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[Missinyou]

Hello to everyone,
I posted on the Christian forum last night but was directed to this one this morning. This is the one I was looking for anyway. My wife passed away from IPF on June 4th, after a five year battle and a left lung transplant, and I've about milked the support out of family and friends by now... At least I don't want to make myself a pest. I guess I'm just looking for those other people who really know the meaning of the word "final", and how hard it is to make yourself believe it, when your heart is trying to tell you that she's just away somewhere and you can call her on the phone or she'll be home in a few days. It's really hard to put a description on "final" until you've lived with it. I and my wife both have lost our parents through the years but we always had each other to lean on... Now there is just the Lord, and believe me... I've really given him a workout over the last few months. Anyway I'm just looking forward to getting to know all of you.

Missinyou

 

[c1ners]

I'm sorry for your loss Missinyou. It's so hard to lose a spouse when they have been your other half for so long. For years I avoided going to my husbands buriel site because I would have to come face to face with the "for real". It was much easier living my life thinking that any day he would come back home. But he never did, and finally after almost 20 years, I have accepted that.

I pray it will not take you as long. Life is too short. And I'm sure your wife would want you to be happy.

 

[JeanR]

Hi, Missinyou

I lost my husband eight weeks ago, very suddenly. He wasn't sick at all. The loneliness is so deep, deeper than anything I could have ever imagined. My kids are wonderful, but they don't take the place of a soulmate. I find comfort that he has laid down his treasures at the feet of our Lord and I know he is happy there. But, that doesn't help with those of us left here. The grief is more than can you can bear at times. I have turned to tell him something so many times and it always seems to happen when I least expect it.

Stay with us here at this forum. I have found comfort here knowing that others know how I feel.

 

[faithgoeson]

I'm sorry for your loss. I am probably the youngest here, but possibly the most experienced widow. My husband has been gone 5 yrs. 7 months now. You can take comfort in knowing that none of us here will ever be bothered by you. We understand your pain, and we are all here for you. You've come to a good place. God bless you.

Val

 

[ComesoonmyLORD]

Welcome Missinyou, I lost my wife in January 2006 after a 51/2 year fight with breast cancer. I have 4 children that I'm raising as a single father now. I know that your days are hard right now, that the storm has rough seas and a bitter wind, but I will tell you to hold to God's unchanging hand. Though the days are dark there are calm seas and warm sunshine somewhere out there on the horizon. Remember that His plan is Perfect in every way, you'll ask yourself the "Why?" question many times and most days you won't get the answer you're looking for. God has a purpose for you brother. We are strengthened by our trials. It makes us a better witness to others in the storm. Though my storm clouds often still appear, there are many days that God's warm breath warms my face again. His promises are true, I know you probably know that already, but it's still hard I know. There are many different people on this forum and each have a unique story to tell, but we are always here for you and with you! I'm praying for you! Press On!

 

[Missinyou]

I want to thank all of you for the warm welcome you have given me and for all the blessings. I hope you don't mind but I would like to share my wife's last moments with you. For some reason it gives me comfort to tell this. When they disconnected the life support her heart just slowly quit beating and she just drifted away from us like a leaf on a pond. I looked outside, and even though it had rained most of the day, the clouds had dissapated and the sun was shining down from a clear blue sky, spreading warmth over the earth. There was a gentle breeze rustling the leaves on a tree outside her hospital room window and I thought to myself, that if it's this beautiful where her final journey started, there is nothing in our human minds that can come close to imagining how beautiful it will be where it ends. And I said to myself, it's a good day to go home.... Yes, it's a good day to go home.

Missinyou

 

[Ruth~]

I'm very sorry for your loss. I do understand what you are talking about whe it comes to "final". It's so hard to accept.

Wishing you a Merry Christmas.

 

[Nelle]

Neat! I joined CF today and just happened across the widowed section. Glad to find you, my DH died 2 years ago of a heart attack - he was 49. Blessings to all.
Nelle

 

[faithgoeson]

Neat! I joined CF today and just happened across the widowed section. Glad to find you, my DH died 2 years ago of a heart attack - he was 49. Blessings to all.
Nelle

Glad to see you here. I am truly sorry for your loss. This board isn't super busy, but we are here for eachother as needed always. God bless you.

 

[JeanR]

Welcome, Nelle

My husband died of a heart attack nine weeks and 40 minutes ago. Each day has been so hard, but my new friends on this forum have helped me so much. I hope you find comfort here.

Jean

 

[Nelle]

Oh, Jean, you poor poor baby.

When I think of the state I was in nine weeks after DH's death, I hurt for you. I will NOT give you any platitudes at all except to say I am so very very sorry, dear girl.

The two-year anniversary of my DH's passing was Sept. 2006, and I actually am at the point where I have days with five or ten minutes of sanity, so that's progress for me.

Prayers for you and all those who miss your beloved husband.

n

Welcome, Nelle

My husband died of a heart attack nine weeks and 40 minutes ago. Each day has been so hard, but my new friends on this forum have helped me so much. I hope you find comfort here.

Jean

 

[Nelle]

Glad to see you here. I am truly sorry for your loss. This board isn't super busy, but we are here for eachother as needed always. God bless you.

Wow, thank you for the welcome. Sigh. My heart goes out to you too. I commend you for homeschooling your kids.

Blessings,
n

 

[ComesoonmyLORD]

Welcome to CF Nelle. I think you'll find that you are among friends here. Press On!

 

[ezylemon]

I was on my knees in prayer the other day and told God I was so sad that my marraige was changed forever and it will never be the same.
He reassured me that it will be perfected when I meet with my husband again. Our marraige was just a shadow of what is to come. How awesome to think of it that way. Thanks God!

 

[faithgoeson]

Wow, thank you for the welcome. Sigh. My heart goes out to you too. I commend you for homeschooling your kids.

Blessings,
n

Wow. I don't get encouraged for homeschooling very often. Thank you so much. You have no idea how much that one little sentence means to someone who struggles to keep doing what the Lord has called them to do.

 

[Missinyou]

Home schooling is bad???? We have a friend who home schooled their two children. One is now an RN at St.Judes in Boise,Idaho and the other just applied for position as a commercial pilot for Horizon Air, a subsidary of Alaska Airlines. Hang in there. Your kids will someday realize just how lucky they are.

 

[Nelle]

Thanks for the welcome, ComesoonmyLORD. Glad to find friends. Have a good wkd.

Nelle

Welcome to CF Nelle. I think you'll find that you are among friends here. Press On!

 

[Nelle]

Well, God bless you, dear. Do you know other homeschoolers nearby who are supportive?

My two are in their late 20s now, so that's a non-issue for me at this stage of life. When they were young, I had them in Christian school for a time and then in public school. And I prayed for them all the while. The Lord was very faithful to see them through.

I greatly admire homeschooling parents and think a great service is done to children educated that way. I encourage you to find more support for homeschooling moms, sweetie.

Blessings,
Nelle

Wow. I don't get encouraged for homeschooling very often. Thank you so much. You have no idea how much that one little sentence means to someone who struggles to keep doing what the Lord has called them to do.

 

[ComesoonmyLORD]

I have worked as a Maint. Supervisor for the last 6 months at one of our local public schools, and I will tell all of you who are homeschoolers to PRESS ON! I was so amazed at the many different struggles that are present to our youth in public schools that are absent from home schooling. Yes, they can survive, but if you are home schooling, your children are not being subjected to so many things that the evil one has placed in the lifes of our young ones. I commend you and pray for your endurance. Press On!

 

[faithgoeson]

Home schooling is bad???? We have a friend who home schooled their two children. One is now an RN at St.Judes in Boise,Idaho and the other just applied for position as a commercial pilot for Horizon Air, a subsidary of Alaska Airlines. Hang in there. Your kids will someday realize just how lucky they are.

I imagine my kiddos will some day know what a sacrifice it was for me to train them up in the ways of the Lord. Not just financially, but emotionally and physically as well. I am with my children 24 hrs. a day, 7 days a week. There are no breaks from it. And, I love it! God has been very good to help me to appreciate the gift of homeschooling. I know my children will be warriors for Christ, and that makes me very happy.