please help me!!!! please...

[kb1234]

what kind of promises stand? I know if the one you make promises to say you are free of that promise or forbids you to fulfill it, it will not stand and God will forgive you, because you didn't break it, you are untied from it. but here is the scenario:

I was sort of in a "drunken" state (not really drunk but, not quite fully conscious) Somehow I stupidly promised I wouldn't care about a certain bad thing that happened to me. the thing is, that thing was really big. normally, if I make a stupid promise, I know God says that I don't need to do it and I'm untied from it. the thing is, I can't do that this time, but I did, now that was sin. does the bible tell you to give up all you gained from that, even if it is good?

does that promise even stand?

 

[Mr.Cheese]

That kind of sounds like signing your name on the dotted line and then saying that you didn't really mean it.
I don't know your situation, but this sounds like a scenario you should work on not getting into anymore. Don't get mad at yourself, jsut dont' do it anymore, or work on not doing it.

 

[ZiSunka]

Every kind of promise should be kept.

That's why you should be very careful about making pormises and vows.

In fact, Jesus said NOT to swear an oath at all.

Matthew 5:33-37
33 "Again you have heard that it was said to those of old, 'You shall not swear falsely, but shall perform your oaths to the Lord.' 34 But I say to you, do not swear at all: neither by heaven, for it is God's throne; 35 nor by the earth, for it is His footstool; nor by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. 36 Nor shall you swear by your head, because you cannot make one hair white or black. 37 But let your 'Yes' be 'Yes,' and your 'No,' 'No.' For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.

 

[redjosh]

...trying to figure out your dilemma...
you were under the influence and made a promise not to do anything about a big problem
now you're sane you wanna do something about the big problem? - yea, that sound right?
its hard to comment without more info, but i spose its to do with someone else? do you need to forgive someone? did someone wrong you?
how about PM-ing me with more details...

"does that promise even stand?"

every promise and every word spoken, God will require and account for. your word will mean so much more if you keep to what you say, even if it means you being put to shame or looked down upon. remember God is the true judge of hearts, He knows your prob, talk to Him about it and ask for wisdom.
l8rs, josh

 

[Shakuhachi]

...trying to figure out your dilemma...
you were under the influence and made a promise not to do anything about a big problem
now you're sane you wanna do something about the big problem? - yea, that sound right?
its hard to comment without more info, but i spose its to do with someone else? do you need to forgive someone? did someone wrong you?
how about PM-ing me with more details...

"does that promise even stand?"

every promise and every word spoken, God will require and account for. your word will mean so much more if you keep to what you say, even if it means you being put to shame or looked down upon. remember God is the true judge of hearts, He knows your prob, talk to Him about it and ask for wisdom.
l8rs, josh

You were promising under the influence (PUI). Just talk to God about the whole thing and let it go. Or is someone else invloved also?

 

[eliseb]

Alcohol is the devils brew. When you drink alcohol then you invite the devil in to play havoc with you? You need to pray for strength to never drink alcohol again. You should always be alert and not in a drunken state of mind. This is your sin. Forget about the promise and repent for the alcohol. Nothing good ever comes out of alcohol. It destroys lives , families, and our commitments to God. And when you lose/separate from God then what do you have... The devil and his hay day. Sin works through deception. The wages of sin is death.? Walk all the way not just half. There's a verse saying you can not serve 2 masters. Many versesabout putting away drunkeness. This is why. Galations 5. Peter. Proverbs. It is written all through the scriptures. jesus came to give life? The devils purpose is to steal , kill , destroy.

 

[eliseb]

one more thing alcohol distorts the truth . Just as Satan does as well. Stay away and don't be used as a tool for evil.

 

[BarbB]

I agree that the key here is alcohol. Please do not drink again, even if you mostly don't get drunk. It allows all sorts of evil to do its work in your life. I know - I wasted 40 years drinking socially and all kinds of bad stuff happened. I had to quit drinking 12 years ago and my life really turned around, culminating in my salvation 2 years ago. Don't allow Satan to gain a foothold by alcohol, blanking your mind in meditation, etc. It's not worth the agony!

God bless you!

 

[DaveKerwin]

Do you want to tell us what happened? I don't understand.

Alcohol is not the devil's brew. Jesus drank wine. But let's not get into that. Let's stay on topic.

What did you promise? You can be honest, we won't tease or anything.

 

[kb1234]

I didn't "promise" as in saying, "I promise", I just said I will or will not do something, but those are promises as well. I sort of made a promise without thinking about it, I was just confused at that moment, but I said it.

What are rules of promises for Christians, I know in the Covenant Law it says that if a man makes a vow, he must do it and if a woman makes a vow, he must do it unless it is forbidden by her father or husband, but since the Law doesn't apply wholely for Christians even thought most of it does, I know this doesn't apply for Christians since I recall a verse saying all are equal under Christ, so what are vow regulations for Christians?

 

[redjosh]

avoid the law and focus on grace.
what are vow regulations? there are none, the word of the Lord says we should not make vows - (coz we're sinful and hopeless at keeping them!)

Jesus said: "Again you have heard that it was said to those of old, 'You shall not swear falsely, but shall perform your oaths to the Lord.' But I say to you, do not swear at all: neither by heaven, for it is God's throne; nor by the earth, for it is His footstool; nor by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. Nor shall you swear by your head, because you cannot make one hair white or black. But let your "Yes' be "Yes,' and your "No,' "No.' For whatever is more than these is from the evil one. - Matthew 5:33-37





But above all, my brethren, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or with any other oath. But let your "Yes" be "Yes," and your "No," "No," lest you fall into judgment. - James 5:12

 

[awackywabbit]

Rule & regulations are not a part of Christianity. So there are no rules about vows or promises.

The key here is your relationship to God and your fellow humans.

Is the thing you vowed to do going to hurt or help your relationship with God or someone else? The answer to this question will help you to determine if your vow was a godly one and should be honored or if it was a sinful vow that should be discarded.

So look at your relationship to God first and ask yourself if this particular promise will help or hurt your relationship with Him.