Please pray - am desperate

[tapero]

Hi, I weigh a lot, and I can't stop spending money on food. That's all I do is constantly figure out what I'm going to buy. I buy pizza almost every night, and I can not afford to do this, but don't seem to have the self control to stop. I think that's the worst part is not being able to stop. Please pray for me or give me some advice. Once I run out of money, I could wind up homeless, and so you see this is very serious. Thank you so much, Tapero

 

[goldenviolet]

Sweetheart ... Dear Father please take this child in your care. Father she has lost her selfcontrol and sees troubles ahead, but feels lost and stuck in her debts. Father, only you can walk her through this. please show your mercy and stength. Father i ask for you to lift her out of these troubles and set her on the grounds of healling. Father, please reveal your promises to boost her up, build her up, strengthen her her self worth and control, and teach her how to lean on you. in Jesus' name, amen.

 

[madison1101]

There is hope and help. See if you can get eating disorder treatment. Ask your family doctor for a referral. If you cannot get treatment, see if you can get therapy with a therapist who is experienced with eating disorders.

God bless.

 

[bumblebee62331]

See if you can stop taking money with you. I have had to do that for different reasons, but the same spending problem. Take only a bus fare if you need it (etc) but don't take enough cash to spend and don't take your cards if you have any.

This sounds like a psychological problem. Are you seeing someone? There must be a reason why you have to buy food a lot. If your spending is out of control, you need to see someone who can help you to budget and ensure you don't wind up in debt.

 

[tapero]

Thank you so much for your prayers and advice. I do see someone but we haven't been working on the weight issue right now. She tries to get me to duct tape the money I have up, so it will be hard to get to. I order in almost every night at home. Thank you all for your replies. I appreciate the prayer. God bless you all, and please write more if you think of something else you want to add. I was afraid to put this in the prayer section.

God bless you all .. Tapero

 

[madison1101]

Thank you so much for your prayers and advice. I do see someone but we haven't been working on the weight issue right now. She tries to get me to duct tape the money I have up, so it will be hard to get to. I order in almost every night at home. Thank you all for your replies. I appreciate the prayer. God bless you all, and please write more if you think of something else you want to add. I was afraid to put this in the prayer section.

God bless you all .. Tapero

Tapero,
I had a similar spending problem. It, along with my eating disorder, was a symptom of a borderline personality disorder. Go to the grocery store and buy your food instead of ordering in. Make yourself a special dinner, and lite a candle and put it on your dining room table. Ask your therapist for help with the eating behaviors too.

Spend more time in the Word and ask the Lord specifically for help with this problem. He will help you. His Holy Spirit lives in His children to guide and direct them.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[Desciple_of_God]

I will pray for you too, Father I just thank you for giving your daughter the strength and courage to admit to a serious problem and that you have already prepared help for her as soon as she called out to you. Lord I come before you and ask that you break this habit that has been binding your daughter and that you may put your hand of healing upon her. I pray that not only will she break free from this habit, but also begin to make healthier choices so that she may live even happier than she is now. I believe this will happen by faith in Jesus' name, Amen.

=) I know that this eating disorder will come to an end soon. very soon. god bless and take care.

 

[tapero]

Thank you very much. Tonight I ordered in again. I don't cook. I just microwave. I have all these related problems that affect everything even cooking. All related to fear. I have a hard time getting to the grocery store, but am trying to get out more.

I feel so down tonight. My life is just so lonely. I'm sorry this sounds so down. I was encouraged to try harder today, and so as I reread your encouragements and prayers I'm sure I can grow to do better in my life.

I'm in the word some so that helps.

God bless you, Ganaan

 

[fanintoflame]

Thank you very much. Tonight I ordered in again. I don't cook. I just microwave. I have all these related problems that affect everything even cooking. All related to fear. I have a hard time getting to the grocery store, but am trying to get out more.

I feel so down tonight. My life is just so lonely. I'm sorry this sounds so down. I was encouraged to try harder today, and so as I reread your encouragements and prayers I'm sure I can grow to do better in my life.

I'm in the word some so that helps.

God bless you, Ganaan

Just want to encourage you to keep trying.

With that... sometimes I think we give ourselves the opportunity to do things. I always ask myself why I might be doing a particular thing or eating something (esp If I have already just had a meal). Emotions and motives play into things more than we realize. One suggestion I had was that you maybe try to plan your meal. Also by going to the grocery store you can choose a variety of things... even pizza. I know it isn't the same as ordering it in but it is a start. Your community might also have a food bank or community care or a church that would be able to help you with food if your budget becomes low. And maybe the money you save from not ordering in, you could use to do something special for yourself like a trip or another reward that maybe doesn't involve food.

 

[tapero]

Thank you so much for writing.

I am starting to get a little better. Everything I could say would be an excuse I suppose. Since I've quit smoking about 3 months ago, I think I've ordered in almost every night. I went last night without ordering in. Oh Woe is me. I should get microwave pizza like you said, but my freezer is jammed full cause I don't go out often enough to the grocery store. I have fears of driving of going to the store. But I'm going to try to get a couple and put them in there. It's better than ordering out. I feel like ordering out right now. It's only 4pm.

Thank you for your encouragement. I will keep working on things. Sincerely, ganaan

 

[fanintoflame]

Hey ganann...
congratulations for quiting smoking
and for not ordering in last night!!!
in canada here we have a place called M&M's Meat Shops and they have alot of great food that has been prepared ... you can microwave, bbq or put it in the oven. and... if you dont like cooking it is really easy... do you guys have anything like that in the states?
you know that you can do this and even if you fail a few times at it you will be able to try again... I was watching Operah yesterday (i know i know - dont give me flack out there everybody) but she had this guy on he wrote a book called : A Million Little Pieces
his name is James Frey
his main message in the end was to Hold On no matter what because whatever fears or feelings that come will pass.... Hold On ... eventually they will go away....he said if he was able to overcome is addiction to drugs and alcohol that you can too (regardless of whether you struggle with fear, anxiety, food, ... )!... just keep holding on
http://www2.oprah.com/obc_classic/featbook/mlp/obc_featbook_mlp_main.jhtml

 

[madison1101]

It sounds as if you may have a phobia which can be treated in psychotherapy. The food is just a symptom of deeper issues, like a phobia. There are coping skills which can be learned in therapy. I highly recommend that you look into it. Isolation is very common in people with phobias and eating disorders. It is so easy to just pull the curtains and not face the world out there, and use food as our best friend. I have done it many times.

Feel free to PM me if you ever need to reach out and talk. I am home in the evenings. If you post me there, I will give you my home e-mail address. I check that all evening.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[tapero]

I went to the store today, one out of town, and got several premade meals. Meatloaf, that I can freeze. I'm diabetic, so this is a decent choice for snacking on, because usually I don't have anything to snack on. I bought some other things too, mostly protein.

I think a couple of people laughed at me the other day, and that hurt.

I just got my check so I will be working on trying to hang on to that and not buy things out. Thanks for your help and encouragement. Ganaan

 

[goldenviolet]

thread link: you are the beautiful bride of Christ

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[fanintoflame]

it doesnt matter what they think
no matter what you look like, how you talk or who you are there will be some people that will laugh at you

glad you are doing ok....
i bet you feel better too!

 

[tapero]

Hi Goldenviolet & Fanintoflame, thank you for the link Goldenviolet, and for your comfort Fanintoflame.

I've been failing so bad. Here it's been two days since I went shopping. My fridge is full, and I ordered pizza last night after eating dinner, and then tonight, I ordered out again from the pizza place. I pray to God, and confess my sin of gluttony I suppose it is, and ask for help with self-control, but I never get past this thing.

Yet I am smiling inside, because God is so good.

Well, I hope you two precious and well loved by God are doing good and I pray for you both. Thanks, Ganaan

 

[madison1101]

I was in a similar place not too long ago. I found I needed to spend more time in the Word, really experiencing God's grace and forgiveness. The more I became aware, really aware of His grace, love and forgiveness, the more I was able to resist. The more time I spent in the Word, and prayer, the stronger I was, and the less tempted I was. It was gradual, and I never saw it coming, but I did get some relief after a while.

Don't focus on the sin, focus on the savior. Don't beat yourself up for the pizza, praise the Lord for His forgiveness and love. Keep looking at the Lord, and the cross. God will heal you.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[tapero]

Dear Trish,

Thank you so much for your help. I've been getting into God's word more, and the prayer life isn't the greatest, but I just hope I don't balloon before I get better. I've gained another 10 just over these last 2 weeks. Thank you for saying to focus on the Savior. Been trying to see Him in every Psalm and word I read. It really makes a difference in the reading, but I just started that today. Thank you so much. take care, ganaan

 

[jande2211]

Tapero, you might want to look into low carb nutrition. Sure there the wt loss benefit. But I was thinking that you really need to get your insulin to level out, getting control especially as a diabetic. My SIL is a diabetic with other major problems, like her triglycerides are out of this world (made medical history thus far!) but even she's managed to lose wt and seems to be feeling better.

Check out http://forum.lowcarber.org. Then click on Support Forums. The place is huge, so take your time getting around. There's also a place to go to from the home page that'll explain some of the more popular LC plans, like Atkins, Zone, etc. There's also a place where you can introduce yourself, like there is here. It's a wonderful place for low carbers to urge each other on. Hope to see you there. Really, hope this helps. You deserve to take better care of yourself. You owe it to God too for all He's done for your.

Just my two cents. Peace.

 

[tapero]

Hi Jande,

Thanks for the info. I don't cook at home which is a big problem. But I do try and each as much protein and few carbs as possible. I also have colitis and can't eat a lot of say vegetables and other 'good foods'. I'll go check out the site. It sounds interesting. Thanks. Tapero