Not feeling good enough/self-esteem issues

[jennab85]

Please don't think I'm weird. I have had self-esteem problems most of my life and I feel like I'm not good enough to be apart of anything or things that my friends and relatives have been apart of. I have never been asked to be in weddings, baptisms, similar events. I always had some hope that friends or relatives would include me but no one as ever included me. I feel ugly and feel worthless to friends and family. I have tried many times to always be there for them and I have done my best to show that I care for them a lot.

I'm starting to hate them all and I don't want to. I wish they would all just tell me I'm not and I was never good enough to be apart of their special events. All I ever wanted to feel special at least a few times in my life.

Please anyone here let me know if they are or have been in the same situation

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

I haven't been in the same situation, but I've had some of the same feelings. Just wanting to be special - to be included in things that I'm sometimes not included in.

I know how painful that feels.

 

[nycorthopedics]

I also sometime feel the same that no one like to be included me with them. But what to do even I don't know.

 

[jennab85]

I haven't been in the same situation, but I've had some of the same feelings. Just wanting to be special - to be included in things that I'm sometimes not included in.

I know how painful that feels.

I also sometime feel the same that no one like to be included me with them. But what to do even I don't know.

It is very painful and a lot of people who I talk to this about really don't understand how it is for me.

 

[1watchman]

Please don't think I'm weird. I have had self-esteem problems most of my life and I feel like I'm not good enough to be apart of anything or things that my friends and relatives have been apart of. I have never been asked to be in weddings, baptisms, similar events. I always had some hope that friends or relatives would include me but no one as ever included me. I feel ugly and feel worthless to friends and family. I have tried many times to always be there for them and I have done my best to show that I care for them a lot.

I'm starting to hate them all and I don't want to. I wish they would all just tell me I'm not and I was never good enough to be apart of their special events. All I ever wanted to feel special at least a few times in my life.

Please anyone here let me know if they are or have been in the same situation

Dear friend, take this same story to God (Mt. 6:6) and He will help you. He is present always, but He waits to be asked to come in (kind of like your own situation). It makes God sad when we don't want Him in our life.

Remember, that "God heareth not sinners, but if anyone be a worshipper of God ....Him He heareth" (John 9:31). How can one be a worshipper of God? It is only by receiving God's beloved Son, the Lord Jesus. Do you have Him in your heart?

If you live for the Lord and are devoted to Him, He will bless you, and it won't matter what others think. Get involved with real devoted Christians in a sound church group, and you will be happy. Write me personally if you like.

- 1 Watchman

 

[1watchman]

Every week there are similar posts to the one on this thread, and this reply I made above should be applicable to many here. It is nice to be popular, but if we have the Lord and His love in our heart, it will spill over to others, then we will see others warm to us, and it may encourage many. Remember the common saying: "ask not what others can do for you, but what you can do for others". That can change one's outlook.

Even those who seem popular and having a great time are oftentimes sad people who are trying hard to get in the swing of things. Only a happy walk with the Lord Jesus will give real and lasting peace and joy. Be sure you find it!

- 1 Watchman

 

[Andy Pandy]

This year 2 people I trusted did something rather cruel on my birthday, I have struggled for years with self esteem and even tho when I think clearly I know I have done nothing wrong, I still wake every day wondering what I did to harm them.

It takes me back to when I was a child, I am being punished for something, so I must have done something.

 

[Landlordrescue]

Please anyone here let me know if they are or have been in the same situation

I hear you and sympathize.

I was told I could never had a baby. Then I met someone and we had one. It was a miracle.

Since then he refuses to work (I support the family) and we are not close. It puts me in a confusing and hurtful mood most of the time.

 

[SMacGregor]

This emotional “baggage” can be a real curse. We can often let it hang around in our mind creating further negativity.

Express your feelings and talk about events. This can be done with friends or with a counsellor. Look at the consequences of internalising or pushing down negative feelings.

Best regards,
Sandy MacGregor

 

[Cute Tink]

I don't think you are weird at all. I have also never been asked to be a part of another's special event. Even my supposed "best friend" since high school never invited me out when she would go places with friends. It hurts to be disregarded like that.

All I can say is that the way people treat you is a statement about them, not about you (and I know that is hard to internalize - I'm still working on it).

After almost 33 years, I finally have friends who actually do want to go places with me, who do want to spend time with me and who actually check on me to make sure I'm okay. It helps, but the past still hurts.