A man can father a child and then run away. A woman could have a one night stand and only know the man's first name and then never see him again. The woman then would be left with a baby and the man would have no resposiblity.
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Then you simply would not be the woman for me. I also don't want kids because the courts impose so much on the man and the women are largely not held accountable. If the woman wanted help raising the kid then she should stay with the man (unless genuine abuse can be proven in a court of law). Why should a man have to pay out for a relationship he no longer derives any benefit from unless he willingly left it without a good cause (good causing being sexual neglect) or if he was genuinely abusing his spouse.
I think a prenuptual agreement could be good and then don't have any kids. That is the ideal for me.
Then you simply would not be the woman for me. I also don't want kids because the courts impose so much on the man and the women are largely not held accountable. If the woman wanted help raising the kid then she should stay with the man (unless genuine abuse can be proven in a court of law). Why should a man have to pay out for a relationship he no longer derives any benefit from unless he willingly left it without a good cause (good causing being sexual neglect) or if he was genuinely abusing his spouse.
I think a prenuptual agreement could be good and then don't have any kids. That is the ideal for me.
That's fine. Not everyone does want a marriage relationship. But people who don't want a marriage relationship need to own up to it, rather than stringing others along with empty promises they never intend to keep. This thread originated with something that sounds like one side wanted marriage, the other did not. That's fine. But the only solution I see to such a situation is to break up and move on, because neither side is getting or giving what they should.
Also, I vehemently disagree with your viewpoint on distribution of resources and such in a divorce and the necessity of prenuptual agreements in general (although maybe in some cases they are handy). However, I can agree to disagree, since this is not a debate thread.
So this is really the crux of the issue, because marriage is overwhelmingly in favor of women, why wouldn't most women want it?
I find it very awkward from him to go to my friends' without me, I feel like I shouldn't have introduced him. My friends like him a lot as he's funny, but my view is that he's a sad clown.
As time goes by, he acts more and more like a parasite. The worst thing is that he always asks for sex. He knows I am against sex outside marriage as it keeps me away from God's Will.
I tried so many times to break up and to make him leave but he doesn't even move.
2 weeks ago I was telling him how irresponsible and selfish his behaviour was. As an answer he slapped me in the face and then came back to apologize.
I really don't know how to make him leave. He has nowhere else to live, but I am really feeling helpless.
Some of my friends told me he was depressed, and he talks about suicide when we argue.
I did everything but he will neither marry me nor leave.
I'm no expert, and I have not actually been in such a situation myself, but I have watched similar situations in my family in terms of a husband's bad behavior toward his wife, and I've heard about a similar situation from several friends of mine who did live through something similar in terms again of the man's behavior. What you just described in this particular post, sounds a lot like abuse. You could call the cops on him. If he's slapping you in the face and using suicide threats to manipulate you, than that's abusive behavior and there are resources to help you get away from him. If you really want him gone from your home, not only could you report him for abuse but you could also formally evict him from your property. I'm not sure how to do either of those, but I would guess consulting a lawyer might be in your best interests. It doesn't sound like he's going to leave on his own, and if he stays not only are you prevented from moving on but things could escalate even more and become seriously dangerous for both of you.
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