Opposites attract?

[chris414]

Hey guys... so what are your thoughts and experiences on the age old saying "opposites attract"? is it true that relationships work better when you are "opposite"? is that opposite in personality, opposite in interests, or both? Conversely, do they work when you're "the same"?

Thanks

 

[catofhope]

I muchly prefer being similar especially in what you consider the most important issues.

My hubby and I think very much alike.
And we also share a major interest in movies.
Although it's good to have some individual interests.

Do opposites attract? YES
But should you marry them? not necessarily
Personally I would NOT marry someone with opposite views.

 

[peanutbutter12]

It really depends on what we're talking about. In what ways are you opposite from the other. It's ok to have different interests in things like music, movies, even in personality. But it really depends on what the topics are and how important they are to you.

 

[Briseis]

Opposite in personality, so you dont bore each other. Two shy ppl probably wouldnt find each other very interesting. Two out-going ppl would always be fighting for the last word.

But similar in beliefs, values, and interests, so you can enjoy doing things together, agree on your way of life, and have similar goals.

My psychology teacher told us that the saying was false, and 'Birds of a feather flock together' is a better motto, that an athlete probably wouldnt want to marry an obese person. But he was obviously looking at it all wrong. Since a love of fitness is in the values and interest category. I believe in most cases, two ppl together usually have very different dispositions.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I married someone who was "opposite" in many ways and, um, I'm divorced now. Everything I've read about relationships says similarities are what can help a marriage survive. My bf is "similar" in that we share our faith, he grew up in the same area as me, but it finally hit me that he never finished high school and I'm working on my Bachelors degree. He doesn't like to read because of his dyslexia (and probably because he's supposed to wear reading glasses) and I love to read. He's carrying credit card balances and my dad always told me not to do that so I never have even though I had to be very creative with those convienence checks back when I was married. He plans on getting them paid off asap, but these are some things that I'm aware of. He's a smart guy who can fix all kinds of things.

He makes me smile, so that's a big positive.

 

[The Princess Bride]

Opposites can be ok, but just make sure they arent on things most important to you, ie. faith, where to live, how many kids to have...all those are BIG matters that need to have similar views.

 

[Monaleezza]

Opposite?? HELL NO!!

My opposite, would be shy, retiring, quiet, not much to say, no real opinion.
Not a Christian, not much personality, not much of a sense of humour...
Wow.. that makes me sound like Wonderwoman doesn't it! lol

I certainly couldn't cope with an opposite!
Someone just like me would do just fine.
(And a refined version would be even better )

 

[ciaradawn]

I don't think the term means opposite in every way or an exact opposite either, so I think yes, opposites attract. I'm a christian, my opposite is not, NOT christian. He's opposite in different ways. I think it's important to have similarities but can still be your opposite.

DH and I have some similarities and we have some differences and they work well together. I am attracted to the things that are completely opposite of me; I'm more reserved, he is a people person. I am organized, he's a mess... ok I'm not so attracted to that one

 

[indigo tree]

At least some similarities are a must, I think, because you got to have stuff in common otherwise you'll have nothing to talk about. But Opposites can be a good thing, too. I am a shy, reserved person, whereas my boyfriend is more outgoing. I don't think a quiet person would be well-suited for me. I need someone who can get me talking sometimes. Therefore an outgoing person compliments me better.

 

[SnarphBlat]

Everyone is going to be opposite to eachother in some way.
Me and DB are opposite's in some areas, I am more outgoing, he isn't. I love parties, him not so much.
But we both like to skip parties or times with friends just to be together. We both love to shoot guns, read, be goofy.

When I think opposite, I think that he completes where I am uncompleted. And thats how people become a whole.
I am not good at remembering things, but he can remember things even if it was from months ago.
I am artistic, where he is all brain and book-smart.
But we still get along so well. We share Jesus, and both know him, and our hearts for life are the same.

So weather opposites are good are bad, and do they attract?
I think in a way they do.
But I honestly think it depends on the two people if that relationship will work out.

If we were all the same, life would be so boring.