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Parental issues..

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As the title says, my parents are strictly Buddhist. I'd have to estimate that about 85% Buddhist with the rest of either Catholic or some indigenous faith. Anyhow, I'd like to make it clear that I've been raised up by my grandma who was Catholic-influenced to become a Christian. Up to about 2 years ago, my parents were barely religious at all and didn't really care at all about what faith my family believed in. Now that they are super religious, my mom is technically the only person in my family who disapproves of my faith. She literally tries to CRAM Buddhism down my throat, forcing me to go to temple, and sometimes paying charity. Of course, I can't refuse and I tell her that I believe in a different faith and bringing me into a different environment won't change or assist me in any way whatsoever. My dad is totally tolerant and so is my sister, who's probably leaning towards Buddhism. But in conclusion, I respect my family too much to give them the word of God without them being angered or confused. I mainly need to tell my mom how forcing and preaching Buddhism (very uncommon) is making me quite uncomfortable and quite upset as I respect everyone else. I hope that this message is not too long but I feel like I need serious help between me and my mother. Thanks to all.
 

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Don't be surprised os discouraged. This is what Jesus spoke of in Luke:

Do you think that I have come to give peace on earth? No, I tell you, but rather division. For from now on in one house there will be five divided, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against her daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.”
Luke 12:51-53


Stand firm in your faith and let the chips fall where they may.
 
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Yes, honor your mother and father and show respect; and you might let your mother know whenever she is putting pressure on you, that she could find it helpful to at least learn about Christianity.

Some people urge others to study the Bible, but for most people holding various religious ideas it is better to just refer to some of the Bible verses first. I often suggest one read John 1; John 3; John 14, then ask God to teach one what is truth. Those are good chapters to know.

Of course, if your mom does not believe there is a God, then she is left to the religions of men and man's own ideas about truth and eternity. Without arguing, you could mention that her religion is more a philosophy for life, rather than the love and care of God now and for eternity --which is a fuller faith. I will pray for you, friend.
 
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I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I would emphasize the things in Buddhism and Christianity that coincide to your mom (i.e. focus on what both have in common), but also make sure that she understands that your faith in Christ has only been helpful and not harmful to you and that you've only gotten good things out of your faith. You may never convince her, but not being Buddhist is not equivalent to abandoning her (which may be her real issue- she feels a loss of control).
 
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