One of the 10 Commandments

[MystyRock]

This is one that requires action: Honor your Father and Mother. This verse came up in a daily devotional and I started thinking about the meaning.

I never knew my father - he didn't want anything to do with me. The only time I saw him was at his funeral; I was 22. Are we to honor our parents after they die? How do we do that? And how would we honor someone we don't know?

 

[URA]

I think it's still important to honor your parents after their death. There's a lot of directions to take this, but I'd say the most important & straightforward way to honor your parents is to do things that would make them proud. Whatever you're doing, do it well. Go for a good job, serve God with all your heart, and ask the Holy Spirit to remind you of your parents' advice that they'd like you to follow.

 

[Southernscotty]

Not holding negative feelings by forgiving him and maybe you could honor him by placing flowers at his headstone. I do not know the answer to this but that might be something :]

 

[Kenny'sID]

Kind of tough to honor someone who didn't want anything to do with you. Me? I'd probably do my best to forgive, move on, and try not to dwell on it at all because it sounds like there is nothing good at all *to* dwell on, and doing so would only bring grief.

 

[R. Hartono]

Your father whatever he did has gone forever n he Will face God's judment, just pray God Will forgive him n share Jesus love for him too

 

[Job3315]

This is one that requires action: Honor your Father and Mother. This verse came up in a daily devotional and I started thinking about the meaning.

I never knew my father - he didn't want anything to do with me. The only time I saw him was at his funeral; I was 22. Are we to honor our parents after they die? How do we do that? And how would we honor someone we don't know?

I believe there’s a hidden meaning behind each of the 10 commandments. Specifically the one about honoring your father and your mother is because if as you grow you learn to honor them, you’ll be able to also honor God when your independence comes.

I don’t hink we are honor dead people, I do thank the Lord for the impact they had in my life (if any) but when it comes to people dying I grieve the loss and end the season.

Pastor Robert Morris from Gateway Church has a great teaching explaining the 10 commandments and their meaning. It’s one of my favorires.

 

[Dave-W]

Reading the Rabbinic literature of the first century, that command was understood to mean you support them in their elderly retirement years. Our Lord picked up on that and blasted those who tried to find a way around it:

Mark 7:10 For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and your mother’; and, ‘He who speaks evil of father or mother, is to be put to death’; 11 but you say, ‘If a man says to his father or his mother, whatever I have that would help you is Corban (that is to say, given to God),’ 12 you no longer permit him to do anything for his father or his mother; 13 thus invalidating the word of God by your tradition which you have handed down; and you do many things such as that.”​

So do not speak badly of your father. Try to find what he did that was good, and talk about that. Forgive him for not being there for you as you grew up. Release him to the Lord. There are some other good ideas put here by previous posters. That is as much honor as you can do.

 

[Dave-W]

I believe there’s a hidden meaning behind each of the 10 commandments.

True, but it is not all that "hidden." Ancient Hebrew had several levels of meaning for everything, especially in poetic literature.

4 Levels of understanding Scripture - a Hebrew Perspective

 

[dreadnought]

This is one that requires action: Honor your Father and Mother. This verse came up in a daily devotional and I started thinking about the meaning.

I never knew my father - he didn't want anything to do with me. The only time I saw him was at his funeral; I was 22. Are we to honor our parents after they die? How do we do that? And how would we honor someone we don't know?

The best I can make of this is that we aren't supposed to speak any more negatively than we need to of our parents.