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ZACTAK

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Hey everyone. I have been talking to this girl online for a couple weeks now, and what is weird is that I have a 'crush' on her... this is weird because I never have a crush on an individual online... my feelings don't come with me online, I don't take things personal or anything. Well, we both go to the same university, and since school is out we can't meet... We live on opposite sides of the state when we are home and it just so happened that I had a book she wants and she has a book I want. Well, we decided we would swap books. I wrote a little letter in mine telling her she is nice and I am glad I have gotten to know her, and I can't wait to get to know her better. I also wrote about possibly meeting when we get back to school, and I gave her my phone number.

We were talking online tonight and I asked her if she has met all the people she talks to online that live near her and she said no she has met two people because she is too afraid to normally. During the conversation I told her that it says this in the letter and if she doesn't want to meet it is cool... but now I am freaking out because I don't want her to think I am some weird freak, or trying to be too forward by giving her my phone number or saying I wanted to meet her. Am I overanalyzing what I said?
 

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Yes you're overanalysing ;-).

Great idea to meet up for coffee and see if you hit it off. Maybe as friends....maybe more Keep getting to know her online for now though, and I agree with Blue Impulse - ensure you maintain openness, honesty and integrity. Best of luck!
 
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thanks everyone... I have a private journal that I write in every night, I write about what is bothering me and then a way to fix the thing that is bothering me... well I wrote in it last night and then I realized I was getting a little too worked up about it. I really liked reading everyone's responses especially since some guys responded and some girls responded. My problem is for some reason I am too worried what other people think of me, I really hope to be able to get over that.

I guess another reason I assumed we would be meeting is that she knows and grew up with another girl I had met from the same web site who I am good friends with now...she goes to SMS too... and she also knows one of my roommates for next year whom I have already met on several occasions. I also think that I have seen her before, because she looked familiar to me... more than likely we ate in the same cafeteria this past year. ah well, thanks everyone. God bless.
 
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Just being yourself and putting God first in your life into what He plans for you and your will and not to compromise anything else that is against Him. And you will be fine. Let us know how it goes as we will be praying for you no matter what occurs.
 
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