Please help

Dear Robbed,

Hi, There is no reason for you to feel guilty. You were taken advantage and assaulted sexually and it was against your will. I am sorry for all that you've been through and are going through.

I don't know if you are still in school or not but it would really benefit you to recieve counseling to help you. Can you see your school counselor, or even a therapist would help also. I see you have 'other church' listed and maybe there is a pastor there you could talk to also.

Here is an online place where you can talk to someone also. I hear it's very good, and they really care.

Teen Hope Line also has an online 'live' service that can be found at www.teenhopeline.com where people can talk to the staff on there.

The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network - National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE

Please write me if I can help you in any way. My PM box is always open.

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God bless you,

In Christ's love,
Tapero

First of all, let me say that you should be kind to yourself first. I understand the guilt and self-esteem issues that you have. You're beating yourself up because you think you could have ended it sooner and saved yourself some pain. Or perhaps you think it was your fault somehow.

It's not true, though. It's not your fault. Men who force women into these kinds of relationships completely dominate them. There is no such thing as free will in a relationship like that. They use emotional manipulation as well as force to take what they want without any regard for the person that they are hurting.

In spite of what he may have told you, you are worthy. You are worthy of love, respect, and dignity. You are worthy to make your own choices, choices he didn't let you have. He didn't even give you the choice of leaving. He simply discarded you when he was through with you.

You are worth so much more than that. You have a right to be angry with him. Just don't let him win by hating yourself. He did enough of that for both of you.

The flashbacks and fear are perfectly normal for what you have been through. They are signs that you may have post-traumatic stress disorder. Although the name is long, it is very treatable.

Have you seen anybody to help you through this? There are a lot of good support groups and therapists who understand what you are going through. I would highly recommend that you see somebody. It is too great a burden to be carried alone.

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I too am grateful that you are out of the situation. That is a BIG plus!

What Belinda said really says it well and I ditto that and wish you the very best!

I'm sorry you've had to deal with that. How horrible that anyone would put you in that position. Do you have anyone you can talk to about it?