On the topic of Broken Families

[tunnelhckrat]

For the Past year my family has been in bitter conflict, Its mainly between my mother and my wife. The Fighting is progressivly worse and has a lot to do with what we think is and is not ok around my children. I believe that my parents are in the wrong but also that my wife is being somewhat unforgiving. I agree with her on all counts, Id rather not get into too much detail on some things as they are very personal and....well...this is the internet. im thinking that in order to save my health and give my children the best parental role model availible I will simply stop talking to my parents. I dont thin k this would be what Jesus wants but I can no longer allow my parents to be controling and bad influence of my kids. Im not sure what would be appropriate solution here.Has any Christians on here actually done this? What regrets can I expect? What do you think would be another method?

 

[Tigger45]

Genesis 2:20-25 But for Adam[f] no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs[g] and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib[h] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”

24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

Although the bible teaches that we are to honour our parents, once we get married that relationship supercedes the one with our parents. And that only multiplies when it is concerning kids = off spring. The bible also teaches that females are the weaker sex but not when it's concerning her children. What you see as unforgiving concerning "your" parents might be your wife's way of ensuring the wellbeing of her family. You are one with your wife. Put up a united front to anything that disrupts the wellness of your home. You don't need to dishonour your parents but you can set bounderies.

 

[tunnelhckrat]

Today I walked out front to find stuff I had left there (we've been homeless for the last year) on the front porch with Dirty little notes in every container, saying how Im a punk and my wife ruined the family. This seems really childish to me. So Im not exactly sure what to do now.

 

[tunnelhckrat]

Update:
Havent talked to my parents in 3 months now. I can forgive my mom for her near-psychotic mood swings and her stubborness ect. But I dont want her around bc of the kids. Idk what Jesus would have to say about this, any versus that may provide insight??

 

[dgiharris]

It sounds like your parents just never accepted that you grew up. It also sounds like your parents have other issues and probably need some counseling on their part...

Do your parents go to church at all? Are they religious?

I don't know that much scripture so can't help you out there. My only advice is to pray for the ability to accept that there are some things beyond your power to change. That, and you got to do what you got to do. And if you have to cut your parents out of your life for the sake of your children, then that is what you have to do.

Wish you the best of luck and hopefully, someone will be able to guide you with some scripture...

 

[If Not For Grace]

Money, Kids and In-laws are the 3 most common problems in ANY marriage.

A man shall leave his mother and cling to his wife...Set boundaries regarding all 3 and if someone breaks your boundaries-limited contact is the consequence. Not easy, but Simple.