous in your marriage means that when those familiar feelings of distrust bubble up, you stop them in their tracks and choose to trust your husband.

Similarly with the Lord, you choose to trust Him and ask Him to show you His way. It requires surrendering your own will and accepting His, or dying to self. You choose to stop being self centered and choose to be Christ centered in your thoughts and behavior. As you grow in your walk with the Lord, you will also grow closer and closer to Him. But it takes faith: you choose Him.

My recommendation is to start and end each day by submitting your will to God and ask Him to help you to surrender fully to Him. Do it in faith that He will direct your path, because He will. Don't let the cancer of fear get in your way. If you choose faith, both in God and your husband, you will soon realize that your fears were tying you to the fence and robbing you of your freedom in Christ. There we find joy.

 

[ripple the car]

Hello everyone,

How can I truly give my life to the Lord?

I gave my life to Christ in 2016... After meeting my husband. But I don't think I truly gave my life to God. A big part of me believes I only did it because my husband is a believer and had an amazing relationship with God and I wanted that but I have never had a real relationship with God myself. I have never made him my all, I struggle immensely with faith and trust of any kind. I used to read the Bible but never applied anything truly.

I am a pessimist. I am generally a negative person. I am hardly ever happy, I am depressed. I cuss, I watch and listen to worldly things, a part of me doesn't want to give that up. I struggle with anxiety, I have OCD, I don't have faith. I don't trust my husband(he hasn't done anything)

I have struggled all my life with socializing, to go for job interviews and to grow. There are many things I haven't learnt how to do because I feel something always stops me. I stop myself. I am extremely insecure I struggle with motivation and drive, I don't know where I am heading in life. I am 28 years old with only a few years of working experience.

I am tired of having my husbands faith. I want my own faith, I want my own relationship with God. I don't know how to do it, I don't know how to dig deep. I don't want to be stagnant for the rest of my life. I want joy and hope and real faith. I don't want to be worldly, I want the courage to go up to people and share the gospel. I am truly fed up with who I am but tomorrow everything will just go back to normal. I have been having nightmares for the past week.

Most of all I want to truly want God, I don't want to care about anything but God. I don't want to just use him to get me out of this put, I want a connection and a real relationship with him. How do I do it? I want to be boiling hot not ice cold, I do not want to be a carnal Christian.

Thank you for reading.

Ma’am, everybody has a different personality. You may have to find your own way to follow Christ, which meshes with who you are emotionally and socially. Not everyone is outgoing. Some Christians do struggle with negative thinking, sadness, and even loneliness. It happens. That doesn’t mean you’re not a Christian.

 

[longwait]

Most of all I want to truly want God, I don't want to care about anything but God. I don't want to just use him to get me out of this put, I want a connection and a real relationship with him. How do I do it? I want to be boiling hot not ice cold, I do not want to be a carnal Christian.

If you feel this way then God will lead you to Him. All you need to do is to pray to Him to help you in that direction and study His Word. He will guide your footsteps.

 

[marsdream]

Romans 10:9-10 if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved; for with the heart a person believes, resulting in righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in salvation. With Romans 10:9-10 you confess, believe, and tell others about your choice to follow Jesus. This is Christianity. Don't be afraid to get out and tell your neighbors and friends about Christ. Also, the fact that you are examining yourself, as the apostle Paul says to do, shows that you have that deep desire for walking with Christ. People who aren't walking with Christ don't even care about how they live their lives they just want to do their own thing and not follow God. You deep desire to follow God really shows that you are wanting a relationship with Him. Cry out to God. Say Jesus change me from the inside out, I want to follow you. Then follow Jesus with all of your heart. Read your bible. Start in the book of Acts and John.