OHHH!! So angry!!

[cookiebaker]

Last nite my family of origin (mom,dad, brother, sister and her family) were supposed to have a dinner at a restaraunt.

I didnt want to go, long story short, bc of how abusive/dysfunctional they are...dad is alcoholic, other family members overloook that and my sisteris very hostile to me, berates me, and thats unhealthy for daughter.

I didnt plan to go, and daughter went with a friend, whilethe family went to dinner. At the last minute while I was at work a family member called my daughter trying to get her to come. I had to leave work early, go pick her up and race across town to dinner. WHen we got there, after only 5 minutes, my sister and her family left. I was incredulous...i had left work early, drove 40 min across town, and she leaves as soon as we got there? My daughter became very depressed, dejected, and didnt eat...she was so hurt that right after we arrive, my sister didnt say hello even to my daughter, she didnt say hello to me, I had to make a point of saying "uh, HELLO..." since she was sitting right next to me and didnt even acknowledge my arrival.

Nobody in the family stood up for me or my daughter and said "Monique, you can't leave yet, they just got here..."

NOBODY in my family had the courage or concern that we had made a point of coming, only to have my sister's family leave w/o so much as a hello.


It is a sin to not stand up for someone when they are mistreated like that...I can't imagine just sitting there and not saying anything if somebody was abusive to another person.

Can you believe this? Who does that?????? Shouldnt SOMEBODY at the table spoken up and said to my sister "you can't leave already..they just got here..." ??????

 

[Gatorgal]

I do understand how you feel. But....I have really been trying to change my thinking. Can we have the mind of Christ? Yes, if we are saved we can have the mind of Christ, so put Christ in your situation. He was done a lot worse to than you. I know it hurts to be treated that way especially for your daughter. I encourage you to pray for that family memeber, I mean really hard. Be really positive to your daughter, don't let her see you upset over the situation. Have a good time with your family and don't worry about the others. God Bless you!

 

[rocklife]

I agree we need to remember Christ. But I would not sugarcoat this for your daughter. If she were my child, I would explain to her that is not nice and she should not copy that behavior. that's what I do with my son when others mistreat us, it helps to acknowledge that it wasn't nice how we were treated, but we should not copy wrong behavior back to others. I believe young people, children, also benefit from hearing you acknowledge it at least. And try not to bash your family, but you can be truthful about them. if they're mean, they're mean. and remind your child it's not good to be mean.

 

[ForAMomentIWillFly]

I agree with rocklife.

 

[NoddaProbBob]

I agree with what all you guys have said...but I also do understand what Cookiebaker has said.
I very much understand your frustration and anger at the situation.
I know what that feels like. To ask yourself, 'where is the justice in this?' I ask myself that alot....But I am going to strongly say, yes the other people at the table should have had the common decency to say something. And even if it wasn't for you, it should have been for your daughter. The issues between your family, are between you and your family. Not your daughter. As far as I know she hasn't done anything to deserve that kind of treatment...Overall, if nothing else, it was just plain rude that someone hadnt said something.

But hang in there....I just keep telling myself that somewhere, someplace along the line, there will be justice....I know there will be...
Stay strong
J.j