PDA At Church

[Weasel7711]

How does everyone feel about PDA at church? I have known some people to forfeit all physical contact with the opposite sex once the enter the doors of a church, others are practically making out. What do you and your SO do when you are at church?

 

[Tim114]

We tend to hold hands or hold a arm or lay a hand on a leg or something while sitting but for singing and pray most of the time there is minimal contact...

One or twice we've had pray while in a simple hug but other then that nothing much... plus she isn't to keen on other form of affection let alone physical contact

 

[plum]

I think it could be distracting to others (and it is to me if I see a dating couple kissing or really being heavy-feeling at church) so all I'd do is hold hands or rest a hand on a leg. I don't want others to be distracted.

 

[Weasel7711]

I LOVE LOVE LOVE holding my girlfriends hand or putting my arm around her shoulder while we are worshiping. She tells me she enjoys it too. It is really cool and gives me something more to worship about. I feel as if its just me, her, and God. Other than that I just hold her hand during the rest of the service. I try not to kiss in church (meaning a peck on the cheek) it may be distracting to others, but sometimes I admit I cant help it.

 

[AceHero]

I don't think you should do more than hold hands or put your arm around her. Anything more and you could easily get distracted from why you're there in the first place.

 

[Wandering Cat Lady]

Whatever PDA stands for...I know it's physical touch but anyway...we hold hands during the message, sometimes put arms over eachother's shoulder, that's about it for the message. In the parking lot sometimes we'll share a very quick peck on the cheek kiss in fun and we have no problem hugging eachother...but that's after the service

 

[Blank123]

i think it totally depends on what you'e talking about. making out in the middle of the service - not cool hand holding or just putting your arm over your SO's shoulder i can't see as a bad thing. dating and married couples are always doing that at my church.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Hand holding or laying a head on the other's shoulder or whatever - go for it. In fact, you SHOULD be doing that.

Making out? Eh... don't.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I thought this thread was about people playing solitaire on their PDA's during the service. My SO does that and it bothers me. No making out in church. At least wait till you're in your car.

 

[modelchick]

i've been wondering about that too. my b/f has only gone to my church three times(he goes to another church) but the first time we went we were holding hands getting out of the car in stuff but once we got into the church he let go and wouldn't hold my hand or anything the entire time we were there. i honestly don't see a problem with holding hands in church but if he's uncomfortable w/ it then im fine w/ that too.

 

[kiora]

hm... nothing really. I would never kiss my fiance in church. we have held hands or arms or touched shoulder but not very often

 

[ardeur]

We hold hands, hug, put arms around shoulders, I lay my head on his shoulder briefly sometimes, or give a quick kiss on the cheek... those things we've done. I would say it's intuitive what we feel is and isn't appropriate in church. It's never become and issue.

 

[WithIsWideopen0082]

I have no problem holding my boyfriend's hand or his arm around my shoulder, but his parents, mostley his mom has a problem with it so just out of respect, we normally show no PDA during service, sometimes after i'll get a quick kiss or a hug when it's time to leave. I don't think there is anything wrong with minimal PDA.

 

[miss_klara]

Yeh, I agree with everyone here... hand-holding is really nice. As for making out? I get put off seeing couples heavily making out in any public place, let alone church!!
Personally, I don't feel convicted to behave any differently, affection-wise, at church than any other public place. God is everywhere. People are everywhere. I don't think we should have separate rule-books for different places. Obviously, I understand church is particularly a place where you need to show some respect. But wherever you go, you are living a Christian example. So personally, if I'm not comfortable doing something affectionate at church, I should ask myself why, and if it would really be appropriate anywhere else.
Just my POV, based on what I'm comfortable with for me

 

[Tenorvoice]

when we are sitting I have my arm around her ontop of the pew/chair

WHen we pray we hold hands.

BUt holding hands is about the heighth of it for us.

 

[The Princess Bride]

I think it could be distracting to others (and it is to me if I see a dating couple kissing or really being heavy-feeling at church) so all I'd do is hold hands or rest a hand on a leg. I don't want others to be distracted.

Same here.

I dont believe contact like that is inappropriate, but I dont want to see couples lounging on one another or making out in service either!

In fact, the only time I truly want to see kissing in church, is when the preacher says "You may now kiss the bride!"

 

[DevoutHeiress]

Yeh, I agree with everyone here... hand-holding is really nice. As for making out? I get put off seeing couples heavily making out in any public place, let alone church!!
Personally, I don't feel convicted to behave any differently, affection-wise, at church than any other public place. God is everywhere. People are everywhere. I don't think we should have separate rule-books for different places. Obviously, I understand church is particularly a place where you need to show some respect. But wherever you go, you are living a Christian example. So personally, if I'm not comfortable doing something affectionate at church, I should ask myself why, and if it would really be appropriate anywhere else.
Just my POV, based on what I'm comfortable with for me

& i agree with miss_klara. FULLY. now, during a prayer, i might reach for his hand- if the Pastor is praying for young couples. :]

 

[suprdrk]

I'm pretty much with klara here. Holding hands for a blessing or what not is a powerful sign and something we enjoy. That, or an arm around her is all I would consider appropriate, and important for that matter. We're not there to enjoy each other's company per se, but we are there together, as a couple, to worship.

As far as kissing, I think that would be awkward in most situations. Even in the context of a Catholic service (I attend these as well as non-denom worship) where you are formally requested to embrace, hug, kiss or whatever as a sign of peace, I see that as a bit much for a dating couple.

But this aside, if you're doing something outside of church you wouldn't do in church, it requires some reflection as to why that's the case.

 

[AceHero]

As far as kissing, I think that would be awkward in most situations. Even in the context of a Catholic service (I attend these as well as non-demon worship) where you are formally requested to embrace, hug, kiss or whatever as a sign of peace, I see that as a bit much for a dating couple.

I sure hope you're not worshipping demons.

 

[Weasel7711]

if there's a prayer you better be sure im reaching for my GFs hand, if im not holding it already