No Support?

[Gwen'sMom]

I have been SI'ing for the last year. My husband is absolutely no support to me. Are there any other SI'ers who are not supported by their spouses or families? He won't even take the time to learn about this problem I have. I know it probably scares him.

 

[HolyOne87]

well, im not..but thats mainly because they dont know..my friends dont really support me anymore either..they gave up rather quickly on me..mainly because they didnt understand the situation at all...they just kept assuming and assuming.
Im sorry that your husband does that to you..If you need support, you know everyone on this board will support you 110%!
I will pray for you and your husband. I will hope that your husband comes around and decides to learn about the problem you have and learn with it in an open mind.

*hugs to Gwensmom*

 

[BeautifulWorshipper]

People don't know how much of a shock it is to find out someone is hurting themselves delibretly I'm sure he's just shocked and trying to get his head round it, also reasure him ts not his fault, alot of people think its down to them and feel awfuln because of it

 

[pockleberry]

I don't have any support. When people first found out they tried to force me to stop when that didn't work they gave up and now I think they asume it is just something I am always gonna do. I know I should be trying to stop for myself but knowing that no-one expects I can stop makes me believe that I can't. My mum tried to understand a bit at first but she just couldn't understand it...I agree with what the others said tho he is probably just freeked out by it, maybe you could get him a booklet or print something off for him and leave it somewhere for him to read...don't know if that would help or not, it's just an idea...

 

[angelkiss]

As others have already mentioned, people that don't understand are overwhelmed at the thoughts of a loved-one SI'ing. They feel threatened, or angry, or hurt, or all of the above and it's hard for them to accept this behavior.
You do have support right here.
If you ever need to talk please feel free to pm me.
Praying for you and your hubby.

 

[LazeyWinde]

I know how you feel too... my Dad freaks out and my mother gets disgusted and forces a change of subject when I even mention self harm.
*hugs*
But this forum is great for support,and I hope your husband comes around.

 

[Sisof8]

I just posted this title somewhere else, maybe I should just post a new link for it . Self-Injury;
By: Edward T. Welch
is a like 20 page 2dollar booklet my Bible study leader read on my behalf (like she read it to understand me) and I bought for my Dad, but he never read it. It is amazing what a good job he does.