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A very good friend of mine has been recently excommunicated from our church for fornication allegations and needs advice. Back in spring, her husband left her and her 3 children without notice and never returned. She has a what is now 1yr old but then was obviously very young and also a 4 yr old and 11yr old. Stay at home mom by request, she did not return to army after baby was born as her husband and our Pastor urged her not to return. She began a friendship with the pastors son who was also the ministry leader at our church. This went a little too far this fall and fornication was suspected. In the meantime, when her husband left unexpectedly she planned on moving Back to her hometown , about 35 minutes away, so she would have family to support her and help her get her life back together. The Pastor and his wife urged her to stay and offered to help financially with rent until the baby was done nursing and she could find a job and eventually get back on her feet. Because she wanted to stay at the church & could not afford to drive back and forth to our 3 weekly mandatory services, she accepted a very pushy offer. She also did not want to uproot her children from their school district. In order to accomplish this, the pastor visited a local apartment complex that other family of his resided and put his name on the lease as well as hers for income purposes.He never had a key, or visited. Shortly after she was excommunicated, the church expected her to still attend every service. She attended a few at first but felt very uncomfortable. because no one would speak to her or make her welcome. In additional, they would go. outout of their way to be very arrogant and rude. They told her that she needed to accept. the holy ghost in her life and then she would be sin free like them and could rejoin. Because she was already alone and very emotionally distraught she decided it would be best to move back to her hometown where her family was awaiting her with open arms, support and guidance. She notified the apartment complex office of her departure. intentions and even requested to have the pastors name removed from the lease for that. time period to ensure he would be held liable for anything past the point of her. excommunication. They refused to do so. While moving her personal belongings, she was seen by the family of the pastor that also lives in that complex. She had a pair of jeans o. (It was cold outside! ) (our church views this as abomination and all women are to wear dresses at all times) and that was reported to the pastor. Two days later she returned to her apartment to retrieve more of their stuff and the locks were changed. Long story short, the pastor smugly shrugged his shoulders and told her he didn't care about her family's needs and that he had everything in the apartment thrown away before he had the locks changed. He instructed her to call the law because he was sure he was above it. She did and the police got in contact with the apartment complexes management team. and from fear of a possible lawsuit for what appeared to be an illegal eviction the. 9manager informed the police that the pastor and 3 other men of the church removed. her belongings and disbursed them amongst themselves.
They told her this was civil, she has to file a court petition to have this all heard by the judge. In the meantime many people have dropped off used clothing and shoes and. things for her family to get by on. How is it OK for anyone especially a pastor to rob in. the name of God?? What can she do? How can she righteously handle this situation? She. needs divine wisdom and advice on this very intriquote and complicated matter Would it. be wrong for her to persue restitution for the large amount of property that was taken? Can she air this on the local news channel for assistance? Thank you in advance for all advice and assistance! Have a blessed holiday!
A very good friend of mine has been recently excommunicated from our church for fornication allegations and needs advice. Back in spring, her husband left her and her 3 children without notice and never returned. She has a what is now 1yr old but then was obviously very young and also a 4 yr old and 11yr old. Stay at home mom by request, she did not return to army after baby was born as her husband and our Pastor urged her not to return. She began a friendship with the pastors son who was also the ministry leader at our church. This went a little too far this fall and fornication was suspected. In the meantime, when her husband left unexpectedly she planned on moving Back to her hometown , about 35 minutes away, so she would have family to support her and help her get her life back together. The Pastor and his wife urged her to stay and offered to help financially with rent until the baby was done nursing and she could find a job and eventually get back on her feet. Because she wanted to stay at the church & could not afford to drive back and forth to our 3 weekly mandatory services, she accepted a very pushy offer. She also did not want to uproot her children from their school district. In order to accomplish this, the pastor visited a local apartment complex that other family of his resided and put his name on the lease as well as hers for income purposes.He never had a key, or visited. Shortly after she was excommunicated, the church expected her to still attend every service. She attended a few at first but felt very uncomfortable. because no one would speak to her or make her welcome. In additional, they would go. outout of their way to be very arrogant and rude. They told her that she needed to accept. the holy ghost in her life and then she would be sin free like them and could rejoin. Because she was already alone and very emotionally distraught she decided it would be best to move back to her hometown where her family was awaiting her with open arms, support and guidance. She notified the apartment complex office of her departure. intentions and even requested to have the pastors name removed from the lease for that. time period to ensure he would be held liable for anything past the point of her. excommunication. They refused to do so. While moving her personal belongings, she was seen by the family of the pastor that also lives in that complex. She had a pair of jeans o. (It was cold outside! ) (our church views this as abomination and all women are to wear dresses at all times) and that was reported to the pastor. Two days later she returned to her apartment to retrieve more of their stuff and the locks were changed. Long story short, the pastor smugly shrugged his shoulders and told her he didn't care about her family's needs and that he had everything in the apartment thrown away before he had the locks changed. He instructed her to call the law because he was sure he was above it. She did and the police got in contact with the apartment complexes management team. and from fear of a possible lawsuit for what appeared to be an illegal eviction the. 9manager informed the police that the pastor and 3 other men of the church removed. her belongings and disbursed them amongst themselves.
They told her this was civil, she has to file a court petition to have this all heard by the judge. In the meantime many people have dropped off used clothing and shoes and. things for her family to get by on. How is it OK for anyone especially a pastor to rob in. the name of God?? What can she do? How can she righteously handle this situation? She. needs divine wisdom and advice on this very intriquote and complicated matter Would it. be wrong for her to persue restitution for the large amount of property that was taken? Can she air this on the local news channel for assistance? Thank you in advance for all advice and assistance! Have a blessed holiday!
