Oh PLEASE help me

[Mindi.Heart]

I am 17 years old, I have been a Christian for 7 years, and i have made a mistake.

My boyfriend Sam and i had just started our "physical" Relationship and we've been VERY careful BUT today i have taken two pregnancy tests both of which are positive.

Sam demands an Abortion, i am stuck. I w=have no clue what to do and i'm scared. PLease help me

 

[aunt_kelly]

Get yourself to a doctor, then decide how you feel about being pregnant. Don't base your decisions off of your boyfriend's "demands". If you decide to have the baby (and I hope you do, even if you give him/her up for adoption), it's YOUR decision, not his. I will pray for you to make a wise and sound decision and for the fear that you must be experiencing.

 

[MyEverything]

I think you should seek God's input instead of your boyfriend's.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

I know this is your boyfriend's child too, but he has no right to "demand" you to do anything. I highly urge you to ignore his abortion idea. Get to a doctor, talk to your parents, talk to his parents. I was 17 and pregnant too, if you need anything, I keep my PM box clean

 

[Sojourner1]

Do some research online before you make a decision that you may regret later on. I did a quick search and found a good site here. I know that our church will pay for pregnancy care and delivery and help with adoption for unwed mothers. I'm sure there are churches in your area that would be willing to do the same thing.

 

[white dove]

I am 17 years old, I have been a Christian for 7 years, and i have made a mistake.

My boyfriend Sam and i had just started our "physical" Relationship and we've been VERY careful BUT today i have taken two pregnancy tests both of which are positive.

Sam demands an Abortion, i am stuck. I w=have no clue what to do and i'm scared. PLease help me

Hi *huge hug*


There is a lot of information and resources out there, please know that. No matter your choice, there is support and help. This is not a hopeless thing, not at all. Like those who've said it, please go to the doctor immediately. You need to make sure these are not just false positives. If you don't feel comfortable going alone and if your mother is a supportive type I would recommend you go with her or a close friend if she is not an option. Reach out to females closest to you, but preferably those who are older and more mature. Disregard your boyfriend for right now. Males can be the worst counsels in situations like this. Chances are, he's still in shock and will continue to be in shock months down the line. You have to do for you and the baby right now if you are indeed pregnant. If you have a homechurch, I would recommend you seek some counsel with a female in your Women's ministries.

Please know that being scared is 100% normal. Even women who've planned to get pregnant find themselves scared when they find out. You are not alone. I would take Crystal up on her offer for pm's. Nothing helps like someone who has been there already. I am unmarried and pregnant right now, but I am far older than you are so there are some differences. I am here for you regardless though.

As I've said, there is a lot of information out there available for you, but please know that this is a huge decision, no matter your choice. Please don't rush into anything and as a fellow believer, I would advise you to pray to God about it. Everything. Get it all out there. You can do this.

 

[~Lynz~]

i was in your shoes 5 years ago. 17, pregnant, not knowing what to do.

you need to deside what you want. your boyfriends input doenst matter being honest.

the best advice that i was given when i fell preganat was from a women at church and this helped me alot especally when i felt that i had let my self down as a christian.

"remember everbody sins. the only difference with yours is other people can see it."

please pm me im more than willing to talk to you about it all.

and btw i totally agree with Crystal. me and her spoke a few years ago bout being young an pregnant. (if she remembers me i was a different name then.) we both have different storys we went bout thing slightly diffferently. but a friendly person who knows what your going through me or/and crystal would be more than happy to talk to you. the more u talk the better youll feel.

 

[MoNiCa4316]

I am 17 years old, I have been a Christian for 7 years, and i have made a mistake.

My boyfriend Sam and i had just started our "physical" Relationship and we've been VERY careful BUT today i have taken two pregnancy tests both of which are positive.

Sam demands an Abortion, i am stuck. I w=have no clue what to do and i'm scared. PLease help me

please don't get an abortion firstly, it's important for Christians to not have a physical relationship till marriage... but now that this has happened, now you should think of the child. It's already a human person with a soul... it's not just a bunch of cells. This has always been the Christian teaching and it's also proven scientifically. In addition, abortion is a dangerous procedure for you, and almost all women who've had abortions regret them.. I know someone who's had abortions, and she now really wishes she hadn't. There are physical as well as psychological, emotional, and most importantly spiritual effects.. it is a sin. If you can't keep the child for whatever reason, please consider giving him or her up for adoption. prayers for you.. I know this must be a really difficult time, but I hope that God leads you to people who can help you. You are not alone.. and DON'T let your boyfriend pressure you into anything. God bless

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HBV-eb5VYxw

 

[Scorponok]

Someone who "demands" such a personal and difficult choice on another person should have no input in any of this. Regardless, of his role.

Ignore what Sam wants for the time being. Follow what everyone else has said, Talk to your parents first and foremost. They are your support system that you need right now and can help you out. They can support you and go with you to an appointment to your Dr's appointment to make sure you really are pregnant and if you are what steps are next needed.

I'm not going to give my opinion on what I think you should do, It's not my place. But whatever you choose to do please think it through. Think every choice completely through and do it only if you feel comfortable doing it and knowing you can handle your choice. Don't do it because someone "demands" you do to do it. Do it because you feel it's the best choice in this.

Please tell someone close to you so you can have a support system.

You also did not make a mistake, you made a bad choice. We all do. The difference is in how you handle the situation and what you do about it.

 

[gracechick]

How are u now? I hope you've found a trusted mature Christian to confide in if you don't feel comfortable telling your parents. You've not done the unpardonable sin ask forgiveness from the Lord and walk on. My aunt works at a Christian pregnancy center and I believe you could find someone compassionate and helpful.

Don't let your Bf pressure you into a decision that will affect the rest of your life. Your baby is living and real person and if you feel you cannot care for the baby now then open adoptions are good.

Please don't suffer in silence get loving help. And btw both of my sister's children are adopted and I always thank the Lord for such a loving and mature mother who gave birth and then gave their children to a couple who could not have their own. I don't even think of them as adopted, but every bit a part of our family.

 

[dawnsday]

Everyone has good advice above. I was a teen and pregnant too. Don't let ANYONE tell you what to do here, it is between you and God.

I would insist you remember one thing...Your pregnancy is not a sin. Your BABY is not a sin.

What you may have done, that got you pregnant, may have been wrong, but the baby is a blessing, no matter what. You should feel NO GUILT for having this baby.

The only difference between you and the millions of other christian girls who had sex, is you can't hide it. That too, can be a blessing.

But do not let ANYONE shame you, for having this child.

 

[white dove]

Everyone has good advice above. I was a teen and pregnant too. Don't let ANYONE tell you what to do here, it is between you and God.

I would insist you remember one thing...Your pregnancy is not a sin. Your BABY is not a sin.

What you may have done, that got you pregnant, may have been wrong, but the baby is a blessing, no matter what. You should feel NO GUILT for having this baby.

The only difference between you and the millions of other christian girls who had sex, is you can't hide it. That too, can be a blessing.

But do not let ANYONE shame you, for having this child.

Amen.