Please pray for my sis

[jimigold]

Please accept my apologies, as i have asked a lot from you kind people, i just have a lot of problems


Here is the Bio of my sis:

Name: Catherine
Nickname: Enid
Age: Same as mine, 15
Music: Slipknot, Marilyn Manson, Jack off Jill,etc..etc...
Clothes: Slipknot/Nivana hoodie, Chains, verrry long jeans
Christian?: Alledgedly (doubtful)
Daily routine:

• Get up, after being yelled at my mum at around 8:10.
• Get to school by 8:30-40.
• spend day in school (has got into trouble for not doing Art homework etc)
• get home
• Go on computer whilst listening to music
• bed at around 1-4AM

That's her life.
The big problems are:

1. No-one likes her and she is deprssed b'cause of it.
2. She isn't nice to anyone
3. The music she listens to is bad and is having a bad affect on her (and me!)
4. She is obsessed with a guy in our year, and she once carved his name into her arm "because she was bored"
5. There are rumours going around that she is a lesbian.
6. There are, in fact, a lot of horrible rumours going around about her (proving that indeed no-one likes her).
7. She has come to me on more than one occasion, complaining about life/ that everyone is horrible to her etc
8. she tries to ignore all the hatred that is shown to her but i know it really depresses her.
9. She goes on, quite frankly, sadistic sites which are just disgusting and are very baad.
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   The list goes on.
   
   I get the feeling that there is a good person in there yelling to get out but is just being surpressed by the hold that the devil clearly has on her.
   
   I'm sure that it is possible for her to be saved, i mean i was and we're twins!
   
   The really confusing thing is that she goes to church (well Sunday school) and she has some really nice, christian friends. She is also in our christian worship band.
   She justs wastes her life on the computer listening to that..."music" (if you can call it that)
   
   i'm grateful

 

[Blynn]

I think it is a good idea to talk with your parents about what she is viewing on the internet.

I will pray for Catherine!

God bless
Roberta

 

[Auntie]

Jimi, I'm praying for Catherine.  15 can be a difficult age.

Oh, and have a couple more blessings!

 

[GraftMeIn]

jimigold, I will keep your sister in my prayers.
I think there's always a good person inside trying to get out, with just about anyone.

Try not to pay too much attention to some of the rumors you hear, This might just be someone spreading them because they want your sister to look bad.

I will admit that at one time a rumor was spread around about me, people were saying I was a lesbian, (this was at work, as an adult) of course I knew I wasn't so I tried not to let it bother me. Now how did that rumor get started you might ask? Simple I wouldn't put out, and since I didn't put out for some guy he found it easier to claim I was a lesbian rather than hurt his own macho image of being refused by a woman. My real friends knew me better than that, and weren't afraid to come and tell me what was being said.

hang in there and keep praying, and try to be as good of a friend to your sister as you can right now, it sounds like she may need a dependable friend.

 

[jimigold]

Thanx guys.

You're the best!

 

[Ben johnson]

Hi, Jimi! What a caring heart you are! You're a blessing to Catherine.

I'm not sure talking to your parents first is indicated here. Can you talk with your minister? Can you tell him the same things as you've told us? I think it would have more impact if HE talked with your parents. Please don't take this wrong, but the dynamics in a family are complex. If you go to your parents, friction is very likely to result. Your sister will resent you, she will resent them, they will consider you "just a teenager", I foresee alotta complications. Your minister represents a "disinterested third-party", and has the position of credibility and influence.

Can you talk with him?

And you are RIGHT, music DOES matter. Those kids who did the school massacres, listened to some pretty bad stuff...

God bless you, Jimi! We certainly will be praying for you!

 

[wvmtnkid]

Hi Jimi!

Don't worry about asking too much of us here.  That is what we are here for-to pray with and for you!

As for your sister, it sounds as though she has some pretty low self-esteem.  Anybody that would carve something on their body doesn't value themselves very much.  And 15 is a hard age because you aren't a child anymore but you aren't quite an adult yet either and sometimes it is just hard to find your place and where you fit in the world.  I just recently met a young man (18) who dressed very much like how your sister does.  However, his heart was so full of the love of God, that is just poured out from him.  He couldn't contain what Jesus had done for him.  So her manner of dress doesn't concern me too much. What concerns me the most is that you feel she is depressed.  Depression is not something you want to ignore.  I feel she could benefit from counseling, whether it is from a pastor or even a professional counselor. 

Now I have just a few questions for you.  You said that she attends Sunday School and participates in a worship band.  Is there anyone in either of these two groups who you could also confide in that could maybe talk with her and be a positive influence on her?  Since you are still 15, I am assuming you are living at home with your parents.  Is there someway you could speak with your parents regarding monitoring what she looks at on the web?  I know some browsers can be sit to block out certain kinds of sites.  In my opinion, looking at unheathly websites and listening to unhealthy music are contributing to her depression and low self esteem.  Have you directly told her how her behavior concerns you?  Maybe just hearing that someone is concerned about her will help her realize she is loved and help her to accept being loved.

Most of all I will pray for her and also for you.  I thank God that she has a brother like you who is concerned about her welfare!

 

[jimigold]

Thanx everyone!
I will try and talk to her friends (esp. in the worship band). We don't have a minister at the moment as he left and we are still without, but there are still people i can talk to.

I feel confident that if i keep praying for her, then she will slowly be pulled to God. I was praying for her last night and, well, i'm certain i felt the Holy Spirit.

That's also a sign that all you guys are praying for her as well. Thank you very much. I will keep you posted on her progress and i'm positive it will improve.

Thanx!

 

[altya]

I'm praying for your sister