Not a Happy Valentine's

[InHisCare]

Is it just me or is Valentine's just about the worse holiday for a widow? Couples dinner at church, listening to all the plans your married friends have, going down the isle at the store and seeing all the cards and gifts, it's all a bit too much. I seem to be getting bitter. I shared with a friend how overwhelmed I was with some volunteer activity I am involved in. She actually told me that I should put my time to good use since I didn't have a husband to care for. I wanted to scream "Please don't remind me of the obvious!" Everyone always seem ready to remind me that Christ is my husband. To hear that from a married person doesn't bring much comfort.

 

[dellinw]

You are so right!!! Valentines is not a happy holiday for widows. If you go with other couples, you are out of place, if you go by yourself, your out of place. So, I have just been staying at home crying. It's only been 8mo. on the 13th for me. It seems like 8yrs since he has put his arms around me and told me he loved me. Only the good Lord will see me thru this valley called grief.
Helen

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I know people don't mean it, but they just don't know what to say so they end up saying somethings that are so insensitive. I recently went to a women's brunch and the speaker was speaking on "How to be a Godly wife". I joked with the other women that I just came for the food because I didn't need to learn how to be a Godly wife, and one women said to me "Oh it doesn't matter" and I told her "Yes it does matter and that was very insensitive!". I mean really....let her go and lose her husband and then tell me it doesn't matter! The speaker also told me "Oh everyone can benefit from what I am going to share" afterwards I disagreed with her (in my heart but I didn't tell her). I KNOW they don't mean to offend, but it would be better to say nothing in my opinion. It's been 3 years for me, but I still am lonely and I have kids to raise. I can empathize with you. And we all know Christ is important in our lives, but we still need physical touch now and then too.