One person for everyone?

[Nessanessa]

God designed adam for eve so does he design a specific person for each of us to marry?

Or does he leave that up for us to decide? Can you marry the 'wrong person' when there was another person God designed you to have?

Of course if your spouse dies then maybe there is a possible two people for everyone. But if we met the second person and married them first then we could really muck up God's plan cos they might not die before us so we couldnt marry the first person second who we were really meant to marry first 

So is the notion that there is specific person for everyone JUST a romantic notion or much much more....

I dont believe I married the 'wrong' person but I dont know what that means exactly?

 

[April Rain]

I don't have scripture to support my opinion, however I might have a theory for you. God gave Eve to Adam for a help mate because He saw that Adam was lonely. As wives and husbands Paul laid out our roles plainly. Interesting thought to ponder...David and Jonathan. They loved each other as more than brothers, and made a covenant together before the Lord. Not saying it was weird just that they truly loved one another even with spouses. I personally feel that there are true soulmates for each person. I love my husband and we will be married till death do us part. I feel that though we have a connection in many ways that it's more a partnership than a true blue match. We make it work as many others do. There's a beauty in that. But I think that a relationship or connection to someone else is possible. I'm not saying weirdness like open relationships or intimate acts. I'm taking like David and Jonathan...just true love in its purest form. A friendship that fills a longing in our hearts.

 

[Darkhorse]

I suppose just one person could be selected by God, but I also think a variety of people may be selected, especially in the event that we lose our first spouse.

I have no doubt that God brings some couples together, and there are absolutely right and wrong people to marry. It's heaven if you get one of the "right" ones, and if you get a "wrong" one...

 

[April Rain]

So true! Sometimes for being a wrong one it could be dependent on how much effort each puts in.

 

[Nessanessa]

I don't have scripture to support my opinion, however I might have a theory for you. God gave Eve to Adam for a help mate because He saw that Adam was lonely. As wives and husbands Paul laid out our roles plainly. Interesting thought to ponder...David and Jonathan. They loved each other as more than brothers, and made a covenant together before the Lord. Not saying it was weird just that they truly loved one another even with spouses. I personally feel that there are true soulmates for each person. I love my husband and we will be married till death do us part. I feel that though we have a connection in many ways that it's more a partnership than a true blue match. We make it work as many others do. There's a beauty in that. But I think that a relationship or connection to someone else is possible. I'm not saying weirdness like open relationships or intimate acts. I'm taking like David and Jonathan...just true love in its purest form. A friendship that fills a longing in our hearts.

I really liked your post and I hear what you are saying...I have wondered about david and jonathan too...I know someone who thinks all your needs should be met in a marriage partner..I dunno..I think God wants a variety of relationships for us..christians are all family in christ..

 

[Nessanessa]

I suppose just one person could be selected by God, but I also think a variety of people may be selected, especially in the event that we lose our first spouse.

I have no doubt that God brings some couples together, and there are absolutely right and wrong people to marry. It's heaven if you get one of the "right" ones, and if you get a "wrong" one...

Dont leave us in suspense..did you get a right or wrong one?

 

[April Rain]

I really liked your post and I hear what you are saying...I have wondered about david and jonathan too...I know someone who thinks all your needs should be met in a marriage partner..I dunno..I think God wants a variety of relationships for us..christians are all family in christ..

I agree with you on that. If we were made to love one person, God would not have said to love your brother...and your enemies. Fruit of the Spirit is love. I think that you can smother someone and push them away. No one likes to be in chains.

Yes please tell us

 

[Darkhorse]

Dont leave us in suspense..did you get a right or wrong one?

I got a right one, and we just celebrated our 25th anniversary!

I believe God lined up at least one other "right one" several years before I met my wife, but I didn't follow through with her...

I know He also kept me from getting in too deep with a wrong one - but I was CRAZY about her... It would have been a disaster!

Marriage does take work, but these 25 years have gone by very fast, and we're still in love!

 

[Darkhorse]

I agree with you on that. If we were made to love one person, God would not have said to love your brother...and your enemies. Fruit of the Spirit is love. I think that you can smother someone and push them away. No one likes to be in chains.

I agree that love is not a "one-at-a-time" thing, and that there are different kinds of love (the Greeks named 3 kinds). My wife and I want each other to have friends; it stabilizes a person and helps them keep things in perspective. So hurray for Jonathan and David!

For me, one of the tough lessons of marriage was that your spouse can't be all things to you, and vice versa. No human can. But the deep, comforting trust of an exclusive marriage partner fills every empty space.

 

[April Rain]

I agree that a spouse cannot be everything. I think that's true in all relationships. No one person can be everything for someone. If that was true we would have no need for Jesus.

But the deep, comforting trust of an exclusive marriage partner fills every empty space.

I agree to the exclusive marriage partner and the deep trust. If you are happy and your spouse meets your needs that's wonderful. Sometimes I believe that people can have a desire to feel accepted for a way they see our something they do...hence the need for friendship. Because of society's standards and nature, if a woman was to befriend a man or vice versa, that would be frowned upon as a whole. But I'd both partIes kept things in perspective I belIeve that deeper relationships could develop and in turn make the married couple have a closer relationship because of the other spouse's acceptance.

Congratulations on your years if marriage by the way!

 

[Nessanessa]

Ive just served time too ..20 years
Heehee.glad you backed the right horse, dark horse...we dont want any crazy horses for a spouse

 

[Darkhorse]

Ive just served time too ..20 years
Heehee.glad you backed the right horse, dark horse...we dont any crazy horses for a spouse

No we don't; I've seen way too many of those!

 

[Darkhorse]

I agree to the exclusive marriage partner and the deep trust. If you are happy and your spouse meets your needs that's wonderful. Sometimes I believe that people can have a desire to feel accepted for a way they see our something they do...hence the need for friendship. Because of society's standards and nature, if a woman was to befriend a man or vice versa, that would be frowned upon as a whole. But I'd both partIes kept things in perspective I belIeve that deeper relationships could develop and in turn make the married couple have a closer relationship because of the other spouse's acceptance.

I see nothing wrong with married people having friends of the opposite sex, but many consider it a serious temptation. From what I've seen, temptation begins and ends in one's heart. If it's dealt with there, the external circumstances don't matter.