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[Marionette]

So today was my latest OB visit.. I'm starting to dislike this place. Different doctor from last time of course. So I got a pelvic exam and he said my cervix was 'paper thin' which is great and that my pelvis is indeed good. Then he told us that he would recommend inducing labor tomorrow.. I told him several times that I don't want to be pumped up on drugs for labor but he kept sitting there with his doctor face on like I'd change my mind if he stared at me long enough. So I asked if I could think about it and he asked for how long. Another week, says I. Guess that wasn't the answer he was looking for. What mom and I gathered from his conclusion for wanting to induce is that this is a big baby (supposedly 8lbs last week according to the ultrasound) and that he's going to get bigger the longer we wait.

So far I've been completely at ease with having birth occur naturally and not been stressed at all but with all this talk of inducing, the thought of them forcing me into a chemical-crazy birth is starting to stress me out. That would scare me more than having things happen on their own..

Any advice? Reassurances? Prayers?

My mom keeps telling me to keep in mind that we do come from a family of tall people (I'm 5'9 as I've said in another post) and though I weighed 9lbs 10oz at birth, I was a long baby. Though she was forced into C-sections with both me and my brother so she's just as much outside the loop as I am when it comes to natural childbirth.

I wish they'd stop trying to hijack my body.. So far my due date is December 31st and I know they aren't always on par but it would seem they would let me at least get to that point before trying to yank the poor kid out. His heartbeat is good, my bloodpressure is prolly the best it's been the whole trip and my cervix is thinning.. blah. My brain feels like it's going in circles.

 

[Beth1231]

I'm so sorry your Dr. isn't willing to put your peace of midn before his stupid calendar! *hugs* I really hope you stick to your guns and let things happen naturally. It sounds very stressful to not have people on your team. By the way, your due date is my anniversary!

 

[jgonz]

Your due date is Only a couple days away... Waiting a few more days isn't going to pack on another pound to the baby's weight, kwim? And 8lbs is Not that big. One of my easiest births was my 8lb 1/2oz DD.

Check out www.spinningbabies.com for optimal positioning for the baby~ that will cut down on issues during labor. An induction could be your worst nightmare... I know plenty of moms who swear that they had no issues from being induced, but the Potential is still there. And, the potential for the baby to be affected by the pitocin is a Definate concern. Pitocin can also lower Both the mother's and the baby's blood pressure. (Hence so many induced moms having emergency c-sections because the baby is in "distress".)

Ultimately it's up to you... but Please don't let any doctor pressure you into doing something you are not comfortable with, especially since it sounds like you're not going to have one particular doctor to deal with.

 

[RedTulipMom]

Hes trying to force an induction on you 3 days before your even due? From my understanding its safe to go 2 weeks PAST your due date in most cases! Geez. Just tell him NO! It aint his body or his baby!! lol

 

[RN4CHRIST]

I agree with everyone. Stick to your guns! If your baby is in no distress and you have no health problems, let nature take its course! I find this so funny, cause I remember BEGGING my doctor to induce me at 36 weeks(OK I had a moment of pregnancy induced insanity, what can I say) and my doctor adamantly REFUSED induction because the baby NEEDS this time in their mommy. And my baby was 9 pounds 1.4 oz!! So long story short, stick to your guns! Everything you posted sounded A-OK, no need to induce.

 

[Leanna]

You go girl! Don't you let him pressure you. Your post made me mad at that doctor. He needs a good talking to. Your body is going to kick in at the right time and with the baby the right size. You can do this!

Um and one other thought, considering how things are going with him already, he seems like the sort that would get c-section happy while you are in labor-- looking for any and every excuse to c-section. Have you considered a doula? Or if your mom will be there, make sure she knows what situations a c-section would be okay in. Its last minute for a doula, but it sounds like you need someone there to fend off the interventions... my goodness....

 

[Linnis]

Don't let a doctor push you into something you don't want to do. induction is something which should be talked about when you are a week or more over.

I gave birth 2 days before my due date.

 

[Marionette]

Thanks so much for the words of encouragement, ladies I have another appointment set up for Tuesday but I'm thinking I don't want to go back if all they'll do is try and induce me again! I told mom that first thing in the morning I'll be calling the birthing center to see if I can at least have my baby there even though it's pretty late in the program. Never know unless you try!
Much love, gals~ I'm feeling alot better than I was earlier!

 

[RoseofLima]

You make sure you make that call---don't feel guilty about it. No one should pressure you to do things with your body that you don't want to do. There is no medical reason at all for those doctors to induce you. I am 5'2"- my biggest baby was just shy of 9 pounds, she even came out with her arm up by her face....she came out just fine without even any stitches. What made that possible was a calm and relaxed and trust filled birthing experience. The lights were low, it was quiet and I had the people who I wanted with me there.(Don't get me wrong- it was hard work and hurt like all get out...but it wasn't traumatic in anyway...I don't think anyone even spoke to me, except to quietly and loving me reassure me that I was doing great).

Stress= bad labor. Stress kicks in adrenalin at the wrong points in labor- and the adrenaline blocks the work of the oxytocin and the pain dulling endorphins. Stress makes labor much slower and much harder than it would otherwise be.

Even if you have 10 babies--- this is not something you will do often in your life....no one should take that away from you. I hate medical professionals who forget that while this is their JOB-- it is my LIFE, my baby....and it has greater significance tham simply a medical procedure.

Prayers coming your way. I'd leave that practice fortwith--but I am obnoxious like that

 

[razzelflabben]

So today was my latest OB visit.. I'm starting to dislike this place. Different doctor from last time of course. So I got a pelvic exam and he said my cervix was 'paper thin' which is great and that my pelvis is indeed good. Then he told us that he would recommend inducing labor tomorrow.. I told him several times that I don't want to be pumped up on drugs for labor but he kept sitting there with his doctor face on like I'd change my mind if he stared at me long enough. So I asked if I could think about it and he asked for how long. Another week, says I. Guess that wasn't the answer he was looking for. What mom and I gathered from his conclusion for wanting to induce is that this is a big baby (supposedly 8lbs last week according to the ultrasound) and that he's going to get bigger the longer we wait.

So far I've been completely at ease with having birth occur naturally and not been stressed at all but with all this talk of inducing, the thought of them forcing me into a chemical-crazy birth is starting to stress me out. That would scare me more than having things happen on their own..

Any advice? Reassurances? Prayers?

My mom keeps telling me to keep in mind that we do come from a family of tall people (I'm 5'9 as I've said in another post) and though I weighed 9lbs 10oz at birth, I was a long baby. Though she was forced into C-sections with both me and my brother so she's just as much outside the loop as I am when it comes to natural childbirth.

I wish they'd stop trying to hijack my body.. So far my due date is December 31st and I know they aren't always on par but it would seem they would let me at least get to that point before trying to yank the poor kid out. His heartbeat is good, my bloodpressure is prolly the best it's been the whole trip and my cervix is thinning.. blah. My brain feels like it's going in circles.

No one can tell you what to do, but I can tell you what I did. Our first three were born in the hospital, with inducing. I hated it! I kept telling my husband that I wanted to have the kids at home but he was scared and so I gave in. Then came our 4th, I talked my husband into home delivery. She was almost 10 lb. almost a month overdue and breach, but God reasured me and she was not only fine, but her apgar score was 10 from the get go and that was with the dark water which should have caused problems. When the 5th was born, my husband was more at ease, he was on time but also breach, a footling this time, and we got along fine. Now I say this from my own experience, not suggesting you do the same, please understand what I am suggesting is that you must be comfortable with the decision from within you, your husband, and Gods' perspective.

May God grant you peace and wisdom as you embark on this amazing journey.

 

[Leanna]

Ooooh you have a birthing center... how lucky! They are cheaper than hospitals too I think....

 

[Marionette]

Well, I called the birthing center and they said I'm too far along to give birth there. I guess I'll just go with the hospital and be prepared to knock some skulls around when the time comes. Rawr!

 

[GolfingMom]

Well, I called the birthing center and they said I'm too far along to give birth there. I guess I'll just go with the hospital and be prepared to knock some skulls around when the time comes. Rawr!

Are there any Drs you like in that practice? Maybe a midwife you met that you really like? You could request to have them be the delivering Dr or maybe you'll be blessed with a very quick labor and have the Dr. on call deliver your baby