Noisy Hallmates

[fragglerocker]

Any of you have really loud neighbors in your dorm? I have a single room, and I thought I'd never have to deal with noise issues again since it's a floor of mostly single rooms, but the girl in the room next to me is very noisy! She's constantly screaming into her phone at what is I assume her boyfriend, always yelling about him cheating on her...other times I hear her crying very loudly. Right now she's on the phone crying and screaming and I hear very clearly every word she says. This is so bothersome! I don't really need to hear her personal problems! Then other times, maybe two or three times a week, I hear what seems to be her and her boyfriend's intimate episodes...and I certainly don't desire to hear that!

I guess I'm wondering, anyone else have to deal with a noisy hallmate? What did you do, or would you do, to try to get a change made? I've put up with her drama through the (concrete!) wall for six months now, and it's getting on my nerves! But I hate confrontation and I don't want to upset her, so, what would be a good way to ask for her to have some more privacy?

 

[Moluku]

I did have noisy hallmates when I was living on campus. I just told the RA on the floor about them and the problem was solved. I also dealt with them myself by whipping open my door onto the hallway on a drunk guy as well. I think he was more shocked by me than I was him.

 

[Boss_BlueAngels]

You can either go to the RA and ask that they say something... or just strike up a chat and somehow mention that you can hear everything.

I remember being on the second (of 3) floors and ALWAYS hearing the chairs above our room scraping accross the floor. One day I burst out laughing as I heard the chair screech, then a pause of silence, and this loud crash as some glass product hit the tile floor! Silence... then a curse.

That year I didn't have to put up with other dormmates, but "other" sounds... we shared one wall with the garbage shoot... and our window faced the loading dock and would wake up at 6:00 AM every morning to the wonderful sound of trucks backing up.


Unfortunately unpleasant noises are just a part of dorm life! lol Good luck with your situation though, hope you can clear things up wih her.

 

[fishstix]

I've definitely been there. Sometimes, talking to the person will solve the problem - they might not realize how much you can hear through the walls. Other times, reporting them to the R.A. is necessary. Occasionally, multiple reports to the R.A. are necessary. My dorm had a rule in place that allowed the R.A. to issue fairly large fines to people who continued to be noisy after being officially warned a couple of times. If your dorm doesn't have such a rule, you could suggest it to the R.A. or to one of the people who is in management, such as a dean of residence or a building manager.

 

[tamtam92]

I've learned patience too... because i knew it was only for a short time (5 weeks)... I was in england with 3 other french people, each in a single room. My neighbour was one of them, so i try to tell him his music was too loud, but he had difficulties to understand it. And moreover he was quite touchy, so i didn't insist.
I think God gave me a lot of patience, i wouldn't have bear it alone.

 

[Diane_Windsor]

I guess I'm wondering, anyone else have to deal with a noisy hallmate? What did you do, or would you do, to try to get a change made? I've put up with her drama through the (concrete!) wall for six months now, and it's getting on my nerves! But I hate confrontation and I don't want to upset her, so, what would be a good way to ask for her to have some more privacy?

Confront her, and explain to her the problem. If that does not solve it then go to the RA.

DIANE