Who are you planning on having with you in the delivery room?
For those of you doing homebirths, who are you planning on having present?
For those of you doing homebirths, who are you planning on having present?
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I plan on having dh and maybe a really good friend of mine who's had 4 kids. She's the kindest and most reassuring person I know, so I think I would appreciate her presence.
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RoseofLima
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I plan on having my husband and my 3 oldest children and two young women watch the kids there with me.
I will vacate that room probably as soon as I arrive at the hospital unless I show up pushing- and head for the shower and tub - and then I will probably be in there by myself...though I am thinking I might want my husband in there with me this time. I dunno- I really like being by myself in labor. The nurses will just come every 30 minutes or so to check fetal heart tones. And as long as everything is going smoothly - my ob will only touch me to support the head as it passes over my perineum. I don't like people talking to me or touching me while I am in transition or pushing- it distracts me.
I will vacate that room probably as soon as I arrive at the hospital unless I show up pushing- and head for the shower and tub - and then I will probably be in there by myself...though I am thinking I might want my husband in there with me this time. I dunno- I really like being by myself in labor. The nurses will just come every 30 minutes or so to check fetal heart tones. And as long as everything is going smoothly - my ob will only touch me to support the head as it passes over my perineum. I don't like people talking to me or touching me while I am in transition or pushing- it distracts me.
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JulySheMustFly
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I had to laugh at the touching thing. My poor husband never knew what to do for me because so much of what he read and heard talked about massage and touch. I couldn't stand it. I didn't want to be touched except for him to hold my hand during contractions. Otherthan that I just wanted him to be there silently with me.I plan on having my husband and my 3 oldest children and two young women watch the kids there with me.
I will vacate that room probably as soon as I arrive at the hospital unless I show up pushing- and head for the shower and tub - and then I will probably be in there by myself...though I am thinking I might want my husband in there with me this time. I dunno- I really like being by myself in labor. The nurses will just come every 30 minutes or so to check fetal heart tones. And as long as everything is going smoothly - my ob will only touch me to support the head as it passes over my perineum. I don't like people talking to me or touching me while I am in transition or pushing- it distracts me.
It was just him and the nurse who would wander in and out.
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Its just going to be my husband and I.... I was orginally going to get a doula but my husband thinks he can be all the labor support I need and so I'm going to let him do that.
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Singin4Him
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I will have my husband and if I deliver vaginally I'll have my mother but if I have a c-section I don't think I can have more than one person.
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my husband and hopefully a friend of mine thatis on the OB nursing staff at the hospital I am going to birth at, she was on maternity leave with my daughter, but she hand picked all my nurses, I love her.
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I am hoping to have my husband in there this time arround... He made it to the hospital about 5 minuets after Robert was born and rushed to the NICU. He walked in asking if he needed to go hom for the punger, then came in to see that the dr was sewing me up...
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My hubby and my mommy. If I have to have a c-section and only one person, then my hubby. I was going to just have hubby but I am a big baby and I really think I'll just want my mommy.
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It'll just be me and my husband, most likely. My mom and sister are coming out one week in March, and my aunt and cousin are coming out another week. So depending which week the baby decides to come out, there may be two other people present.
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Just my mom. I asked her early on if she would be my support person and since she had a c-section with both me and my brother, this will be a new experience for both of us. The father would probably like to be there but that's a no way. I'm trying to keep with as much of a stress free environment as possible. 
He can wait outside.
He can wait outside.
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I'll have my hubby in the room with my and my mom and dad will be outside as i think we can only have one person in there in England.
It's a standing joke with my sister that i want her hubby as he was great with my sister and got her through two labours with just gas and air because he got her breathing really well
It's a standing joke with my sister that i want her hubby as he was great with my sister and got her through two labours with just gas and air because he got her breathing really well
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Redstiletto
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Ok, being a newbie mommie to be, who are you supposed to have in the delivery room? This was something I had never given thought to until I read this thread and now I am alll worried that people are going to see... you know my private place...
I know this sounds silly, but I am not ready to bare all for the world!
I know this sounds silly, but I am not ready to bare all for the world!
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RoseofLima
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Can I reassure you-- that when the time comes- you seriously, seriously won't care one iota about who is seeing whatOk, being a newbie mommie to be, who are you supposed to have in the delivery room? This was something I had never given thought to until I read this thread and now I am alll worried that people are going to see... you know my private place...
I know this sounds silly, but I am not ready to bare all for the world!
You will just want that baby outta there ! As a doula one of the signs that a woman is in transition- (if she is free to move around and stuff) is that all her clothes come off. It's really funny- it's like a 9 out of 10 kind of thing...even women who are noramlly very reserved and modest...I think it is best to have people there who love you and who help you feel at ease and a t peace--and know you very well...so that they can help you fulfill your expectations for birth. It is no good for example- to have someoen there (even if they are someone who you otherwise find comfort in) who is a very outspoken uber- natural childbirth advocate--if you have made the informed decsion for yourself that you would like to have an epidural. It is equally not good to have someone there who would keep bringing up just taking medication - if that is not something you want to do.
ALso - you have the absolute right to ask people to leave if you begin to feel uncomfortable by their presence. Sometimes people we think will be a great comfort to us during labor turn out to be downright annoying-- their energy just doesn't gel with what's going on at the time...
I have one young lady who I know would love to be there- but she cannot shut up...and normally this is kind of endearing to me- but I know it would drive me batty in labor. My MIL is the biggest worrier on the face of the planet- and cannot sit still (she always has to be doing something)..so I know she would drive me nuts too. My own mom- is loud and also cannot just sit and be still....and would also drive me totally insane.
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Redstiletto
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Thanks. That helps a little, but this is huge, mine is the first grandbaby so of course everyone is going to want to be there!
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RoseofLima
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I think it is just fine to ask the grandmas and whoever to wait in the waiting room...they can come in right after the baby is born. I really don't like having a lot of people around- that's just what is most comfortable for me...however, because I want my older kids there- I need to have more people there so they can each have someone to help them- or take them out if they feel uncomfortable.
It is hard, hard work having a baby--and it is so important to be able to be able to be phsychologically able to let go of inhibitions about making noise or about doing whatever you need to do. When a woman is 10 cm's dialtated she is at her most physically and often emotionally vulnerable position she will ever find herself in...it's hard to be okay with that vulnerability if there are people around who do not make you feel safe or unconditionally loved.
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Redstiletto
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Thanks again Rosa, Again this is something that will take lots of thought on my part to get through. I am a very intraverted person when it comes to my body and stuff like that. Its going to be hard to even have my husband there to see me like that, and I know that is bad to say, but I just dont like people seeing me in my weakest moments.
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Most hospitals have a policy that only two or three people can be in the delivery room (other than medical staff) anyway so not all grandparents would fit. I would never let my parents or my in laws in the room while I gave birth..... you don't have to either.
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I only let my Husband in the room. I didn't want all these other people in the room. Besides my DH there were 3 doctors and about 10 nurses so I wasn't alone by any means!
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