Not Considered (Venting a little)

[JadeRisley]

This may sound pathetic and like I'm just whining, but it's something that has begun to bother me in the last few years. Because of my poor health that I was born with, I'm unable to work and forced to live with my parents. I greatly appreciate what they do to support me, but I feel like because I don't work or have a vital role at this point in my life that I'm not to be considered or concerned with.

I have a lot of trouble sleeping, partly due to my health, but when I have a bad night or don't sleep they really don't care. If I'm upset at something, I'm not allowed to express my emotions or slightly raise my voice in anger(not at them, but at what has upset me) and are quick to correct me as if I'm 5 years old and just threw a tantrum. Yet if they have a bad night or something goes wrong they're allowed to yell, complain, get extremely upset and slam their fist against the walls.

I'm a 25 year old adult, I've gone through a great deal of hell with just my health, which I can't control what I'm born with, have huge anxiety issues, very limited in socializing, I'm alone as neither give little to no comfort and sometimes I just want to cry, release my emotions that have all been bottled up for years, let out some steam and be treated with at least some consideration for my situation.

I have not slept well for months now, yesterday very few and was in so much pain my flesh side just wanted to die. I'm recovering, but my bodies fluid system isn't balancing and all I want to do is sleep. I express myself and all my mom says is "You really need to consider your dad is trying to sleep." I wasn't yelling, my voice slightly raise cause she's at the other end of the room so she can hear me, I didn't bang on anything or walls so what the heck??? Why am I so unimportant in this way? Why am I being lectured when I'm in severe physical pain, exhausted, dead tired? Why won't my parents show concern for me? I'm not a kid, I'm not a teenager, nor acting like one. Am I missing something? Should I be expected to just shut up, never talk about or express my pain, frustrations or situations? I don't see that anywhere in God's word.

 

[AgapeBible]

I am 33 and I live with my parents, but my problems are more mental than physical. I congratulate you on bravely enduring physical pain and poor health. I am not sure how to help you. Are your parents saved Christians? I know sometimes that does not make a difference. My parents sometimes have loud arguments too. Is there anyone in your church who could help? Do you get social security disability checks for your bad health? Could you find a government program using social security disability money for your own apartment to get away from your parents? I suppose it would be difficult. Try to get your parents to listen to you. There is nothing wrong with expressing your feelings and voicing your objections about a bad situation. God wants us to be happy, so if you are unhappy, you need to tell someone and do something about it. God's word does not tell us we have to suffer in silence.

 

[JadeRisley]

I am 33 and I live with my parents, but my problems are more mental than physical. I congratulate you on bravely enduring physical pain and poor health. I am not sure how to help you. Are your parents saved Christians? I know sometimes that does not make a difference. My parents sometimes have loud arguments too. Is there anyone in your church who could help? Do you get social security disability checks for your bad health? Could you find a government program using social security disability money for your own apartment to get away from your parents? I suppose it would be difficult. Try to get your parents to listen to you. There is nothing wrong with expressing your feelings and voicing your objections about a bad situation. God wants us to be happy, so if you are unhappy, you need to tell someone and do something about it. God's word does not tell us we have to suffer in silence.

Unfortunately there isn't really anything I can do at this point. Mainly I was just venting, haven't slept well and that makes me irritable. Because of my health I haven't been able to go to church for years. I also live in an area where it snows a lot and foggy during the late fall and winter seasons, so dangerous to be out during this time. I have tried getting disability, one company rejected my application and others want into my parents bank accounts and my dad is very paranoid about government conspiracies and crap so that isn't happening. I'm trying to get S.S.I. but I was told it could take several months to a year before I could get anything.

My parents are Christians, though I know no one is perfect and the two of them have their own set of stress and personal issues/struggles, but I just wish I was considered to a certain extent.

 

[Inkachu]

Jade - do you have a support system outside of your parents? Friends, church family, doctors, etc? You definitely need to be getting out of the house, getting involved in other activities, and having a social life; your health problems shouldn't prevent you from doing that! Even if you can only get out occasionally, most churches can arrange transportation for people who can't drive, and most states have paratransit (disabled public transit) so people like yourself can get around and out of the house. It's hard to know what's really going on in your family, because we don't know you or your parents, and we're only getting your side of the situation. But what I do know is that you need friends, you need a constructive, purposeful life (and you don't have to have a 9-to-5 job for that!), and you need to be reaching out for the many, many resources that exist for people like yourself.

Let me know if I can help, OK?

 

[JadeRisley]

Ignore this thread. I was just venting from not sleeping for days. I'm fine and need to focus on manging and improving my health before I can get out of the house. Apologies!