Please Pray

[s_gunter]

Please forgive me for this, but I don't know what good it'll do for her, but would you please pray for my mom and dad? Mom's in the hospital after Dad noticed she wasn't remembering things like she should, significant memory loss. Over the past couple days, she got to where she didn't recognize my dad, and didn't even know her own name. Last night, she had a massive seizure, where she stopped breathing. She's heavily sedated right now, and on a breathing machine that's keeping her alive. The doctors don't know yet what is going on with her. Information is scarce at this point.

I said I didn't know what good it'll do for her because if she catches you praying for her, she'd flip you off. I know this because I've seen her literally do it. Religion has always severely angered her, especially Christianity. Please do it anyway? For me? For my Dad?

Please pray for my dad too please. They fight like cats and dogs, and mom does have the tendency to be violent, but he loves her regardless. This is tearing him up. To hear that mean, tough as nails Army officer choke on his words over the phone when he just told me...

I admit, I'm scared. While she has hurt me, and has continued to hurt me up until very recently, she's still my mom. Have I said a lot of things I shouldn't have? Yes, too many times. Have I done a lot of things I shouldn't have? Yes, too many times. Have I been heartless towards her? Too many times. God help me, I still carry too much of that. I'm sitting bawling my eyes out because Dad did tell me that her prognosis isn't good. I don't understand why this hurts so much, considering how I've felt/feel about her. However, this is NOT about me. Don't pray for me. I earn this.

 

[Stabat Mater dolorosa]

Hail Mary, full of grace...

 

[pdudgeon]

awww, prayers going up for all of you!

 

[Anhelyna]

Prayers for your Mom - that she suffers no pain and is comfortable and that God's will for her is done

Prayers also for your Dad - this is specially hard on him - your Mom is a part of him and seeing her suffer , he realises that it also affects him.

Prayers also for you - as you watch , worry and wait

 

[Michie]

Praying for your parents and you as well. May God being you all peace, comfort, and healing. Please keep us updated. *hugs*

Please forgive me for this, but I don't know what good it'll do for her, but would you please pray for my mom and dad? Mom's in the hospital after Dad noticed she wasn't remembering things like she should, significant memory loss. Over the past couple days, she got to where she didn't recognize my dad, and didn't even know her own name. Last night, she had a massive seizure, where she stopped breathing. She's heavily sedated right now, and on a breathing machine that's keeping her alive. The doctors don't know yet what is going on with her. Information is scarce at this point.

I said I didn't know what good it'll do for her because if she catches you praying for her, she'd flip you off. I know this because I've seen her literally do it. Religion has always severely angered her, especially Christianity. Please do it anyway? For me? For my Dad?

Please pray for my dad too please. They fight like cats and dogs, and mom does have the tendency to be violent, but he loves her regardless. This is tearing him up. To hear that mean, tough as nails Army officer choke on his words over the phone when he just told me...

I admit, I'm scared. While she has hurt me, and has continued to hurt me up until very recently, she's still my mom. Have I said a lot of things I shouldn't have? Yes, too many times. Have I done a lot of things I shouldn't have? Yes, too many times. Have I been heartless towards her? Too many times. God help me, I still carry too much of that. I'm sitting bawling my eyes out because Dad did tell me that her prognosis isn't good. I don't understand why this hurts so much, considering how I've felt/feel about her. However, this is NOT about me. Don't pray for me. I earn this.

 

[anjelica]

Prayers for you all s.gunter.

You know, the story of your mom us exactly the story f my mom re anger towards Christianity and ppl praying etc. And my mom was violent towards my dad too, who is now dead. I can understand all of those very confusing feelings that you are carrying. Don't beat yourself up. Be kind to yourself too.

Praying for all of you during this very painful and critical time.

PM me if you want to talk re your mom. Hugs.

 

[Winter]

Praying for your mother, your father, and you. Keeping you all in my prayers.
May the Lord be with all of you during this time. Hang in there.

 

[eastcoast_bsc]

Lord I pray for Gunters Mother and Father. Lord I pray physical and spiritual healing for all the family.

 

[Fantine]

Praying for your whole family as you deal with your mother's health crisis and the painful memories that have been evoked.

 

[seekingsolace]

 

[Davidnic]

Praying

 

[Rhamiel]

prayers for your mom and dad

 

[Zoleee]

Heavenly Father, please help him, his mother, and his father. In Jesus' name, Amen. Prayers, love. Be strong

 

[Sweet Tooth]

I don't know the backstory with your mother, but has she always been this way your entire life or is this a more recent development? I ask because if it's recent, then there was must be some kind of chemical imbalance or legit brain disorder, perhaps scaring. And if it is, please don't blame your mother for it. It's out of her control. I recall your posts where your mother was taking various pills for her ailments.

I will pray for all three of you. Hopefully, there is more our medical brothers and sisters can do to alleviate your mom's condition.

 

[MikeK]

My prayers!!

 

[s_gunter]

I don't know the backstory with your mother, but has she always been this way your entire life or is this a more recent development? I ask because if it's recent, then there was must be some kind of chemical imbalance or legit brain disorder, perhaps scaring. And if it is, please don't blame your mother for it. It's out of her control. I recall your posts where your mother was taking various pills for her ailments.

I will pray for all three of you. Hopefully, there is more our medical brothers and sisters can do to alleviate your mom's condition.

My mother has been abusive/violent for my entire life. She's been diagnosed bipolar (one of the worst cases her doctor has seen, and he was near retirement when he said it, so he's no beginner doctor) since I was in the 8th grade (I'm 39 now), but likely was undiagnosed/untreated for way longer. Her family says that it's likely she was reacting to signs of it since her early teens. And yes, she does take a multitude of prescription medications for that and other serious medical conditions. She's maxed out on the bipolar/psych meds, and she's still abusive and violent. She's the type that if she went off her meds, you'd read about her in the national news after she "snapped." I'm not saying that to be ugly. That's the reality of it. While the abuse I survived growing up was bad, it wasn't as bad as it could have been. It still hurt like, well, you know what.

I would love to be able to use "well, she has bipolar disorder, it's out of her control" in order to ease some of the sting of it. I would LOVE to be able to say/think, "That's not my mom. That's the bipolar." It doesn't work though. She knew exactly what she was doing when she was doing it. You could see the pleasure on her face while she was beating the *ahem* out of me. On more than one occasion, and due to my big mouth (my pre-teenage self would threaten her with the cops. I soon learned that the cops were useless), she'd just smile from ear to ear and say, "You think? I'm bipolar. I'll get away with it" and follow it with a smack across my head or face. Ugh. The number of times I went to school with a red, puffy hand print across my face. I graduated high school with a hand print on my face, a black and blue hand print from my dad on my thigh (his involvement in this is a story in itself), and red stripes on my back, all inflicted on the day of the ceremony. It didn't even stop once I married and had my own family. She'd raise her hand to me IN MY OWN HOUSE! I had to move a couple states away just to feel safe from her (born and raised in Texas, moved to Mississippi). When my husband was still stationed at Ft. Hood, where I met him, we lived in Killeen, which is right next door to where my parents live (my dad was a soldier too. He's retired now.), so she'd just drive 30 minutes to start it with me. Then, when my hubby was discharged, we moved to Austin, an hour and a half away. I STILL wasn't safe.

 

[s_gunter]

Heavenly Father, please help him, his mother, and his father. In Jesus' name, Amen. Prayers, love. Be strong

Thank you so much! One correction though: I'm female. It's OK that mistake was made. I have a small family. I'm the only female in my generation on both sides of the family. The way my dad tells it, I was feeling left out since I didn't have anyone to play with as a young child. My dad says that he told me to play like the boys do, knowing full well I could keep up with them. Ever since then, I've "played like the boys do," so that mistake is often made if you don't know me or what I look like.

 

[s_gunter]

They're going to "wake her up" today to see what cognitive damage there is, and whether she can survive off the machines. Dad says that she'll likely be able to breathe on her own, but that she may have significant brain damage. I sincerely hope not. He said that did they did some brain scans on her yesterday, but I don't know what scans were done. Dad is awful with medical terminology, so he couldn't tell me which ones.

They also discovered yesterday that she re-fractured her arm, likely a few weeks ago. She had fallen several months ago, and fractured her upper arm. It wasn't in an area where they put it in a cast, though. She was supposed to wear it in a sling and participate in physical therapy to make sure it healed correctly so she would have near full range of motion. Of course, my bull-headed mom didn't do as she was supposed to. My dad's flummoxed about the re-fracture. He knows my mom's tolerance level for pain is zero. Why didn't she complain about it? I think that might give the medical team even more information as to what might be going on, that she didn't complain (or didn't know to complain, like I said, there is memory loss...), or that she might've not even felt it. Around the time of the 1st fracture, she was also having mild seizures and her leg would shake for no reason. The doctors couldn't explain the seizures then, so they just sent her home after she didn't have another one for a few days. Indeed, she didn't have a seizure again, not even a mild one, from several months ago until that massive one Monday night. It's making everyone, including the medicos, think "what the ... ?" They ARE running every applicable test to find out though, and they are going through the process of "waking her up" today in order to learn more. Hopefully, we'll know more by tomorrow.

Thank you so much for all for the prayers, and for letting me talk, even though the words off of my keyboard sometimes aren't, um, nice.

 

[Anhelyna]

Don't worry about the 'words off your keyboard ' - it's understandable.

I do hope they manage to find some way of helping your Mom.

 

[anjelica]

Prayers once again from me. What a horrible situation.
I am still here in PM and we can continue our coversation of yesterday. I don't care two hoots what words you use. I have probably used them myself also.