Passafire when should he break loose.

[Melbelle]

My son just turned one on October 22nd, he really only takes his pippie (passafire) when he goes down for a nap or bed time, when should I break him loose of it all together and whats the best way of doing this. Should I take them and hide them all in a box and just act as if they went bye bye or what lol?

 

[andiesmama]

I don't think there's much of a concern until they get older, like 4 or 5? (someone correct me if I'm wrong) Some children just need a comfort object...Andie has her "blankie" that she's had since she was born. She (like Seth) only uses it for her nap & at bedtime.

But hey, if you think you want to try to ditch the pacifier, go for it!! Try it & see what happens....I've heard of moms doing stuff like making a big deal about their little one becoming such a big boy/girl that they had a party & threw all them in the garbage...or like you said, take the other route & just don't give it to him, if he asks, just act like it's no big deal & say they went "bye bye" or that you'll have to look for it later.

He'll probably have a hard time getting to sleep the first couple times, but I bet he'll get used to it fairly quickly!

Good luck! Let us know how it goes!!

 

[Melbelle]

I don't think there's much of a concern until they get older, like 4 or 5? (someone correct me if I'm wrong) Some children just need a comfort object...Andie has her "blankie" that she's had since she was born. She (like Seth) only uses it for her nap & at bedtime.

But hey, if you think you want to try to ditch the pacifier, go for it!! Try it & see what happens....I've heard of moms doing stuff like making a big deal about their little one becoming such a big boy/girl that they had a party & threw all them in the garbage...or like you said, take the other route & just don't give it to him, if he asks, just act like it's no big deal & say they went "bye bye" or that you'll have to look for it later.

He'll probably have a hard time getting to sleep the first couple times, but I bet he'll get used to it fairly quickly!

Good luck! Let us know how it goes!!

Good thing for me he doesn't talk yet lol.

 

[Why?]

I would say that it wouldn't hurt him to keep it until he's 3-ish. Mine took a baby bottle filled with water to bed with him until he was 2 and a half. (That was like his 'blankie', which Seth's pacifier must be to him. He would sip it until he fell asleep and then he'd hold it. He only drank before he slept though, never in the middle or after, so it didn't bother me to let him keep ahold of it. )

I know plenty of kids who kept their pacifiers until they were 2 or 3 and none of them have overbites or whatever, so I really don't think there's much truth to that one.

I say let him keep it.

 

[kingzjewel]

to me, going on three is long enough. no actual experience other than hearing stories from my sis in law who just got her kid off it at around that age. she let the one passy wear out and then told her it was lost. took a loooong time but worked. i have heard of other people snipping off bits of the end until the kid can no longer hold it in their mouth and gives up. my kid gave me his back (threw it back actually) when he was 4 mos old, after his colic went away.

 

[ZooMom]

At one year old, I'd say he's still ok to take a pacifier for naps and bed time. As long as he isn't walking around with it in his mouth constantly it's not an habitual problem. Like the other mommies have said, it's a comfort thing. And much better than liking his thumb! You can't take those away! He should be showing signs of giving it up voluntarily before or around two. If he's still demanding it when he's cruising toward three, you might need to intervene. Even now, you might think about making it his choice by not putting it in his mouth yourself. Just put it in the bed with him and if he wants it, he'll find it and pop it in. He may already be doing this. Anyway, blessings and prayers to you and Seth!


Peace be with you!

Sandy

 

[LegacyOfLove]

For me, I broke my children of their pacifiers between the ages of 1-2 years old, about the same time I stopped letting them have a bottle. It was part of their "I'm a big kid now" thing. For the first couple of days (especially at nap/bedtime) they would cry and throw fits. But, after that, they got over it very quickly. (I threw mine away all at once, rather than a gradual weaning, which some moms will do).

Certainly, it's up to you and how comfortable you will be in letting your son cry for a couple of days at bedtime (which is bound to happen no matter what age you decide to take it away). However, I will say from watching some of my relatives children, that the longer you wait to break this habit, the more difficult it is going to be (as they will have really formed an attachment to it). And of course, there does seem to be truth to the idea that it can really malform the teeth as they are coming in (saw this in one of my nieces)...but this was the case as she was allowed to continue using her pacifier when her ADULT teeth were coming in! So, I don't know what effect it would have on baby teeth as my children didn't have any problems from it.

 

[mamaneenie]

If it really bugs you, then you can give it a go.


We let our son keep his until he was 2. He'd just moved to a bed, and also given up his day nap, so he was that wasted anyway. One night my husband said to him, you don't really need this now, you are a big boy, in a bed and Thomas the Tank Engine wants to take it for a ride. (? It was his idea) It worked and the next night he didn't even ask for it.. It helped that he'd only just given up day naps and was very tired at bed time so he kinda crashed with out it.

 

[HeatherJay]

Well, my oldest gave hers up on her own when she was around 1 1/2...we called it her 'nookie'. We figured out later that the reason she didn't want it anymore was because she'd bitten a tiny hole in it...everytime she sucked on it, it would just collapse...it just didn't feel the same way anymore and she didn't like it. She didn't throw bedtime fits or anything...just kind of left it behind all of a sudden.

My youngest never would take a nookie...believe me, I tried to get that crying child to take one! But she never liked it at all.

But I always suggest poking a few small holes in it and seeing if they'll give it up on their own. Make sure that you don't cut it so that they'd be in danger of sucking a piece of it down their throats.

Honestly, Seth just turned a year...I think he's fine. I guess it irks me when I see 3 and 4 year old kids in Wal Mart take their pacifiers out of their mouths to ask their mommy for a candy bar, lol...if they can talk in full sentences then they're WAY too old for a nookie.

 

[alaskamolly]

I let my new babies have a pacifier if they will take it...but I don't use it all the time. I primarily only let them use it for car rides, church services, and other times out-of-the-house when I need them to NOT scream! I've found it a very handy device for such occasions!


And then, just before they get old enough to realize that they have a pacifier, I kill it.

...Meaning, it's GONE before they hit age 1 or right during. And yeah, it can be tough on them for the first few days, but I'm a major fan of the "all or nothing" approach to such things (it's my potty-training method, too). It at least keeps the misery down to a few days, as opposed to a long drawn out ordeal.

But, in order to do the all-or-nothing approach, you have to build up a good hefty dose of will-power, because the withdrawal period can be a doozy!). If you prepare for it ahead of time, and stock up on all necessary supplies for your survival (little 'treats' for moms, a good book, a yummy gourmet coffee or two, and other similar things to help you make it through the first 2-3 days), it helps as well! *grin*

Trying to slowly wean it out just makes for drawn-out misery, I think. I just had to think: do I want my child to be sucking on a pacifier at age 3? NO. So...away it went. If I let them go past 1, pretty soon they're going to develop a deeper attachment to it, and that just makes it that much harder to break. So I just kill it while the attachment is still not quite as *heavy* as it will be in toddlerhood.

I do the same thing when I potty-train. When I know they are ready, we just flat-out go for it. No more diapers (except at nap/nights if they still wet when sleeping)--and I just suffer through (faking a smile, of course) for a really wet wet wet week...and then, walla, we're on the other side, free at last! Usually right at age 2 is when I go for it--though I absolutely hate changing toddler diapers, so perhaps that's a major part of my motivation *grin*.....but my method has worked on two girls and a very boyish boy thus far, so I'm thinking I'll stick to it as long as it lasts.


My 2 Cents,
Mol

 

[Torah]

They! Say. Who are they? We always here someone say. “They say”. And who made they! The experts. They! Might not even have any kid’s. Now! What was the question?.
O-yea, the passafire. I still got my “binke” it took some getting used to but when I got marred my wife got used to it. Look at Liens on Charley Brown. He’s had that blanket for 30 or 40 years. I’m just having some fun here! It’s up to you.
I know in some cultures they allow kids to have a passafire till 7 or 8. Who’s to say? “THEY” When we wanted to break our kid’s of it. We would say things like. “Big kids don’t use passafire.” And all kid want to be big. Till were big then we want to be young.

 

[tonya]

Well at one I think it is still alright to let him have the pacifier...I took my daughter's bottle away around her first birthday...and she held on tight to the pacifier..which was fine with me because at one they atill little fellas and some kids need that comfort. When she turned 2 she still took it but only at bedtime and naptime and if we were on a trip and she was just plain tired! Her daddy isactually the one that got the thing away from her(his nerves are better thatn mine...hehe!). He took it away one weekend and we hid it and she asked for it for a coupla days and then stopped..

 

[Katydid]

molly, you want to come to my house and potty train my three year old for me??LOL.
Seriously, though, I could use the support. We are going on a big trip, and in January we start. Though it is hard because Sissy(Lara) still wears diapies. (She's only 16 months)

As far as the OP, I say the sooner the better otherwise they do get VERY attached and it is almost impossible to get rid of. My son, yeah the one that won't potty train , well he took a sippy cup to bed and at 20 months, that would be 8 months pregnant for me, I decided that he needed to get rid of it. I mean I had another baby on the way, and if he dropped it at night he would cry, so it was weaning time. That was the worst three nights of my life. So my philosophy is to break the habit before it gets worse. But, that is just me. Just please don't have him running around at 3 with a paci hanging out of his mouth. I know this is petty, but that is why they call it a pet peeve, but I can't stand seeing a three year old trying to talk to me around a pacifier. It just makes me want to take it and say "if your old enough to communicate, your old enough to know that you don't need this anymore". OK now if I could just do that with the diapers for MY three year old. LOL. OK let me practice, "If your old enough to communicate, your old enough to use the potty". LOL. OK but at a year, if you don't mind, then I don't see any medical reason to wean him.

 

[alaskamolly]

molly, you want to come to my house and potty train my three year old for me??LOL.
Seriously, though, I could use the support. We are going on a big trip, and in January we start. Though it is hard because Sissy(Lara) still wears diapies. (She's only 16 months)

Ok...here goes..

Go Team, Fight Fight Fight!
Katydid Can Ditch the Dipes!
It will Stink and it will Wet!
But a Dry Day She'll Soon Get!




How was that...?





Ok, so it's obvious I wasn't a cheerleader in high school...






*snicker, grin, giggle*

 

[Katydid]

Thanks. I just have to break free of the diapers, the whole pull up thing didn't work at all. He just thought they were cooler diapers. So I guess it will be all or nothing.

 

[andiesmama]

Thanks. I just have to break free of the diapers, the whole pull up thing didn't work at all. He just thought they were cooler diapers. So I guess it will be all or nothing.

Thanks for the cheer Molly!! Katydid....we're doing the January training thing with Andie, too (she'll be 2 1/2)...I figure after the holidays when it's calmed down, schedules are back on track...just go for it!! I mean, she KNOWS what the potty is for, she KNOWS how to pull down her pants...I just haven't started enforcing the idea...but I've heard from another friend of mine exactly what Molly said....just plan on a few days of accidents, ditch the diapers totally, buy cool new "big kid" panties, and go for it.... maybe we can start a potty training support group??? With Molly as our leader, of course!!

 

[Katydid]

MOLLY FOR PRESIDENT!!!!! YEAH!!!

Yeah, my son also knows what the potty is for, though he can't quite pull his pants down on his own. He has some trouble with coordination. Ours is after we move to a new house (1st of Dec.) our vacation (8 Dec.-3 Jan.) and finally find time to settle down in our new home. Then we will begin. But I am figuring mid-january. I think I am as uptight as he is about it right now.

 

[Zoomer]

I would try to get rid of it sooner than later. The longer you wait the more of a habit the paci becomes. It's also a good idea to get rid of it before he starts to talk. I hate it when a 3 or 4 year old has to take out the pacifier to ask for something and then sticks it back in the mouth. I would try to find another comfort item for him. My kids had blankies instead of pacifiers.